I'm in love with a married man how do I get him to leave his wife?

I know what you are thinking but no it's not an ordinary relationship and I'm not some skank he picked up for a cheap thrill. The guy I'm with is my high school sweetheart and I've always been in love with him. Even after high school we have been off and on until he got some girl pregnant and had to marry her (his words not mines) but now they have 2 other kids as well but he says he doesn't really love her but he loves me which is why we started back seeing each other a couple of years ago.


He spends most of his time with me instead of with her and we even went on vacation together when he told his wife he was leaving town for business, I know I should feel bad about it but it really felt good to not have to sneak around and be able to go out in public without running the risk of bumping into his wife or someone else. He keeps telling me that he's going to leave her when the time is right but he still hasn't done it and we have been together for almost two years now. He was going to leave her before but she got herself pregnant so he couldn't leave her then but now the baby is like 4 months old. I asked him about it again but he keeps saying when the time is right. How do I get him to just get up and leave her so we can be together like it was meant to be? Since I know he is the one and always have ever since high school.I'm in love with a married man how do I get him to leave his wife?
This may be hard to hear...





But move on. The dude is NEVER going to leave his wife. Have you not seen pretty much every beaten woman movie ever made? This guy has the best set up ever. He has the security of a wife and kids, and he's got a chick that he can go and feel like he has no restrictions with. He's never going to leave her. And she can't ';Get herself pregnant';. HE got her pregnant, and he did it three times, so obviously he has SOME sort of connection and feeling for her.





It was a high school relationship. It wasn't meant to be. Move on. You deserve better than to just be someone on the side, which I know you think you aren't, but you are.





Kick him to the curb. He PICKED somebody else to marry. And if he DID leave his wife, who's to say he won't cheat on you? You'd always have to look over your shoulder.





Trust me, there are better guys out in the world. You just can't look for them, they'll find you.I'm in love with a married man how do I get him to leave his wife?
you = skank he picked up for a cheap thrill.
Tell him you will be responsible for his child support payments and you don't mind if his wife becomes the other woman now.
how would you like your husband to leave you for another women?
HOME WRECKER
your to funny! your a piece of @ss he is a pig I would tell his wife the whole story set the poor woman free so she can pick up the pieces of her life %26amp; find a man not a animal. please tell her
he won't. he feels more obligated to her and his kids than you. simple as that. as long as you stay around the better for him but believe me if you up and leave he'll still be right where he's at now.
You are wasting your time She didn't get herself pregnant. They actually did that together. They are clearly still sleeping together and I'm assuming he's sleeping with you. Ewww





You may think you are destined to be together, but he clearly doesn't as he would have made his move long ago. So when you say it's not an ordinary relationship, you are right. You are enabling this idiot to cheat on his wife. It's an affair, plain and simple.





Leave him alone and find someone of your own, preferably unattached.





Don't people who cheat have any conscience? What are you both doing to his poor wife. Eugghh
Yeah, I'm sure YOUR situation is totally different than the thousands of other women who get the line, ';I don't love her. I'm getting ready to leave her. Just wait a little longer.'; Why don't you tell him to work out his marriage or get a divorce? My guess is that he's not going to leave his wife because he doesn't want to get stuck with a huge child support bill every month. You're going to remain the piece on the side until you figure that out.
wow, your jumping off a plane and waiting for someone to catch you is a similie of your relationship, he has to know what he wants, you cant make him decide, you should tell him that he needs to make a decision and stop making you suffer and his wife is being lied to.You can also tell his wife and then she will really leave him and then you can step in.
Living in the past is the hint. The future is now.


Children are involved. He made a 'mistake' of putting his penis in someone and they have a child.


You deserve more than this.


A fresh start with a responsible, non-cheating male would be good for you.


You deserve better, don't you think?


I do.


P.S. If he cheats on her, 5 will get you 10 he will cheat on you. Never never never marry a cheater.
you are no good and sticking your nose into something that is not your concern,,, he is married period!! every man in the same situation does the same thing and keeps saying he will leave etc but never does,, he likes what hes has now and is stringing you along for sex... you are attempting to break up a marriage which is not your business... IF he ever divorces her then hes fair game,,, but now you should leave them alone.................she DID NOT GET HERSELF pregnant,,,, he was right there with her and wants a part of that childs life,,,
Girl, he is not going to leave his wife and kids for you. Why would you want to be with a man that would do that anyway. Besides, you can't build something based on trust out of betrayal. You are going to be the one who gets burned, I guarantee it. But you know that already.
It doesn't matter how long he has known you, you still are a skank it is just that he has known you longer. Make this a win win situation and tell the wife yourself so she can dump him and have a good life with out a cheater and it will be a test to see if he meant that he really wanted you.
llol...It always amazes me how these women think they are so special or their relationship is so different then any other affair....Give me a break!!!





Your story just like all the others is the same. He is not going to leave her. If it makes you feel better to keep telling yourself he will then so be it. I don't get how his wife ';gets herself'; pregnant..lol Im pretty sure he was involved in that! You need to move on and find a single man to torment!
The hard cold truth is that if he REALLY loved you, he would be with you, not her.





You can tell yourself all you want that your relationship is the ';real'; one and his relationship with her is just a sham, but actions speak louder than words. It's been a couple years, and he has made no effort to leave her, or even to prevent having any more children with her. You can call it love if your want, but the truth is that he is having his cake and eating it too - he can have fun with his girlfriend and have the wife and family as well, as long as no one puts their foot down.





Nothing will change until either you or she make a change. Tell him flat out that you're tired of playing second-string, and that you won't date him again or have any contact until he divorces her. he can make all the excuses he wants, but it's time for him to choose.
End it with him .As long as you keep giving him everything you will always be the other woman .If he realy cared about you he wouldnt keep having kids with the one he married .So tell him you are done untill he knows who he wants to be with ,and you will see from there .Either he is going to be relieved you are the one who ended it and he doesnt have to break your heart or just realize you are the one .
1. The other woman is hardly ever a skank, but someone who thinks the guy is actually in love with her. The reality is, most of the time, he's just in lust.


2. His wife didn't get herself pregnant. Your married boyfriend keeps having sex with his wife and that is how she got pregnant.


3. The time to leave his wife was right when he started seeing you a couple of years ago; when he told you that he doesn't really love her and he loves you.


4. He isn't going to leave his wife for you. If he was going to do it, it would have already happened. You make it so easy for him to have a romance and sex with you while he still maintains a marriage and has sex with his wife.


5. It's time for you to tell this man good-bye. If he ever becomes single in the future, you can re-explore your options .
She didn't get herself pregnant. He got her pregnant. It could have been you, but it wasn't. Dating and courting is a contest and people don't always play fair. I don't know what to tell you. I feel like, if he would dump his family for you, there will come a time your turn comes to get dumped for the next one making bigger promises. You need to fade out of the picture altogether, because there is no happiness to be had in it. The off and on after high school should have told you something. Leave him and his family alone. It is not meant to be you and him together. Start looking for a better relationship than that one.
Well I doubt she got herself pregnant. Sounds like he has it pretty good, a wife and family and a mistress which is exactly what you are. When the time is right is code for NEVER! Stop trying to destroy a family and find someone who isn't married. It doesn't make you more important if a man leaves his family for you. You become important when you do the right thing and find someone who hasn't pledged his love to someone else. Women like you need a lot of help and I for one don't mind saying so since you asked publicly! Good luck!
lmao, ';she got herself pregnant';, hmmmm, how does that work then.


He married her, he has kids by her, what do you have, hmmmmm i wonder who he truly loves.
Flash. She did not get herself pregnant. He and she got her pregnant - together. I am sure she did not get that way because he told her that he does not really love her. He has been stringing you along for years, and he probably has no intention of leaving her. They have 3 kids together. When are you going to get it? You are wasting your life on this man. You do not respect his marriage. You do not respect yourself. The time is never going to be ';right';, and if his wife eventually kicks him up the road, he will probably find some other woman to shack up with. If he really wanted to be with you, he would have left her long ago, not stayed and had 2 more kids with her. Do you not think that you deserve your own man who will love you and be true to you?
Hmmm, yet he managed to get her pregnant and marry HER(against his will according to him anyway-lol.) w/o thinking about you while doing it(or her)? No, the truth is this: He's having troubles with her right now and giving you some BS story about how he was made to marry her b/c she got pregnant. Married people do this to gain sympathy from you. Don't you realize that he's setting the stage here? You're letting him dictate how things are going to go. He knows he's got the wife at home and can have a sex partner whenever he needs or wants it. Why would he change anything? He doesn't see you as wife-material Hon, you're the ';fun girl,'; but that's it. You can draw little hearts with your names on all your notebooks all day long, but he's not going to marry you. Wake Up, he's not in love with you(and no, it doesn't matter that you're ';high school sweethearts,'; that was years ago. And he didn't marry YOU did he? If he loved you, he would've made a way for it to happen. He didn't!) , he wants more sex-that's it!





Even if you got him in the end, you'll be right where his wife is in 5 to 10 yrs-Remember, what comes around, goes around sweetie!
hiya


firstly do you love him or do you need him


secondly his wife didn't get herself pregnant


thirdly you can't get him to leave his wife,


he has to make up his own mind,and your only the mistress seems to me he likes it that way otherwise he would have left her before now.


he has the best of both worlds your the fun and his wife is the family.


find some-one single.
As a married woman myself and a mom, you have offended the hell out of me. It isn't up to you to make him happy. He is an adult and he can make big boy decisions. HE CHOSE to marry her without your help. He can choose to divorce her without your help. The right thing to do is to say '; I want nothing to do with you until your legally divorced on in the process of divorce'; Also, I would get some sort of proof.
He is never going to leave her for you. If you were ';the one'; than you'd be married to him not some other chick. Move on home wrecker. Just because you were in love back in the day doesn't make sleeping with a married man any less scandalous and disgusting.
You don't. You know you don't. Just because you want him to be different from every other married guy who swears that he'll leave his wife really, really soon doesn't make it so. She didn't ';get herself pregnant'; without help, and she's not holding a gun to his head to make him stay. You have to be the one brave enough to move on, or you'll be waiting until long after his kids are grown up.
I copied and pasted because I wanted to reply to you, so you see how illogical you sound.





I know what you are thinking but no it's not an ordinary relationship and I'm not some skank he picked up for a cheap thrill. ((((((((((So why are you defending yourself?))))))))





The guy I'm with is my high school sweetheart and I've always been in love with him. Even after high school we have been off and on until he got some girl pregnant and had to marry her (his words not mines) but now they have 2 other kids as well but he says he doesn't really love her but he loves me which is why we started back seeing each other a couple of years ago. (((((So getting her pregnant once wasn't enough for him? he doesn't love her, but he sure has fun in BED with her, that he got her pregnant again!)))))))








He spends most of his time with me instead of with her and we even went on vacation together when he told his wife he was leaving town for business ((((((((Are you also happy that while you are fking him his children are missing quality time with their father? if it was your children, how would u feel?)))))))))





, I know I should feel bad about it ( (((((((the BUT is irrelevant to anyone)))))))))





but it really felt good to not have to sneak around and be able to go out in public without running the risk of bumping into his wife or someone else. ((((((((( why are you choosing to be in a relatiohnship where you have to hide like a criminal?) )))))))))))





He keeps telling me that he's going to leave her when the time is right but he still hasn't done it and we have been together for almost two years now. He was going to leave her before but she got herself pregnant so he couldn't leave her then but now the baby is like 4 months old.





(((((((So she forced him to have an erection and put is penis inside her vagina, and move it, and even ejaculate? right? you are so kidding yourself, no one can make a man have sex unless he wants to **** that azz, no one can make him, OK!))))))))))))





I asked him about it again but he keeps saying when the time is right. How do I get him to just get up and leave her so we can be together like it was meant to be? Since I know he is the one and always have ever since high school. (((((((((Obviously he isn't the one, because you ARE being taken for a cheap ride, while he has fun at night with he wife, you dream to be with him, all i feel bad for is that poor lady that is clueless about her husband's actions, as for you, I feel only PITY BECAUSE you truly are scum, if he was meant to be with you, he would be man enough to tell that woman the truth instead of using both of u. Don't you feel a bit sick when he is with you, knowing he does the same to her? how can you call that love? if u truly loved him you wouldn't be able to be with him knowing he shares his body with someone else. BTW, do u have any clue as to what will happen to u if he leaves her? i'm giving u a hint.... the SAME, u will be in the same position, sooner or later.Are u that bad looking u can't get ur own man??????)))))))))))
You're only hearing the side of the story he wants you to hear. He made his choice, and you're not it. He's living and loving his wife (his #1 pick) and he's getting some nukkie with his #2, no strings attached. How did his wife get pregnant? Hello? He did it, and he enjoyed doing it. But heck ya, he's going to keep you in the side pocket as long as he can. Why wouldn't he? You've made it way too easy for him.





Don't believe him when he makes his wife out to be the villian. She's the victim. You need to move on. You're only ruining your life, his wife's life, and the kids' life. Doing anything less is very selfish and short-sighted on your part.
You are dumb if u are believing him. The man is married and not only has a child with the woman but has multiple children and yet u are still messing around with him. there is a key word in your problem MARRIED meaning he belongs to his significant other no matter the situation. he is using u ma u have to realize that now stop messing with him and find urself a better man...
Oh get real! He's not only married HER, but has CHOSEN to have MORE KIDS with her, and you two have had a relationship for ';...a couple of years...'; but he's made no move to either get separated or divorced? ';...He keeps telling me that he's going to leave her when the time is right but he still hasn't done it...';. Way to go being used.


';....she got herself pregnant...now the baby is like 4 months old'; Really? He hasn't figured out after the first two times how this happens? And what HE has to do to prevent it? More like he had the wife get pregnant to throw her of the scent of his AFFAIR with you.


';...How do I get him to just get up and leave her so we can be together like it was meant to be?...'; As far as he's concerned this IS how its meant to be - having a wife and kids at home, and you on the side. Otherwise he'd be taking the right actions to change this. His current ACTIONS speak far louder than any ';promises'; he might be making you.


Even if you did ';win'; him have you considered what you'd be getting? A man willing to cheat on his wife, to lie about where he is and what he's doing (and to whom), a man who will breed with someone he appears to have so little respect for, and with 3 kids to support, and NONE of that's going to change just because you end up with him instead - maybe.


If that's what you are willing to settle for, you would be getting just what you deserve.


***And know this - your ';high school sweetheart'; and you didn't have what it takes to make it earlier on either. YOU say it was always ';... have been off and on...'; BEFORE the pregnancy and the marriage, so even the dream you cling to isn't as real as you hoped.