if you is a gay relation with boy friend or girl friend in your lie about your life how would you feel in side and how would you come to them with love in careIf you kept lie to your man about life how would you come to the with love and true?
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Sunday, November 21, 2010
Pertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
So, if youve ever read the book ';why men love bitches'; you will totally understand ..but if you havent:
why men love bitches.. a ***** in this book is defined as not an actual mean person, but a woman who holds her own in the relationshp... she is always with a good guy because she doesnt take any crap and doesnt always say yes to her boyfriend.
many woman are the 'doormat.' we always hang out with our boyfriend when it is convenient for him... we are always waiting on their calls or texts... we are always complaining they dont have enough time for us... or they dont call us enough...
but the supposed '*****', does not cancel plans to hang out with her boyfriend... if hes late she makes other plans.... she sometimes keeps him wondering and doesnt answer calls... shes basically more relaxed about the relationship and seems to be worry free..
now i am the type of girlfriend who worries about everythingggg. so i just want to know..ive already read the book and understand the idea of how to make him come to you.. by being less available and whatnot.. but im such a mushy, lovey and open person it is hard for me to say no and hold my ground...
can someone give me any tips on how to be better at this? thanksPertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Get a little spine and try it in one situation. See how you like the results.
Women actually can have an opinion and care about standing up for it. Give it a go!Pertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Just do it.Gradually start following along the lines of the book.If he calls and decides to go out with friends.You go out and have fun.You may not be able to stop thinking about what he is doing.But he will definitely not be thinking of you.There is your strength.Think of him not catering to you.Show him how happy you can be without him.He will be all over you so you won't forget.Take a deep breath...and BE STRONG...
why men love bitches.. a ***** in this book is defined as not an actual mean person, but a woman who holds her own in the relationshp... she is always with a good guy because she doesnt take any crap and doesnt always say yes to her boyfriend.
many woman are the 'doormat.' we always hang out with our boyfriend when it is convenient for him... we are always waiting on their calls or texts... we are always complaining they dont have enough time for us... or they dont call us enough...
but the supposed '*****', does not cancel plans to hang out with her boyfriend... if hes late she makes other plans.... she sometimes keeps him wondering and doesnt answer calls... shes basically more relaxed about the relationship and seems to be worry free..
now i am the type of girlfriend who worries about everythingggg. so i just want to know..ive already read the book and understand the idea of how to make him come to you.. by being less available and whatnot.. but im such a mushy, lovey and open person it is hard for me to say no and hold my ground...
can someone give me any tips on how to be better at this? thanksPertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Get a little spine and try it in one situation. See how you like the results.
Women actually can have an opinion and care about standing up for it. Give it a go!Pertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Just do it.Gradually start following along the lines of the book.If he calls and decides to go out with friends.You go out and have fun.You may not be able to stop thinking about what he is doing.But he will definitely not be thinking of you.There is your strength.Think of him not catering to you.Show him how happy you can be without him.He will be all over you so you won't forget.Take a deep breath...and BE STRONG...
Any house wives out there?
So, since my hus is gone for a little bit for the service, I want to know some stuff, and now seems like an ideal time to think it over, since I have some time on my hands...
What are the most important things about being a GOOD house wife? Like short cuts ot keep your marriage strong and healthy with keeping love along with the stress of bills and average everyday stuff we all have to face? How is the best way to handle stress with family, in laws, bills, insecurities and just average humanity?
What is the best way to keep yourself in shape and looking good for your husband while managing perhaps a career, children(though, I have no children yet, I am a newly wedd but they are soon to come)?
What is the best way to keep your day organized and doing the whole wife thing and being happy? If your just a housewife what are the best ways of keeping yourself busy and happy instead of bored and anxious?
come on! you know you wanna help! lol Thanks ladies...(or men with good advice)Any house wives out there?
I have not been a house wife for very long, so I will admit that some days are a bit of a challenge because I'm use to the work atmosphere. But things that really help are getting up as usual like I would if I was going to work. TAKE A SHOWER and put your make up on. Even if your husband isn't home, you still look good for you. And when you can't focus around the house, go for a walk or jog to keep yourself in shape. I have a two year old, and it is really easy to forget to do things for myself some times. If I don't feel good about myself, then the house doesn't run as smoothly. So keep that in mind. Hope that helps. Any house wives out there?
I fell into the house wife situation a few months ago. It's lame at first, i got to spend more time with my kids and all but coming from a full time kick *** job to dusting and baking 24/7 was not what i had in mind for myself at this age. It took a while to find my groove but it's finally working for me. Right now i've started organizing photo's and book for some scrap booking projects and recipe books. I'm thinking about taking up sewing but we'll see later. As soon as my husband deploys i'm going back to school. I always hear people say that being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world, well thats complete garbage. Just give it sometime and you'll find what works for you
I managed a full time career and brought up one child, at the same time as keeping a good house, home cooking %26amp; dealing with all finances. Also stayed in good shape- well, I never sat down for long, I had to be fit! I even did gardening and much of the redecorating, which I enjoyed. My husband %26amp; I had a good sex life as well, so it can be done.
I think the secret is routine, at weekends I did all the shopping, laundry %26amp; deep cleaning, I also often had people over for dinner. It is all possible if you plan your days well and keep within your budget, good luck to you!
Not a house wife but have been married twice and have learned a a lot, The most important thing to remember is to keep the lines of communication open and that means from him also, Making decisions without talking about them is bad, especially if it dips into your income , Getting a hobby is a good thing ,, as long as that hobby doesn't take all of your time and your money, Go back to shool and get apart time job, This does two things,, keeps you in the social arena and gives you something to talk about with your husband. Keep in mind though that your husband has to come first and He MUST feel the same about you,, You MUST come first with him,, Just a couple things that I have learned
Okay. I'm not a housewife. I couldn't even play one on TV. I do know about excellence, though. It's like anything else you might do. Treat your job like it's worth doing like a professional. That means you study it. You try to be more efficient and more adept all the time. You never quit learning. Otherwise, you end the day drug out and wore out, and you will look it. Don't let it do to you anything you would not want your husband's job to do to him. For that matter, insist that his job not do it to him. You will spend more of your waking hours alone doing you job than you will spend with your spouse. So will your husband. You don't want him unloading the bad day all over you when he comes home. Don't unload the whole bad day on him. Oh, yeah. You talk about the day, but you do it with humor. (Okay. It will be hard to find humor one day when one kid's spewing from one end, and the other's spewing from the other, and the washer spit up, too. That's where you discover another thing to be good at.)
All time bottom line. Talk together and listen. When something bothers you, say it bothers you. And say it before it gets bigger, but don't say it while you're mad. The absolute most common last words in a marriage are, ';I never knew.';
What are the most important things about being a GOOD house wife? Like short cuts ot keep your marriage strong and healthy with keeping love along with the stress of bills and average everyday stuff we all have to face? How is the best way to handle stress with family, in laws, bills, insecurities and just average humanity?
What is the best way to keep yourself in shape and looking good for your husband while managing perhaps a career, children(though, I have no children yet, I am a newly wedd but they are soon to come)?
What is the best way to keep your day organized and doing the whole wife thing and being happy? If your just a housewife what are the best ways of keeping yourself busy and happy instead of bored and anxious?
come on! you know you wanna help! lol Thanks ladies...(or men with good advice)Any house wives out there?
I have not been a house wife for very long, so I will admit that some days are a bit of a challenge because I'm use to the work atmosphere. But things that really help are getting up as usual like I would if I was going to work. TAKE A SHOWER and put your make up on. Even if your husband isn't home, you still look good for you. And when you can't focus around the house, go for a walk or jog to keep yourself in shape. I have a two year old, and it is really easy to forget to do things for myself some times. If I don't feel good about myself, then the house doesn't run as smoothly. So keep that in mind. Hope that helps. Any house wives out there?
I fell into the house wife situation a few months ago. It's lame at first, i got to spend more time with my kids and all but coming from a full time kick *** job to dusting and baking 24/7 was not what i had in mind for myself at this age. It took a while to find my groove but it's finally working for me. Right now i've started organizing photo's and book for some scrap booking projects and recipe books. I'm thinking about taking up sewing but we'll see later. As soon as my husband deploys i'm going back to school. I always hear people say that being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world, well thats complete garbage. Just give it sometime and you'll find what works for you
I managed a full time career and brought up one child, at the same time as keeping a good house, home cooking %26amp; dealing with all finances. Also stayed in good shape- well, I never sat down for long, I had to be fit! I even did gardening and much of the redecorating, which I enjoyed. My husband %26amp; I had a good sex life as well, so it can be done.
I think the secret is routine, at weekends I did all the shopping, laundry %26amp; deep cleaning, I also often had people over for dinner. It is all possible if you plan your days well and keep within your budget, good luck to you!
Not a house wife but have been married twice and have learned a a lot, The most important thing to remember is to keep the lines of communication open and that means from him also, Making decisions without talking about them is bad, especially if it dips into your income , Getting a hobby is a good thing ,, as long as that hobby doesn't take all of your time and your money, Go back to shool and get apart time job, This does two things,, keeps you in the social arena and gives you something to talk about with your husband. Keep in mind though that your husband has to come first and He MUST feel the same about you,, You MUST come first with him,, Just a couple things that I have learned
Okay. I'm not a housewife. I couldn't even play one on TV. I do know about excellence, though. It's like anything else you might do. Treat your job like it's worth doing like a professional. That means you study it. You try to be more efficient and more adept all the time. You never quit learning. Otherwise, you end the day drug out and wore out, and you will look it. Don't let it do to you anything you would not want your husband's job to do to him. For that matter, insist that his job not do it to him. You will spend more of your waking hours alone doing you job than you will spend with your spouse. So will your husband. You don't want him unloading the bad day all over you when he comes home. Don't unload the whole bad day on him. Oh, yeah. You talk about the day, but you do it with humor. (Okay. It will be hard to find humor one day when one kid's spewing from one end, and the other's spewing from the other, and the washer spit up, too. That's where you discover another thing to be good at.)
All time bottom line. Talk together and listen. When something bothers you, say it bothers you. And say it before it gets bigger, but don't say it while you're mad. The absolute most common last words in a marriage are, ';I never knew.';
Help! with a teen relationship?
Help! Someone, anyone. I'm troubled and the internet is my last place I have turned to. See there's this girl...I started liking her in 6th grade. Which sounds stupid and childish, but i really liked her. Most kids would like someone one week and another the next and it wouldnt me anything, it didnt harm them in anyway, but i was smitten by her and so i asked her out..us be alright friends. She said no..whatever right? WRONG i was sad (der) and wuz hung up on her the rest of the year. Then in 7th grade she starts being in love with me. Me, hav'en gotten over her over the summer, doesnt like her. She's hung up on me all year.(Weird huh?) Well now im in 8th grade, 13, im once again crazy about her and , yup you guessed it, she doesnt like me. I forget to mention in 6th grade she went out with my best friend and then in the beggining of 8th (damn did that hurt) so i REALLY like this girl seeing how she has put me through all this pain and still have very strong feelings for her. She's very fickle with her men. She like a guy for 1 or 2 weeks then goes out with another next week. She says she ';only does crushes'; Immature...i know! I have expressed my feelings probably more than i should and i dont know what to do. It's not like she had no feelings for me and we dont have a history or anything so im not giving up..for now. I asked her just the other day...What do you want me to do? Love you, hate you, never talk to you, never stop talking to you? and she responds ';I want you to love me.'; WHAT!?!?!? She wants me to love her but she doesnt love me back!! That's a little unfair dontcha think?? So i asked her what she meant by that she said that she wants me to keep loving her so if she ever likes me again we'll go out...what? and shes also the biggest flirt. She flirts with almost every guy..but thats just her i got used to it...but it still hurts...I know it sounds like a stupid high school crush but i dont feel it as a crush...so im at my wits end...I know all this sounds pathetic. What should I do, people of the internet!?!?! Thats all that i can think of the say as of right now. If you took the time to read all of this i thank you HELP! (Please dont make mock, im already abudently aware how pathetic this all sounds) -ThxHelp! with a teen relationship?
that is unfair. its really up to you of how much you wanna endure a relationship with this. you really DON'T need her (NEVER MAKE SOMEONE YOUR HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE.) but i understand you want to be with her alot. being 13 your still really young. yeah i know ppl probably tell you that alot but its true. even know im about to graduate highschool and i still struggle with my own relationship at times because of not having a job and license. (not everyone has one) but relationships wont be as childish as the one your trying to be in now. i think if u take time away from this girl maybe youll see you can be without her. but if u take time and ONLY think of her it wont help. everyone wants a relationship to feel loved and be in love but i dont think anyone ever mentions relationships where your only loving them.
time heals broken hearts. truly.Help! with a teen relationship?
deja vous!
sounds like my love life =[
well...i know this sounds impossible
but get over her
she doesnt sound that fantastic anyway
if she flirt with alot of guy, u shouldnt go out wit her dude, and get it over wit if u wanna ask her out... ask like ';wanna go out sometime?'; if she say no then ask her if she is cool to be friend wit u. its not bad if u get rejectedhack into myspace
that is unfair. its really up to you of how much you wanna endure a relationship with this. you really DON'T need her (NEVER MAKE SOMEONE YOUR HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE.) but i understand you want to be with her alot. being 13 your still really young. yeah i know ppl probably tell you that alot but its true. even know im about to graduate highschool and i still struggle with my own relationship at times because of not having a job and license. (not everyone has one) but relationships wont be as childish as the one your trying to be in now. i think if u take time away from this girl maybe youll see you can be without her. but if u take time and ONLY think of her it wont help. everyone wants a relationship to feel loved and be in love but i dont think anyone ever mentions relationships where your only loving them.
time heals broken hearts. truly.Help! with a teen relationship?
deja vous!
sounds like my love life =[
well...i know this sounds impossible
but get over her
she doesnt sound that fantastic anyway
if she flirt with alot of guy, u shouldnt go out wit her dude, and get it over wit if u wanna ask her out... ask like ';wanna go out sometime?'; if she say no then ask her if she is cool to be friend wit u. its not bad if u get rejected
Would you marry someone with HIV?
This is a serious question. I am in love with a man that recently discovered he's HIV positive. He actually doesn't know how much I love him because I have always just kept my love for him inside. However, I am seriously considering letting him know how I feel. I can't help it that I love him and I can't imagine my life without him--he is such a wonderful man. Just in case you're wondering, I do not have HIV.
I know that the decision is only mine to make, but I just need some feeback. If anyone out there knows what I'm going through, I would appreciate some sound advice. Thank you so much!Would you marry someone with HIV?
True love is true love, and HIV has no power to limit it, I think. I wish the best happiness for the both of you; your friend is very lucky to have someone as understanding as you in his life.
This is a very touching question and I wish there were more people like you in the world, my dear.
((((((Sunshine))))))Would you marry someone with HIV?
You have to consider that if you were to get pregnant the baby is likely to have HIV also. It's a very hard desicion but personally I would feel horrible about ruining an innocent childs life.
i am also with someone who has HIV. we are togetheg 3 yrs now and he only found out last yr he had it. we never had sex so i dont have it. but i still love him. we are both confused what to do cuz our family are against it. i understand what u r going through
I think when we really love someone even if that person has a terminal disease whether this be HIV, cancer or any other serious illness, we stay with that person. We can still express love in ways that are not dangerous to our own health : such as hugging and kissing, taking hand, holding tight;;
I think that you should be with the person you love. No matter what. There are a lot of precautions you can take to not get HIV. You should wait a very long time before becoming sexual so you can be 100% sure that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. HIV is not necessarily a death sentence. More people die of cancer in the USA than they do of HIV and AIDS.
The problem is this. You have not told this person how you feel. What if he doesn't feel the same? That's okay, too. You can be platonic friends.
I think that regardless of whether you two become sexual or not, it is never, ever, ever wrong to share your love, compassion and understanding.
I wish you happiness in whatever you decide.
That's a loaded question. If my fiance had HIV, I would still be willing to marry him. I suggest asking your doctor about what precautions you would have to take in your life with him, regarding sex and children if you'd want them. I understand that its a different situation, but my uncle is married to someone with HIV, and they've been together for over 20 years. They have made it work, and I know with love, realism, and dedication, you could too. Good luck!
If you truly loved him you wouldn't have to second guess yourself. If I loved anyone the way I felt the first time I fell in love then the answer to your question is yes.
There is no way in H_ll!
Are you crazy!
Take a LOOONG break from your relationship; if you both don't change your mind, well, you still crazy.
Sorry for the truth.
I met a couple in college. He had contracted AIDS while doing drugs. she married him knowing full well that he had a death sentence, but she knew in her heart that he was ';the one';. I was friends with them until he died. He always used protection %26amp; practiced safe sex, to ensure that she never got the virus. She didn't, either.
Her comittment %26amp; loyalty to him moved me beyond anything I can describe. She was a woman of dignity. I have met very few women who compare.
sweetheart i think you should go for it...these days persons with hiv can live healthy long lives without passing the disease to their loved one...if you wanna think long term and you want children itis still possible for you two to have babies without the baby contracting the disease..you can even adopt
if you truly love this man then i think you should tell him how you feel...maybe he feels like there is no hope for relationships with anyone and you can change that feeling....
I would say yes. You can't help the way you really feel about somebody. If I was really in love with somebody who had the disease I would still marry him. You just have to be very careful.
If you truly love him marry him. Just be prepared for what's down the road. You should never have unprotected sex.You should be careful with any of his body secretions. He will eventually get ';AIDS'; and become sick. How soon I can't even speculate. There are more and more medications on the market for people with HIV to help prolong there lives. The issue of children will also come into play. You can't get pregnant unless you are having unprotected sex. Unprotected sex may endanger your health. Hope this isn't too deep but these things must be considered. Follow your heart but protect your life. Good luck.
I think that this is a very hard decision and only you know the answer you must look deep into your heart and ask yourself if you are ready for anything that may affect your future? If you love someone that much and you have thought about marrying them then you should do it! Talk to him and see how he feels about you. Good Luck with your decision and I hope that everything works out the way you want it to.
If you love him, then marry him. But personally, I wouldn't be able to marry someone with HIV, because if the risk alone. If the condom breaks just one time...
I know that the decision is only mine to make, but I just need some feeback. If anyone out there knows what I'm going through, I would appreciate some sound advice. Thank you so much!Would you marry someone with HIV?
True love is true love, and HIV has no power to limit it, I think. I wish the best happiness for the both of you; your friend is very lucky to have someone as understanding as you in his life.
This is a very touching question and I wish there were more people like you in the world, my dear.
((((((Sunshine))))))Would you marry someone with HIV?
You have to consider that if you were to get pregnant the baby is likely to have HIV also. It's a very hard desicion but personally I would feel horrible about ruining an innocent childs life.
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i am also with someone who has HIV. we are togetheg 3 yrs now and he only found out last yr he had it. we never had sex so i dont have it. but i still love him. we are both confused what to do cuz our family are against it. i understand what u r going through
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I think when we really love someone even if that person has a terminal disease whether this be HIV, cancer or any other serious illness, we stay with that person. We can still express love in ways that are not dangerous to our own health : such as hugging and kissing, taking hand, holding tight;;
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I think that you should be with the person you love. No matter what. There are a lot of precautions you can take to not get HIV. You should wait a very long time before becoming sexual so you can be 100% sure that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. HIV is not necessarily a death sentence. More people die of cancer in the USA than they do of HIV and AIDS.
The problem is this. You have not told this person how you feel. What if he doesn't feel the same? That's okay, too. You can be platonic friends.
I think that regardless of whether you two become sexual or not, it is never, ever, ever wrong to share your love, compassion and understanding.
I wish you happiness in whatever you decide.
That's a loaded question. If my fiance had HIV, I would still be willing to marry him. I suggest asking your doctor about what precautions you would have to take in your life with him, regarding sex and children if you'd want them. I understand that its a different situation, but my uncle is married to someone with HIV, and they've been together for over 20 years. They have made it work, and I know with love, realism, and dedication, you could too. Good luck!
If you truly loved him you wouldn't have to second guess yourself. If I loved anyone the way I felt the first time I fell in love then the answer to your question is yes.
There is no way in H_ll!
Are you crazy!
Take a LOOONG break from your relationship; if you both don't change your mind, well, you still crazy.
Sorry for the truth.
I met a couple in college. He had contracted AIDS while doing drugs. she married him knowing full well that he had a death sentence, but she knew in her heart that he was ';the one';. I was friends with them until he died. He always used protection %26amp; practiced safe sex, to ensure that she never got the virus. She didn't, either.
Her comittment %26amp; loyalty to him moved me beyond anything I can describe. She was a woman of dignity. I have met very few women who compare.
sweetheart i think you should go for it...these days persons with hiv can live healthy long lives without passing the disease to their loved one...if you wanna think long term and you want children itis still possible for you two to have babies without the baby contracting the disease..you can even adopt
if you truly love this man then i think you should tell him how you feel...maybe he feels like there is no hope for relationships with anyone and you can change that feeling....
I would say yes. You can't help the way you really feel about somebody. If I was really in love with somebody who had the disease I would still marry him. You just have to be very careful.
If you truly love him marry him. Just be prepared for what's down the road. You should never have unprotected sex.You should be careful with any of his body secretions. He will eventually get ';AIDS'; and become sick. How soon I can't even speculate. There are more and more medications on the market for people with HIV to help prolong there lives. The issue of children will also come into play. You can't get pregnant unless you are having unprotected sex. Unprotected sex may endanger your health. Hope this isn't too deep but these things must be considered. Follow your heart but protect your life. Good luck.
I think that this is a very hard decision and only you know the answer you must look deep into your heart and ask yourself if you are ready for anything that may affect your future? If you love someone that much and you have thought about marrying them then you should do it! Talk to him and see how he feels about you. Good Luck with your decision and I hope that everything works out the way you want it to.
If you love him, then marry him. But personally, I wouldn't be able to marry someone with HIV, because if the risk alone. If the condom breaks just one time...
If you kept lie to your man about life how would you come to the with love and true?
if you is a gay relation with boy friend or girl friend in your lie about your life how would you feel in side and how would you come to them with love in careIf you kept lie to your man about life how would you come to the with love and true?
Huh? English please or post in another forum.
Huh? English please or post in another forum.
Pertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
So, if youve ever read the book ';why men love bitches'; you will totally understand ..but if you havent:
why men love bitches.. a ***** in this book is defined as not an actual mean person, but a woman who holds her own in the relationshp... she is always with a good guy because she doesnt take any crap and doesnt always say yes to her boyfriend.
many woman are the 'doormat.' we always hang out with our boyfriend when it is convenient for him... we are always waiting on their calls or texts... we are always complaining they dont have enough time for us... or they dont call us enough...
but the supposed '*****', does not cancel plans to hang out with her boyfriend... if hes late she makes other plans.... she sometimes keeps him wondering and doesnt answer calls... shes basically more relaxed about the relationship and seems to be worry free..
now i am the type of girlfriend who worries about everythingggg. so i just want to know..ive already read the book and understand the idea of how to make him come to you.. by being less available and whatnot.. but im such a mushy, lovey and open person it is hard for me to say no and hold my ground...
can someone give me any tips on how to be better at this? thanksPertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Get a little spine and try it in one situation. See how you like the results.
Women actually can have an opinion and care about standing up for it. Give it a go!Pertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Just do it.Gradually start following along the lines of the book.If he calls and decides to go out with friends.You go out and have fun.You may not be able to stop thinking about what he is doing.But he will definitely not be thinking of you.There is your strength.Think of him not catering to you.Show him how happy you can be without him.He will be all over you so you won't forget.Take a deep breath...and BE STRONG...
why men love bitches.. a ***** in this book is defined as not an actual mean person, but a woman who holds her own in the relationshp... she is always with a good guy because she doesnt take any crap and doesnt always say yes to her boyfriend.
many woman are the 'doormat.' we always hang out with our boyfriend when it is convenient for him... we are always waiting on their calls or texts... we are always complaining they dont have enough time for us... or they dont call us enough...
but the supposed '*****', does not cancel plans to hang out with her boyfriend... if hes late she makes other plans.... she sometimes keeps him wondering and doesnt answer calls... shes basically more relaxed about the relationship and seems to be worry free..
now i am the type of girlfriend who worries about everythingggg. so i just want to know..ive already read the book and understand the idea of how to make him come to you.. by being less available and whatnot.. but im such a mushy, lovey and open person it is hard for me to say no and hold my ground...
can someone give me any tips on how to be better at this? thanksPertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Get a little spine and try it in one situation. See how you like the results.
Women actually can have an opinion and care about standing up for it. Give it a go!Pertaining to why men love bitches.. how do you act like a strong woman and hold your own in a relationship?
Just do it.Gradually start following along the lines of the book.If he calls and decides to go out with friends.You go out and have fun.You may not be able to stop thinking about what he is doing.But he will definitely not be thinking of you.There is your strength.Think of him not catering to you.Show him how happy you can be without him.He will be all over you so you won't forget.Take a deep breath...and BE STRONG...
Any house wives out there?
So, since my hus is gone for a little bit for the service, I want to know some stuff, and now seems like an ideal time to think it over, since I have some time on my hands...
What are the most important things about being a GOOD house wife? Like short cuts ot keep your marriage strong and healthy with keeping love along with the stress of bills and average everyday stuff we all have to face? How is the best way to handle stress with family, in laws, bills, insecurities and just average humanity?
What is the best way to keep yourself in shape and looking good for your husband while managing perhaps a career, children(though, I have no children yet, I am a newly wedd but they are soon to come)?
What is the best way to keep your day organized and doing the whole wife thing and being happy? If your just a housewife what are the best ways of keeping yourself busy and happy instead of bored and anxious?
come on! you know you wanna help! lol Thanks ladies...(or men with good advice)Any house wives out there?
I have not been a house wife for very long, so I will admit that some days are a bit of a challenge because I'm use to the work atmosphere. But things that really help are getting up as usual like I would if I was going to work. TAKE A SHOWER and put your make up on. Even if your husband isn't home, you still look good for you. And when you can't focus around the house, go for a walk or jog to keep yourself in shape. I have a two year old, and it is really easy to forget to do things for myself some times. If I don't feel good about myself, then the house doesn't run as smoothly. So keep that in mind. Hope that helps. Any house wives out there?
I fell into the house wife situation a few months ago. It's lame at first, i got to spend more time with my kids and all but coming from a full time kick *** job to dusting and baking 24/7 was not what i had in mind for myself at this age. It took a while to find my groove but it's finally working for me. Right now i've started organizing photo's and book for some scrap booking projects and recipe books. I'm thinking about taking up sewing but we'll see later. As soon as my husband deploys i'm going back to school. I always hear people say that being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world, well thats complete garbage. Just give it sometime and you'll find what works for you
I managed a full time career and brought up one child, at the same time as keeping a good house, home cooking %26amp; dealing with all finances. Also stayed in good shape- well, I never sat down for long, I had to be fit! I even did gardening and much of the redecorating, which I enjoyed. My husband %26amp; I had a good sex life as well, so it can be done.
I think the secret is routine, at weekends I did all the shopping, laundry %26amp; deep cleaning, I also often had people over for dinner. It is all possible if you plan your days well and keep within your budget, good luck to you!
Not a house wife but have been married twice and have learned a a lot, The most important thing to remember is to keep the lines of communication open and that means from him also, Making decisions without talking about them is bad, especially if it dips into your income , Getting a hobby is a good thing ,, as long as that hobby doesn't take all of your time and your money, Go back to shool and get apart time job, This does two things,, keeps you in the social arena and gives you something to talk about with your husband. Keep in mind though that your husband has to come first and He MUST feel the same about you,, You MUST come first with him,, Just a couple things that I have learned
Okay. I'm not a housewife. I couldn't even play one on TV. I do know about excellence, though. It's like anything else you might do. Treat your job like it's worth doing like a professional. That means you study it. You try to be more efficient and more adept all the time. You never quit learning. Otherwise, you end the day drug out and wore out, and you will look it. Don't let it do to you anything you would not want your husband's job to do to him. For that matter, insist that his job not do it to him. You will spend more of your waking hours alone doing you job than you will spend with your spouse. So will your husband. You don't want him unloading the bad day all over you when he comes home. Don't unload the whole bad day on him. Oh, yeah. You talk about the day, but you do it with humor. (Okay. It will be hard to find humor one day when one kid's spewing from one end, and the other's spewing from the other, and the washer spit up, too. That's where you discover another thing to be good at.)
All time bottom line. Talk together and listen. When something bothers you, say it bothers you. And say it before it gets bigger, but don't say it while you're mad. The absolute most common last words in a marriage are, ';I never knew.';
What are the most important things about being a GOOD house wife? Like short cuts ot keep your marriage strong and healthy with keeping love along with the stress of bills and average everyday stuff we all have to face? How is the best way to handle stress with family, in laws, bills, insecurities and just average humanity?
What is the best way to keep yourself in shape and looking good for your husband while managing perhaps a career, children(though, I have no children yet, I am a newly wedd but they are soon to come)?
What is the best way to keep your day organized and doing the whole wife thing and being happy? If your just a housewife what are the best ways of keeping yourself busy and happy instead of bored and anxious?
come on! you know you wanna help! lol Thanks ladies...(or men with good advice)Any house wives out there?
I have not been a house wife for very long, so I will admit that some days are a bit of a challenge because I'm use to the work atmosphere. But things that really help are getting up as usual like I would if I was going to work. TAKE A SHOWER and put your make up on. Even if your husband isn't home, you still look good for you. And when you can't focus around the house, go for a walk or jog to keep yourself in shape. I have a two year old, and it is really easy to forget to do things for myself some times. If I don't feel good about myself, then the house doesn't run as smoothly. So keep that in mind. Hope that helps. Any house wives out there?
I fell into the house wife situation a few months ago. It's lame at first, i got to spend more time with my kids and all but coming from a full time kick *** job to dusting and baking 24/7 was not what i had in mind for myself at this age. It took a while to find my groove but it's finally working for me. Right now i've started organizing photo's and book for some scrap booking projects and recipe books. I'm thinking about taking up sewing but we'll see later. As soon as my husband deploys i'm going back to school. I always hear people say that being a stay at home mom is the hardest job in the world, well thats complete garbage. Just give it sometime and you'll find what works for you
I managed a full time career and brought up one child, at the same time as keeping a good house, home cooking %26amp; dealing with all finances. Also stayed in good shape- well, I never sat down for long, I had to be fit! I even did gardening and much of the redecorating, which I enjoyed. My husband %26amp; I had a good sex life as well, so it can be done.
I think the secret is routine, at weekends I did all the shopping, laundry %26amp; deep cleaning, I also often had people over for dinner. It is all possible if you plan your days well and keep within your budget, good luck to you!
Not a house wife but have been married twice and have learned a a lot, The most important thing to remember is to keep the lines of communication open and that means from him also, Making decisions without talking about them is bad, especially if it dips into your income , Getting a hobby is a good thing ,, as long as that hobby doesn't take all of your time and your money, Go back to shool and get apart time job, This does two things,, keeps you in the social arena and gives you something to talk about with your husband. Keep in mind though that your husband has to come first and He MUST feel the same about you,, You MUST come first with him,, Just a couple things that I have learned
Okay. I'm not a housewife. I couldn't even play one on TV. I do know about excellence, though. It's like anything else you might do. Treat your job like it's worth doing like a professional. That means you study it. You try to be more efficient and more adept all the time. You never quit learning. Otherwise, you end the day drug out and wore out, and you will look it. Don't let it do to you anything you would not want your husband's job to do to him. For that matter, insist that his job not do it to him. You will spend more of your waking hours alone doing you job than you will spend with your spouse. So will your husband. You don't want him unloading the bad day all over you when he comes home. Don't unload the whole bad day on him. Oh, yeah. You talk about the day, but you do it with humor. (Okay. It will be hard to find humor one day when one kid's spewing from one end, and the other's spewing from the other, and the washer spit up, too. That's where you discover another thing to be good at.)
All time bottom line. Talk together and listen. When something bothers you, say it bothers you. And say it before it gets bigger, but don't say it while you're mad. The absolute most common last words in a marriage are, ';I never knew.';
Help! with a teen relationship?
Help! Someone, anyone. I'm troubled and the internet is my last place I have turned to. See there's this girl...I started liking her in 6th grade. Which sounds stupid and childish, but i really liked her. Most kids would like someone one week and another the next and it wouldnt me anything, it didnt harm them in anyway, but i was smitten by her and so i asked her out..us be alright friends. She said no..whatever right? WRONG i was sad (der) and wuz hung up on her the rest of the year. Then in 7th grade she starts being in love with me. Me, hav'en gotten over her over the summer, doesnt like her. She's hung up on me all year.(Weird huh?) Well now im in 8th grade, 13, im once again crazy about her and , yup you guessed it, she doesnt like me. I forget to mention in 6th grade she went out with my best friend and then in the beggining of 8th (damn did that hurt) so i REALLY like this girl seeing how she has put me through all this pain and still have very strong feelings for her. She's very fickle with her men. She like a guy for 1 or 2 weeks then goes out with another next week. She says she ';only does crushes'; Immature...i know! I have expressed my feelings probably more than i should and i dont know what to do. It's not like she had no feelings for me and we dont have a history or anything so im not giving up..for now. I asked her just the other day...What do you want me to do? Love you, hate you, never talk to you, never stop talking to you? and she responds ';I want you to love me.'; WHAT!?!?!? She wants me to love her but she doesnt love me back!! That's a little unfair dontcha think?? So i asked her what she meant by that she said that she wants me to keep loving her so if she ever likes me again we'll go out...what? and shes also the biggest flirt. She flirts with almost every guy..but thats just her i got used to it...but it still hurts...I know it sounds like a stupid high school crush but i dont feel it as a crush...so im at my wits end...I know all this sounds pathetic. What should I do, people of the internet!?!?! Thats all that i can think of the say as of right now. If you took the time to read all of this i thank you HELP! (Please dont make mock, im already abudently aware how pathetic this all sounds) -ThxHelp! with a teen relationship?
that is unfair. its really up to you of how much you wanna endure a relationship with this. you really DON'T need her (NEVER MAKE SOMEONE YOUR HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE.) but i understand you want to be with her alot. being 13 your still really young. yeah i know ppl probably tell you that alot but its true. even know im about to graduate highschool and i still struggle with my own relationship at times because of not having a job and license. (not everyone has one) but relationships wont be as childish as the one your trying to be in now. i think if u take time away from this girl maybe youll see you can be without her. but if u take time and ONLY think of her it wont help. everyone wants a relationship to feel loved and be in love but i dont think anyone ever mentions relationships where your only loving them.
time heals broken hearts. truly.Help! with a teen relationship?
deja vous!
sounds like my love life =[
well...i know this sounds impossible
but get over her
she doesnt sound that fantastic anyway
if she flirt with alot of guy, u shouldnt go out wit her dude, and get it over wit if u wanna ask her out... ask like ';wanna go out sometime?'; if she say no then ask her if she is cool to be friend wit u. its not bad if u get rejected
that is unfair. its really up to you of how much you wanna endure a relationship with this. you really DON'T need her (NEVER MAKE SOMEONE YOUR HAPPINESS IN YOUR LIFE.) but i understand you want to be with her alot. being 13 your still really young. yeah i know ppl probably tell you that alot but its true. even know im about to graduate highschool and i still struggle with my own relationship at times because of not having a job and license. (not everyone has one) but relationships wont be as childish as the one your trying to be in now. i think if u take time away from this girl maybe youll see you can be without her. but if u take time and ONLY think of her it wont help. everyone wants a relationship to feel loved and be in love but i dont think anyone ever mentions relationships where your only loving them.
time heals broken hearts. truly.Help! with a teen relationship?
deja vous!
sounds like my love life =[
well...i know this sounds impossible
but get over her
she doesnt sound that fantastic anyway
if she flirt with alot of guy, u shouldnt go out wit her dude, and get it over wit if u wanna ask her out... ask like ';wanna go out sometime?'; if she say no then ask her if she is cool to be friend wit u. its not bad if u get rejected
My 19 yr. old sister is in love with a 37 year old man. That's an 18 year difference. I'm only 17, please help?
I don't know what to do or think anymore...I can't trust anyone anymore either. Especially the ones I love...
I am her 17 years old younger sister, and I know I am not ';grown up'; yet, but there is one thing I KNOW is wrong, sick, perverted, and discusting.
My 19 year old sisters ';first boyfriend'; is a stinking 37 year old man she met online that lives on the otherside of the country. Not only that, but she flew down to see him for 7 days while my mom and I had to cover for her to my dad- she left overnight just leaving a note that lied where she was going, until after she got there then she told my mom. She also didn't even use her money, but my dads. My mother knows, but she doesn't know what else to do, she can't tell my dad because most likely that will lead to a divorce and other versions of hell for both her and me.
My mom tried talking to my sister, reasoning with her, asking her to stop, and everything else she can think of. But she won't listen.
I know my sister *did it* with the 37 year old man, and she doesn't seem to regret it. That sickens me even more. This man has a lot of *baggage* in his life as well as he is unemployed!!! And yet he wants to move up ';here'; with my sister (so she can move out of the house) - ugh.
I know this story is wrong, and you probably are going to judge how my family is and how I was raised. But if you can take in your heart to believe me, my parents did a good job raising us. Nice homes, food, neighborhoods, schooling... but somehow my sister got into this stuff online.
I am hurt, I can't respect or love my sister anymore. I used to look up to her, and now... I can't even look at her without getting mad at her.
I just want some help, advice, or maybe even someone else who could tell me that they are in the same position I am in. It is embarrassing to see my sister be this stupid.
My sister doesn't even talk to my mother since she flew down to see him, and she only talks to me if she needs something. She doesn't care how I feel anymore, she acts all *nice* all the time and I just tolerate it. I don't express my anger at her for hurting my mother and I so.
I don't get it, she thinks he is the right man for her- but she won't even tell anyone about him- other than her other ';so called'; friend who is into the EXACT same thing. Usually if someone has an *awesome boyfriend*, you could at least tell your best friend who he is- her real best friend. Oh and the internet thing, half of that is role-playing crap. Like ';one is the slave and the man is the master';. My sisters so called *master* made her a COLLAR while she was with him.
You all keep saying (in my last post ) that ';she is an adult, but I meen- COME ON?! Do you guys really think this is right?
So if you can understand why I can't even look at her anymore, that is why. It's NOT just the fact she is in love with a 37 year old man. But that he is UNEMPLOYED, broke, has a *gifted kid* about 13, he is taking care of his EX-mother-in-law (who lives at HIS house), and he made her a stinking collar... Oh, and the distance of him from my sister, where they live- is say, Calififornia to Maine.
I am only so mad and hurt because despite all this, I still *love my sister*. The reason I try not to is because I'm hurt too much for what she did. I know if my dad found out about this, my mom and dad would get a divorce and he'd probably disown her.
I just need some help or commfort please.My 19 yr. old sister is in love with a 37 year old man. That's an 18 year difference. I'm only 17, please help?
Sounds like she has ';Daddy Issues'; to me, so she probably needs professional counseling.
Sorry to say it, but alot of young women fall prey to men like this...My 19 yr. old sister is in love with a 37 year old man. That's an 18 year difference. I'm only 17, please help?
i'm so sorry but when my brother got involved with a women that was way older than him me and my family were disappointed and mad, but over time i learned to love her, shes really cool and funny. he was only 18 . so maybe he is a good guy i mean its love , love is love no matter the age. you will get use to him. i know how mad you feel. but you will be okay.
I am her 17 years old younger sister, and I know I am not ';grown up'; yet, but there is one thing I KNOW is wrong, sick, perverted, and discusting.
My 19 year old sisters ';first boyfriend'; is a stinking 37 year old man she met online that lives on the otherside of the country. Not only that, but she flew down to see him for 7 days while my mom and I had to cover for her to my dad- she left overnight just leaving a note that lied where she was going, until after she got there then she told my mom. She also didn't even use her money, but my dads. My mother knows, but she doesn't know what else to do, she can't tell my dad because most likely that will lead to a divorce and other versions of hell for both her and me.
My mom tried talking to my sister, reasoning with her, asking her to stop, and everything else she can think of. But she won't listen.
I know my sister *did it* with the 37 year old man, and she doesn't seem to regret it. That sickens me even more. This man has a lot of *baggage* in his life as well as he is unemployed!!! And yet he wants to move up ';here'; with my sister (so she can move out of the house) - ugh.
I know this story is wrong, and you probably are going to judge how my family is and how I was raised. But if you can take in your heart to believe me, my parents did a good job raising us. Nice homes, food, neighborhoods, schooling... but somehow my sister got into this stuff online.
I am hurt, I can't respect or love my sister anymore. I used to look up to her, and now... I can't even look at her without getting mad at her.
I just want some help, advice, or maybe even someone else who could tell me that they are in the same position I am in. It is embarrassing to see my sister be this stupid.
My sister doesn't even talk to my mother since she flew down to see him, and she only talks to me if she needs something. She doesn't care how I feel anymore, she acts all *nice* all the time and I just tolerate it. I don't express my anger at her for hurting my mother and I so.
I don't get it, she thinks he is the right man for her- but she won't even tell anyone about him- other than her other ';so called'; friend who is into the EXACT same thing. Usually if someone has an *awesome boyfriend*, you could at least tell your best friend who he is- her real best friend. Oh and the internet thing, half of that is role-playing crap. Like ';one is the slave and the man is the master';. My sisters so called *master* made her a COLLAR while she was with him.
You all keep saying (in my last post ) that ';she is an adult, but I meen- COME ON?! Do you guys really think this is right?
So if you can understand why I can't even look at her anymore, that is why. It's NOT just the fact she is in love with a 37 year old man. But that he is UNEMPLOYED, broke, has a *gifted kid* about 13, he is taking care of his EX-mother-in-law (who lives at HIS house), and he made her a stinking collar... Oh, and the distance of him from my sister, where they live- is say, Calififornia to Maine.
I am only so mad and hurt because despite all this, I still *love my sister*. The reason I try not to is because I'm hurt too much for what she did. I know if my dad found out about this, my mom and dad would get a divorce and he'd probably disown her.
I just need some help or commfort please.My 19 yr. old sister is in love with a 37 year old man. That's an 18 year difference. I'm only 17, please help?
Sounds like she has ';Daddy Issues'; to me, so she probably needs professional counseling.
Sorry to say it, but alot of young women fall prey to men like this...My 19 yr. old sister is in love with a 37 year old man. That's an 18 year difference. I'm only 17, please help?
i'm so sorry but when my brother got involved with a women that was way older than him me and my family were disappointed and mad, but over time i learned to love her, shes really cool and funny. he was only 18 . so maybe he is a good guy i mean its love , love is love no matter the age. you will get use to him. i know how mad you feel. but you will be okay.
1st man.. but want to keep my options open.. what should i do?
hello everyone.
before you click out of here cuz u think its too long just please read and help a sista out.=)
1st off i'd like to start out by saying that im 16 and ive rejected boys all my life that asked me out due to the fact that all guys in my skool were playas n dont know how to keep a good, long relationship going..
so the Lord gave me what i wanted freshman year of high school
...i met my boyfriend and we've been dating for 1 year n 3 months... and boy was ready to have a long relationship.. so he ended up asking me to marry him when i was 15 and he was 18 in the month of sept. 08. (keep in mind he was 17 when i met him) he's 2 years older then me,really, its just that my bday is late and his is early
so ANYWAYS i accepted cuz i was seriously in love with him. but we fought all the time about his x's and about my mom not liking him and him going to jail twice..(long story)... so i feel like our love is fading,,, and he always asked me in the beginning,, since he was my 1st bf that if i wanted to experience other guys and i said no.. i was wrong..
SOOO...
a couple weeks ago i found myself thinkin bout meeting new ppl cuz i just couldnt take the fighting, cussing, and him controlling me and not trusting me... so i was wondering...
';hmmm do i really want to be with just one man for the rest of my life?';
and i dont mean by me goin crazy with every guy that comes round ..no.. i just want to see if theres another relationship thats better out there than the one i have now. so me and him are on and off cuz I dont know what to do. i love him but i believe we're just ';incompatible soulmates'; if you will.
soo the question is.....can you please give me some advice.
..do you think i should just move on from him?
(cuz im young and need to keep my options open)
..or do you think i should just stay with him?
(cuz you only love once)...%26lt;-- idk if thats tru btw
PS.. i will read ALL answers so please tell me what you think
PSS. and i know i was (and still am) too young to get engaged so PLEASE dont lecture me about that.
thank you=)1st man.. but want to keep my options open.. what should i do?
Any time you date someone, and they try to control you, the relationship is abusive. Sometimes people mistake the controlling behaviour for concern/love, but it most certainly isn't. Controlling is often the first noticeable sign in what become physical, verbal, or emotional abuse.
Definitely move on. Date. Be particular. And ALWAYS put what you need or want from a relationship FIRST. Any relationship that doesn't fulfil those needs, really isn't worth keeping. I also suggest you learn to hold off on 'love' feelings until you get past the fluff people put out when you first start dating them. People act differently in order to get you to like them. Then, after a while, their true nature starts to show. If you've already convinced yourself that you're 'in love' it's all to easy to forgive things that will eventually cause the relationship to fail.
No doubt you're a very smart young lady. You're spelling and grammar is far better than many questions written by adult. Stay smart. Take care of you first... ALWAYS. Eventually you'll meet someone who's worthy of an intelligent, thinking, women like yourself.
Date. Protect yourself both physically and emotionally. You have the potential to have a wonderful life. Don't let some jerk spoil it for you.1st man.. but want to keep my options open.. what should i do?
Thank you for picking my answer as 'best'! I sincerely wish you all the best. The statement about your writing isn't simply flattery. You really do sound like a very intelligent young lady. Put yourself and school before men. You'll never regret it. Sounds like you've got a great deal of potential!
you should never be with anyone that is abusive to you in anyway
Move on, keep your options open. If you and your bf were meant to be together, you will be some day.
well.... wow.... i think you should totally take a break. you know, try other guys and see what feelings u get out of dating them and ompare them to ur past relationship because if u are 16 and have only dated one guy ur whole life u will not no much, u need experience. so yes ill go with ur young and need to keep ur options open.
Any major decision that you make when your age ends in the word ';...teen'; is usually a mistake.
You seem to have all the other answers, so I'll just leave it at that.
Wait 4 the rite guy to com ,u really hv long way to go just hope 4 the best .u deserve smone better.
I married at 22 and it was too young.
Don't commit yourself at your young age. See the world. Get an education. Date different types of men. Figure out WHO YOU ARE before you become someone's wife. Because if you do, before you know it, you'll have children tugging on your clothes and your belly will be covered in stretch marks and you'll have a husband who doesn't notice you any more and you won't even have an identity of your own.
Please wait until you're at least 25 before giving the REST OF YOUR LIFE to another person. You only live once.
before you click out of here cuz u think its too long just please read and help a sista out.=)
1st off i'd like to start out by saying that im 16 and ive rejected boys all my life that asked me out due to the fact that all guys in my skool were playas n dont know how to keep a good, long relationship going..
so the Lord gave me what i wanted freshman year of high school
...i met my boyfriend and we've been dating for 1 year n 3 months... and boy was ready to have a long relationship.. so he ended up asking me to marry him when i was 15 and he was 18 in the month of sept. 08. (keep in mind he was 17 when i met him) he's 2 years older then me,really, its just that my bday is late and his is early
so ANYWAYS i accepted cuz i was seriously in love with him. but we fought all the time about his x's and about my mom not liking him and him going to jail twice..(long story)... so i feel like our love is fading,,, and he always asked me in the beginning,, since he was my 1st bf that if i wanted to experience other guys and i said no.. i was wrong..
SOOO...
a couple weeks ago i found myself thinkin bout meeting new ppl cuz i just couldnt take the fighting, cussing, and him controlling me and not trusting me... so i was wondering...
';hmmm do i really want to be with just one man for the rest of my life?';
and i dont mean by me goin crazy with every guy that comes round ..no.. i just want to see if theres another relationship thats better out there than the one i have now. so me and him are on and off cuz I dont know what to do. i love him but i believe we're just ';incompatible soulmates'; if you will.
soo the question is.....can you please give me some advice.
..do you think i should just move on from him?
(cuz im young and need to keep my options open)
..or do you think i should just stay with him?
(cuz you only love once)...%26lt;-- idk if thats tru btw
PS.. i will read ALL answers so please tell me what you think
PSS. and i know i was (and still am) too young to get engaged so PLEASE dont lecture me about that.
thank you=)1st man.. but want to keep my options open.. what should i do?
Any time you date someone, and they try to control you, the relationship is abusive. Sometimes people mistake the controlling behaviour for concern/love, but it most certainly isn't. Controlling is often the first noticeable sign in what become physical, verbal, or emotional abuse.
Definitely move on. Date. Be particular. And ALWAYS put what you need or want from a relationship FIRST. Any relationship that doesn't fulfil those needs, really isn't worth keeping. I also suggest you learn to hold off on 'love' feelings until you get past the fluff people put out when you first start dating them. People act differently in order to get you to like them. Then, after a while, their true nature starts to show. If you've already convinced yourself that you're 'in love' it's all to easy to forgive things that will eventually cause the relationship to fail.
No doubt you're a very smart young lady. You're spelling and grammar is far better than many questions written by adult. Stay smart. Take care of you first... ALWAYS. Eventually you'll meet someone who's worthy of an intelligent, thinking, women like yourself.
Date. Protect yourself both physically and emotionally. You have the potential to have a wonderful life. Don't let some jerk spoil it for you.1st man.. but want to keep my options open.. what should i do?
Thank you for picking my answer as 'best'! I sincerely wish you all the best. The statement about your writing isn't simply flattery. You really do sound like a very intelligent young lady. Put yourself and school before men. You'll never regret it. Sounds like you've got a great deal of potential!
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you should never be with anyone that is abusive to you in anyway
Move on, keep your options open. If you and your bf were meant to be together, you will be some day.
well.... wow.... i think you should totally take a break. you know, try other guys and see what feelings u get out of dating them and ompare them to ur past relationship because if u are 16 and have only dated one guy ur whole life u will not no much, u need experience. so yes ill go with ur young and need to keep ur options open.
Any major decision that you make when your age ends in the word ';...teen'; is usually a mistake.
You seem to have all the other answers, so I'll just leave it at that.
Wait 4 the rite guy to com ,u really hv long way to go just hope 4 the best .u deserve smone better.
I married at 22 and it was too young.
Don't commit yourself at your young age. See the world. Get an education. Date different types of men. Figure out WHO YOU ARE before you become someone's wife. Because if you do, before you know it, you'll have children tugging on your clothes and your belly will be covered in stretch marks and you'll have a husband who doesn't notice you any more and you won't even have an identity of your own.
Please wait until you're at least 25 before giving the REST OF YOUR LIFE to another person. You only live once.
If you have the ball'; please answer this...?
Bryan F, mishima, Ronnie, laser beams, cassius, macadami, and others who dare to troll this board acting like they are missing the part between there legs鈥nd are blaming other women for it.
It amazes me how absolutely shameless you jerks are(some more then others)
It also is interesting and scary, as to how I would never hear such words uttered in public鈥et you can hide behind that computer screen. You despite women, deep down in your soul something is missing鈥idn鈥檛 your mother love you tyayyg9?
REAL MEN are intelligent enough to debate with women鈥ot just try to piss em off.
Real men want there women to be a successful as possible
Real men need a women who is as strong as they are.
Real men love the differences they find in there spouses face and mind.
They understand that there sex has many many many issues, but then so do women but you don鈥檛 fault the whole group
They understand that things are not equal, and they never will be until ever man start respecting his mother, wife, and daughters.
As much as us women would like it, you have to take the next step and change your medieval mind set.
So to the question, are you missing your balls and that鈥檚 why you hate women so鈥?b/c that鈥檚 what I keep imagining, men with below average minds, far below looks and no balls behind these asinine questions a rants.If you have the ball'; please answer this...?
lol damn girl... thats what i was sayin...just not as blunt!If you have the ball'; please answer this...?
Dear, I think you need to ask yourself what you are really doing. Are you helping the cause or are you encouraging trolls?
Some of these people are basically the same people they criticize. They actually are even bigger whiners. Women get everything, men get screwed, that is just plain rediculous.
The sad thing is that some of the points they make that do have merit mean nothing because they are so close minded to think women do not have any issues that need to be discussed and can not be taken seriously because all objectivity is taken away.
You know the same thing they complain about.
i agree with you
lol haha
you lost me on the shame game lol
REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN
I hope you feel better now, but this question will not last because it is just a pure RANT and does not affect anyone when using the shame game. You forgot to give us the picture of you jumping up and down stamping your feet.
I love my 3 sisters. I adore my mother(she is my hero).I love my G/F and behind her in everything she does. I do understand that things are not equal. Take a look at pay. My aunt anna is a master carpenter making 11.50 an hour which for that position could easy be 30.00 dollars an hour. The men in the company start out no exp. at 10.50 hr. It is a mans world. We all know that. Things are changing though. Generation to generation women are becoming more liberated. Hopefully your children or your childrens children will live in a more equal envirement. Dont let people get under your skin so easily. If you do ,you let them control your emotions. Take care sha'
JP
Nice job giving them more attention.
Hey way to go, if you can't beat them join them!
I haven't seen the posts of the individuals you mentioned. I do want to make one point.
Men and women are not equal. They are equally important, but each gender has advantages and disadvantages over the other. There is nothing that you and I can do to change that. This isn't mind set, just reality. Things can never be equal between apples and oranges.
LOL! I like how I'm the first one on the list. You're welcome to have hot angry sex with me after all this lol :D. But let me attempt to save my tiny penis.
Well, let me start off by saying Thank you for reading my responses and questions. They are always up for criticism. My e-mail address and yahoo messenger name is also there (although I don鈥檛 use yahoo messenger much, I use Windows live messenger. If you want to complain, or say hi, or whatever...feel free to do it from there if you would like.) Most of my answers and questions do, purposely, show my ignorance, especially when it comes to relationship problems. That's the point of asking the questions.
I love women. I was raised by, for the most part, women who have actually taught and shown me about the different types of women in the world. I don't have a father figure in life. Plenty of grandfather figures though who have coached me about the differences from their eyes. Both parties have told me about their experiences and the type of people to watch out for.
As far as you judging me by how I look, think, and my ball size, my picture is there. You can call me ugly or say I look handsome, or ';alright';. It makes no difference to me. I'll respect you all the same :).
As far as in public, I do speak my mind when it's necessary, which is 2% of the time lol. If someone asked me off the computer screen, ';Hey, do you hate women or something? I'm wondering why you're still single.'; I'll tell them the truth and say, ';No, I love women! but I don't feel like I can balance a woman and education at the moment.';
I don't blame anyone for anything that I did wrong or anything that happened to me in this stage of my life. I'd never be myself in that case.
Well let me go down the little list there, starting with your first statement.
- I can be shameless, I admit to that. But if I have to censor a ';theory'; or a ';hypothetical'; question, then the point to make us all ';think'; will not leave its mark. If you get offended by it, then argue against it. Chances are that my question was not personal to me or anyone else, the reader made it personal and therefore decided to make an argument stating that it's personal.
- I already said I love women. If I despised women, I wouldn't be on this forum and if I did despise women so, I would actually come out and make a question that would actually insult females on a whole.
- I love to debate with women. I just don't like to debate over something that I agree with, such as women's equal rights to opportunity. Why debate over something that I support? However, I don't mind asking questions that will strengthen an argument supporting equality.
-Women can be as successful as they want to be. If they want to be housewives, I'd help cook, clean, and take care of the kids for her. If they want to be career women, I'll give them a gas card for their trip to work every day, plus a nice breakfast to get them started. If they want to commit most of their time into feminist rallies, I'd support it in any way possible. Whatever the case, I'd support a woman whole heartedly. But I'm not in a relationship with one so I don't have to do those things lol...But still I do support feminism and its core beliefs.
- I agree with your statement about needing a strong woman. Hell yes. However, strength lies in so many different categories. Me not supporting strong, manipulative women is one of these.
- Without differences, we would all be the same wouldn't we? This can go for everyone.
-I know men and women have their issues. You don't have to tell me that, but I love to see what others think about these issues. But why should I fault all men or all women for these issues when all of them don't commit adultery, sabotage, homicide, or have abusive relationships, or whatever else there is. I refuse to do it.
- I know I don't have such a mindset, but I'm not looking for your approval either. I'm glad I made you get a reaction to my questions and answers.
I don't come on Y/A and spread out myself in these questions. But then again I don't mind being called a villain. ..I think I typed too much lol. Sorry. But in any case, that's my answer for now. If you want to know about anything specific, e-mail me :). Like I stated before, I laugh at everyone's answer equally lol. Everyone is welcomed to :).
Bryan a troll? I actually think he's quite funny and his profile clearly states that he likes to play the devil's advocate.
Yesterday I was quite shocked to find myself agreeing with the very first few words of one of cassius' sentences. Never thought that would happen.
And for the rest...I probably agree with you but I have to admit I skimmed it. It seemed more like a rant to me than a question for discussion.
Go back to school.
Not sure if you're refering to me; I haven't posted much, but I'll put my two cents in.
First off, you are definitely being a sexist by asking men if they have good relationships with their mothers (';...didn鈥檛 your mother love you ...), and if they have balls.
Now keep in mind, I'm coming into the middle of this, and your other remarks are true as far as I know. Your comments certainly aren 't inviting a debate, and show a misandrist side of yourself.
Someone could easily come along and ask you if your father loved you, what with all the references to a lack of balls.
If you really respected men, you wouldn't be such a feminist, an assumption on my part.
If you really respected men, you'd realize the advantages that women have over men in reproductive choice, family and civil law.
If you really respected men you'd be screaming about the fact that men commit suicide at a rate 4 times that of women, instead of complaining about a purported 23 cent pay differential in a country that requires equal pay by law. . Where are your priorities?
If you really respected men, you'd realize that the role of females in society has changed greatly over the past 40 years and now it's time for men and fathers to catch up.
Yes, I'm chiding you and I don't really know you. Excuse me. I'm actually speaking to anyone that claims to be a feminist.
Yes, women still have a ways to go, but the law and societal attitudes have left men at the starting point.
No, feminists don't respect men. They only think of themselves when advocating equality. Today's man is squeezed by the Princess mentality and feminist dogma on the left and the chauvanists and Christians on the right.
We need to learn to respect each other and adopt the attitude that American Liberty is for both sexes. Let Liberty flourish, the chips fall where they may. Honor thy Constitution.
1. You are entitled to being a feminist and I am entitled to hating feminists, its a free country.
2. I love women, real women, not whiny, bi..chy women like... uhhmm... you.
3. I am well packing in that department.
4. I am fighting against feminism as the root of all evil to promote love and understanding between normal men and women. It hurts me to see how feminists brainwash women. I am scared my loved ones could be victims of the evil forces.
5. Pleeeeeaaaaase come up with a more original shaming tactic than oh you hate women, oh you must be ugly, oh you have no balls....
6. Slowly, very slowly pull your head out of your a.s.s......
Thank You!!!!!Guys if your not ready to argue with me in real life I'm NEVER going to take ANYTHING you say seriously!Grow a pair!!!
I love these questions, you know why? Because they always bring out the misandrists in this categories - you and the ones who agree with you.
';Real men need a women who is as strong as they are.';
If a woman was as strong as me then she'd be a man.
It sounds like you need a sex change, to feel how it feels to be a man.
This is what happened to my misandrist ex-wife like you -
http://riverandreef.com.au/news/wp-conte鈥?/a>
It amazes me how absolutely shameless you jerks are(some more then others)
It also is interesting and scary, as to how I would never hear such words uttered in public鈥et you can hide behind that computer screen. You despite women, deep down in your soul something is missing鈥idn鈥檛 your mother love you tyayyg9?
REAL MEN are intelligent enough to debate with women鈥ot just try to piss em off.
Real men want there women to be a successful as possible
Real men need a women who is as strong as they are.
Real men love the differences they find in there spouses face and mind.
They understand that there sex has many many many issues, but then so do women but you don鈥檛 fault the whole group
They understand that things are not equal, and they never will be until ever man start respecting his mother, wife, and daughters.
As much as us women would like it, you have to take the next step and change your medieval mind set.
So to the question, are you missing your balls and that鈥檚 why you hate women so鈥?b/c that鈥檚 what I keep imagining, men with below average minds, far below looks and no balls behind these asinine questions a rants.If you have the ball'; please answer this...?
lol damn girl... thats what i was sayin...just not as blunt!If you have the ball'; please answer this...?
Dear, I think you need to ask yourself what you are really doing. Are you helping the cause or are you encouraging trolls?
Some of these people are basically the same people they criticize. They actually are even bigger whiners. Women get everything, men get screwed, that is just plain rediculous.
The sad thing is that some of the points they make that do have merit mean nothing because they are so close minded to think women do not have any issues that need to be discussed and can not be taken seriously because all objectivity is taken away.
You know the same thing they complain about.
i agree with you
lol haha
you lost me on the shame game lol
REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN REAL MEN
I hope you feel better now, but this question will not last because it is just a pure RANT and does not affect anyone when using the shame game. You forgot to give us the picture of you jumping up and down stamping your feet.
I love my 3 sisters. I adore my mother(she is my hero).I love my G/F and behind her in everything she does. I do understand that things are not equal. Take a look at pay. My aunt anna is a master carpenter making 11.50 an hour which for that position could easy be 30.00 dollars an hour. The men in the company start out no exp. at 10.50 hr. It is a mans world. We all know that. Things are changing though. Generation to generation women are becoming more liberated. Hopefully your children or your childrens children will live in a more equal envirement. Dont let people get under your skin so easily. If you do ,you let them control your emotions. Take care sha'
JP
Nice job giving them more attention.
Hey way to go, if you can't beat them join them!
I haven't seen the posts of the individuals you mentioned. I do want to make one point.
Men and women are not equal. They are equally important, but each gender has advantages and disadvantages over the other. There is nothing that you and I can do to change that. This isn't mind set, just reality. Things can never be equal between apples and oranges.
LOL! I like how I'm the first one on the list. You're welcome to have hot angry sex with me after all this lol :D. But let me attempt to save my tiny penis.
Well, let me start off by saying Thank you for reading my responses and questions. They are always up for criticism. My e-mail address and yahoo messenger name is also there (although I don鈥檛 use yahoo messenger much, I use Windows live messenger. If you want to complain, or say hi, or whatever...feel free to do it from there if you would like.) Most of my answers and questions do, purposely, show my ignorance, especially when it comes to relationship problems. That's the point of asking the questions.
I love women. I was raised by, for the most part, women who have actually taught and shown me about the different types of women in the world. I don't have a father figure in life. Plenty of grandfather figures though who have coached me about the differences from their eyes. Both parties have told me about their experiences and the type of people to watch out for.
As far as you judging me by how I look, think, and my ball size, my picture is there. You can call me ugly or say I look handsome, or ';alright';. It makes no difference to me. I'll respect you all the same :).
As far as in public, I do speak my mind when it's necessary, which is 2% of the time lol. If someone asked me off the computer screen, ';Hey, do you hate women or something? I'm wondering why you're still single.'; I'll tell them the truth and say, ';No, I love women! but I don't feel like I can balance a woman and education at the moment.';
I don't blame anyone for anything that I did wrong or anything that happened to me in this stage of my life. I'd never be myself in that case.
Well let me go down the little list there, starting with your first statement.
- I can be shameless, I admit to that. But if I have to censor a ';theory'; or a ';hypothetical'; question, then the point to make us all ';think'; will not leave its mark. If you get offended by it, then argue against it. Chances are that my question was not personal to me or anyone else, the reader made it personal and therefore decided to make an argument stating that it's personal.
- I already said I love women. If I despised women, I wouldn't be on this forum and if I did despise women so, I would actually come out and make a question that would actually insult females on a whole.
- I love to debate with women. I just don't like to debate over something that I agree with, such as women's equal rights to opportunity. Why debate over something that I support? However, I don't mind asking questions that will strengthen an argument supporting equality.
-Women can be as successful as they want to be. If they want to be housewives, I'd help cook, clean, and take care of the kids for her. If they want to be career women, I'll give them a gas card for their trip to work every day, plus a nice breakfast to get them started. If they want to commit most of their time into feminist rallies, I'd support it in any way possible. Whatever the case, I'd support a woman whole heartedly. But I'm not in a relationship with one so I don't have to do those things lol...But still I do support feminism and its core beliefs.
- I agree with your statement about needing a strong woman. Hell yes. However, strength lies in so many different categories. Me not supporting strong, manipulative women is one of these.
- Without differences, we would all be the same wouldn't we? This can go for everyone.
-I know men and women have their issues. You don't have to tell me that, but I love to see what others think about these issues. But why should I fault all men or all women for these issues when all of them don't commit adultery, sabotage, homicide, or have abusive relationships, or whatever else there is. I refuse to do it.
- I know I don't have such a mindset, but I'm not looking for your approval either. I'm glad I made you get a reaction to my questions and answers.
I don't come on Y/A and spread out myself in these questions. But then again I don't mind being called a villain. ..I think I typed too much lol. Sorry. But in any case, that's my answer for now. If you want to know about anything specific, e-mail me :). Like I stated before, I laugh at everyone's answer equally lol. Everyone is welcomed to :).
Bryan a troll? I actually think he's quite funny and his profile clearly states that he likes to play the devil's advocate.
Yesterday I was quite shocked to find myself agreeing with the very first few words of one of cassius' sentences. Never thought that would happen.
And for the rest...I probably agree with you but I have to admit I skimmed it. It seemed more like a rant to me than a question for discussion.
Go back to school.
Not sure if you're refering to me; I haven't posted much, but I'll put my two cents in.
First off, you are definitely being a sexist by asking men if they have good relationships with their mothers (';...didn鈥檛 your mother love you ...), and if they have balls.
Now keep in mind, I'm coming into the middle of this, and your other remarks are true as far as I know. Your comments certainly aren 't inviting a debate, and show a misandrist side of yourself.
Someone could easily come along and ask you if your father loved you, what with all the references to a lack of balls.
If you really respected men, you wouldn't be such a feminist, an assumption on my part.
If you really respected men, you'd realize the advantages that women have over men in reproductive choice, family and civil law.
If you really respected men you'd be screaming about the fact that men commit suicide at a rate 4 times that of women, instead of complaining about a purported 23 cent pay differential in a country that requires equal pay by law. . Where are your priorities?
If you really respected men, you'd realize that the role of females in society has changed greatly over the past 40 years and now it's time for men and fathers to catch up.
Yes, I'm chiding you and I don't really know you. Excuse me. I'm actually speaking to anyone that claims to be a feminist.
Yes, women still have a ways to go, but the law and societal attitudes have left men at the starting point.
No, feminists don't respect men. They only think of themselves when advocating equality. Today's man is squeezed by the Princess mentality and feminist dogma on the left and the chauvanists and Christians on the right.
We need to learn to respect each other and adopt the attitude that American Liberty is for both sexes. Let Liberty flourish, the chips fall where they may. Honor thy Constitution.
1. You are entitled to being a feminist and I am entitled to hating feminists, its a free country.
2. I love women, real women, not whiny, bi..chy women like... uhhmm... you.
3. I am well packing in that department.
4. I am fighting against feminism as the root of all evil to promote love and understanding between normal men and women. It hurts me to see how feminists brainwash women. I am scared my loved ones could be victims of the evil forces.
5. Pleeeeeaaaaase come up with a more original shaming tactic than oh you hate women, oh you must be ugly, oh you have no balls....
6. Slowly, very slowly pull your head out of your a.s.s......
Thank You!!!!!Guys if your not ready to argue with me in real life I'm NEVER going to take ANYTHING you say seriously!Grow a pair!!!
I love these questions, you know why? Because they always bring out the misandrists in this categories - you and the ones who agree with you.
';Real men need a women who is as strong as they are.';
If a woman was as strong as me then she'd be a man.
It sounds like you need a sex change, to feel how it feels to be a man.
This is what happened to my misandrist ex-wife like you -
http://riverandreef.com.au/news/wp-conte鈥?/a>
Should I choose my husband or my first true love or my current boyfriend? (In love with three men help...)?
Unfortunately, I am in love with three men and I swear to you I'm not trolling. I am in love with my husband, my ex-boyfriend and my current boyfriend. I'm 38 years old and the men I love are more or less my age except for my current boyfriend. I feel terrible for doing this to them and they are all amazing guys. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some advice and opinions. Here's my story:
I met and fell in love with a man named Jerry while we were in college and we dated steadily for over three years(1990-1993). He was my first love and the first man I've ever had sex with. During my fourth year in college in 1993, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Jerry and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Europe, I met Edward. Although I've never seen him around, he was also studying abroad and he was attending the same college as Jerry and me. Edward and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Edward, the farther apart I got from Jerry. When I returned to Los Angeles, I told Jerry that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke his heart. Edward and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1998 and had our son Cody in 2001. Edward and I had a great marriage for the most part except those 2 times I found out he was cheating on me. His last affair was in 2004 and Edward has done an amazing job making it up to me and trying to mend my broken heart. Jerry and I reunited via Myspace in February 2008 through a mutual friend who attended college with us. Jerry is divorced with two children. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Jerry while married to Edward. I still love Jerry but I had no plans on leaving Edward. Jerry feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Edward ';robbed'; him of what he could have had with me. True. In college, Edward did tell me to make a choice between him and Jerry and I chose Edward. I must say that both of them were immature ';jocks'; back in college trying to compete for the same girl. Anyway, after two months of reconnecting with Jerry, Edward found out about him. He was hurt and he moved out in April 2008 but we still remained legally married. How come a woman can forgive her husband for cheating but not the other way around? Although I continued to sleep with Jerry, I didn't commit myself to him. In June 2008, I met Landon. He was single, handsome, 30 years old, smart, funny, fun, mature, no kids etc. Landon and I have been dating ever since and we moved in together two months ago. I'm really in love with this man. Ever since Edward and I separated, we would occasionally sleep together and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Landon now, Edward has a girlfriend of his own. Now, Edward is sick of ';playing games'; with me, he told me if I want to give our marriage another chance he will dump his girlfriend Rose and I'll dump Landon. If not, he's staying with Rose, I'm staying with Landon and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision.
I'm in love with Edward, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Jerry that ruined it all. Not to mention, it breaks my heart when I have to hold my son while he's crying about missing his daddy. But on the other hand, I'm still hurt from Edward's past infidelity so now he knows how it feels to be cheated on. I love Jerry and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed him in college. So I do feel as though I owe him for that. I'm happy with Landon and I love him so much. He treats me with the utmost respect and he's so understanding. I'm sure he knows that I still have feelings for my husband but he has NO idea about Jerry. I don't want to keep doing this. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me?Should I choose my husband or my first true love or my current boyfriend? (In love with three men help...)?
I say Landon, and here's why:
When you left to go study abroad, you knew you were going for a couple of months, And, being as young as you were, you must have known that it would have been entirely possible for you to meet and date someone else. And that did happen. So you dated Edward and realized what a catch he was, married him, and had your son. Everything seemed to have been going great, even though Edward did cheat....but, he's really tried to hold your marriage together, and his affair did not sound like anything serious, like he would have broken up your marriage over the other woman. As for Jerry, sorry but he sounds like a real jerk. If he felt that he was ';robbed'; of you, that is a really childish thing to say, for one thing, but he then felt entitled to have you, even if it was on the side. What a creep!!
Your mistake was going onto myspace and reuniting with Jerry. Things should have been fine with Edward, but you took it way further than just a couple of friendly how-you-doing chats. And you were ultimately responsible for this happening.
To me, it sounds like you can't let go of Jerry and Edward. I'm not sure what you're hanging onto but your life is a bouncing ball between these guys and I can't see what you're getting out of it, especially now that you have a son to take care of. Yes, two of the guys will be hurt but it will be worth it to you to finally just pick ONE and get on with your life. I hate to see you leave Edward since he is your husband but this is what needs to happen. Go with Landon, you love him and he sounds like a great guy.Should I choose my husband or my first true love or my current boyfriend? (In love with three men help...)?
Put the interests of your son first, and not yourself. Then go see a therapist for this chronic lying problem you seem to have. Relationships are built on trust, you don't trust your husband, and you have to lie to the others. Get over yourself, toots, you're freakin' 38. Time to act like an adult.
I hate to say it, but truly loving someone is loving them and them alone. If you can't exclusively love one man, then you don't truly love him. I think you may want to try marriage counseling- it could help you and your husband sort some things out.
You made me mad.
Stay with your husband
she santa will stuff a toy in your stocking..HO HO HO
... I now have a headache
Do all men a favor...put these three on pause and go see a professional therapist. You need to figure 'you' out a little bit more.
Oh goodness gracie Girl! How do you fall in love with 3 guys? Edward, your husband, he cheated on you! TWICE! The first suspicion of unfaithful-ness is when that man should have gone. When you give him second chances, he looses respect for you cause he knows he can love another woman and you not care. He needs to know that not your not going to tolorate this cheating he doing and as long as your around it wont be happening. And did you say you both have other people you are seeing?! That is the most messed-up, weird, unhealthy relationship problem I have EVER herd. Im sorry but come on Girl, Make up your MIND! This isnt high-school, these arent little boys and you cant play with their hearts like this! This is the REAL world and these are GROWN MEN and it shocks me that someone would handle it the way you are. My advice, forget them all. Once thats over, you need to go into your heart and you will find which man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Whether its one of them or not the time to make a decision was a longggg time ago.
I hope i helped hun (:
-Chelsea
I vote Jerry.
Landon seems a little young and Edward is a cheat.
Jerry waited a lifetime for you to come back to him. Seems a bit more devotion then any other man is showing you.
I'd get myself into some counseling to find out what was wrong with me to make me unable to be happy with anyone for long. It sounds like you haven't matured much past high school age. You don't betray those you truly love. Have you sat down and thought about what love is to you, what it means to you? You have some feelings towards three different men, for different reasons. That doesn't mean you are in love with all three of them. Only taking a break from ALL of them and getting to know your own heart is going to make you see things clearly. Saying you are in love w/ three different men sounds like something a man would say, not a woman. Are you certain you aren't a troll?
do not go back with Jerry. YOU DONT OWE HIM ANYTHING. nothing was ';stolen'; from him. that excuse makes me so angry! it's just the way things happened. forget about this meat head. You wrote
';Jerry feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Edward ';robbed'; him of what he could have had with me.';
..............THIS IS A BAD SIGN!!! do you really want the man you choose over your husband/ father of your son to feel like you ';owe'; him something just because you told him it was over and tried to pursue your own life and happiness?? that's a load of crap and obviously he doesnt care about you very much!! a real man would feel guilt about seeing a married woman. if he feels no remorse about letting you cheat on Edward, then he'll feel no remorse about next time he cheats on you. end of story!!!! trust me...
forget about landon. you've known the man two months!! that may have been cool and alright in college, but you're a mother now. you have a huge responsibility on your hands. besides, you're already lying to him just 2 months into the relationship (';he has NO idea about Jerry. I don't want to keep doing this.';). that's a terrible sign. it means bad things for your future with him.
the obvious choice is to stay with your husband. now that you've both cheated on each other, there will be no blaming of ';who did worse,'; although normally i would never, ever reccomend staying with somebody who cheated on you. ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER! so if you stay with your husband, you will both have to really work hard and change. a marriage is a partnership, not a vacation. it is not a dream or fantasy...it is a committment and a challenge. of course it has its rewards, but so does everything. so go back to the father of your son. Cody needs a family. my family exploded into misery and chaos when i was nine and boy, did it suck.
you need to try to put Cody first here and feel lucky that your marriage has (somewhat) survived so much infedelity. Let go of your college and dating days. you're a mother now and you belong with your husband and father of your son, working on your marriage to fix this very sticky situation.
but be VERY delicate with how you handle things. your husband now has at least one other woman in his life (Rose) and you have three. never take your husband and family for granted.
all that being said, i hope you don't take offense to anything i've written. i just genuinely want to help. i don't know you therefore i cannot judge you. but good luck and i hope you are happy in the end.
Ok if this truely is serious, this is a pretty crazy situation. I think that you and your husband need some serious counseling, but it sounds like in every situation you've been in you have always loved Edward. You both cheated and so that puts you back at the same level. IF I was you, I would stay with my Husband. He after all he is your HUSBAND ya know, and it sounds like your child really needs some stability. Be mature and stick to your Husband like an adult, especially for your kid.
You broke my heart when you said he was crying for his Daddy, and I'm not even his Mother. The child needs his Father.
Go to CODA meetings and put my child first. You sound very selfish and like you don't love yourself. need others to validate you. you can really make a nice life for yourself if you put the effort into you instead of 3 men.
Well to me I am sorry but until you figure out what you want I don't think you deserve any of them. Don't be with someone who is going to cheat on you, just because they make it up doesn't mean they wont do it again. If you can't decided who is the right person than maybe none of them are and you just need seperate from all of them and find someone else.
For that you should see http://ehelpp.com
it will be helpful in resolving your problem.keep using answers.yahoo.com
Wow. You need a break from all three of them and to focus on your son. Step back and stop thinking about what you want and do what is best for your son...because at the end of the day... he is the most important ';man'; in your life. He is probably hurting and confused and if you are bringing different men in and out of his life and your husband is doing the same with women then this poor child is going to have more issues than you and your husband ever even thought about.
It is so easy to be in love with more than one person at a time, that is why we only marry one and a time, or if we are dating only date one at a time, it is not fair to either party otherwise. When we behave otherwise it is a reflection of us as a person and not the people we are in the relationship with as a lack in character and backbone.
...................
ok........
stay with ur husband for the sake of your kid
the other two, u had fun with, but fun isn猫t sth u can live on for life..
Edward on the other hand is the one that you've had wonderful marriage with..
marriage is hard to maintain
but since u have alreayd maintained it for so long.. u'll be able to keep going
the other two, who knows what tey'll be like once u r married? o.O
anyway
sounds complicated
but if i were u
i'd stick with my husband
I met and fell in love with a man named Jerry while we were in college and we dated steadily for over three years(1990-1993). He was my first love and the first man I've ever had sex with. During my fourth year in college in 1993, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Jerry and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly breakup. While I was in Europe, I met Edward. Although I've never seen him around, he was also studying abroad and he was attending the same college as Jerry and me. Edward and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. The closer I got to Edward, the farther apart I got from Jerry. When I returned to Los Angeles, I told Jerry that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke his heart. Edward and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1998 and had our son Cody in 2001. Edward and I had a great marriage for the most part except those 2 times I found out he was cheating on me. His last affair was in 2004 and Edward has done an amazing job making it up to me and trying to mend my broken heart. Jerry and I reunited via Myspace in February 2008 through a mutual friend who attended college with us. Jerry is divorced with two children. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Jerry while married to Edward. I still love Jerry but I had no plans on leaving Edward. Jerry feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Edward ';robbed'; him of what he could have had with me. True. In college, Edward did tell me to make a choice between him and Jerry and I chose Edward. I must say that both of them were immature ';jocks'; back in college trying to compete for the same girl. Anyway, after two months of reconnecting with Jerry, Edward found out about him. He was hurt and he moved out in April 2008 but we still remained legally married. How come a woman can forgive her husband for cheating but not the other way around? Although I continued to sleep with Jerry, I didn't commit myself to him. In June 2008, I met Landon. He was single, handsome, 30 years old, smart, funny, fun, mature, no kids etc. Landon and I have been dating ever since and we moved in together two months ago. I'm really in love with this man. Ever since Edward and I separated, we would occasionally sleep together and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Landon now, Edward has a girlfriend of his own. Now, Edward is sick of ';playing games'; with me, he told me if I want to give our marriage another chance he will dump his girlfriend Rose and I'll dump Landon. If not, he's staying with Rose, I'm staying with Landon and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision.
I'm in love with Edward, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Jerry that ruined it all. Not to mention, it breaks my heart when I have to hold my son while he's crying about missing his daddy. But on the other hand, I'm still hurt from Edward's past infidelity so now he knows how it feels to be cheated on. I love Jerry and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed him in college. So I do feel as though I owe him for that. I'm happy with Landon and I love him so much. He treats me with the utmost respect and he's so understanding. I'm sure he knows that I still have feelings for my husband but he has NO idea about Jerry. I don't want to keep doing this. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me?Should I choose my husband or my first true love or my current boyfriend? (In love with three men help...)?
I say Landon, and here's why:
When you left to go study abroad, you knew you were going for a couple of months, And, being as young as you were, you must have known that it would have been entirely possible for you to meet and date someone else. And that did happen. So you dated Edward and realized what a catch he was, married him, and had your son. Everything seemed to have been going great, even though Edward did cheat....but, he's really tried to hold your marriage together, and his affair did not sound like anything serious, like he would have broken up your marriage over the other woman. As for Jerry, sorry but he sounds like a real jerk. If he felt that he was ';robbed'; of you, that is a really childish thing to say, for one thing, but he then felt entitled to have you, even if it was on the side. What a creep!!
Your mistake was going onto myspace and reuniting with Jerry. Things should have been fine with Edward, but you took it way further than just a couple of friendly how-you-doing chats. And you were ultimately responsible for this happening.
To me, it sounds like you can't let go of Jerry and Edward. I'm not sure what you're hanging onto but your life is a bouncing ball between these guys and I can't see what you're getting out of it, especially now that you have a son to take care of. Yes, two of the guys will be hurt but it will be worth it to you to finally just pick ONE and get on with your life. I hate to see you leave Edward since he is your husband but this is what needs to happen. Go with Landon, you love him and he sounds like a great guy.Should I choose my husband or my first true love or my current boyfriend? (In love with three men help...)?
Put the interests of your son first, and not yourself. Then go see a therapist for this chronic lying problem you seem to have. Relationships are built on trust, you don't trust your husband, and you have to lie to the others. Get over yourself, toots, you're freakin' 38. Time to act like an adult.
I hate to say it, but truly loving someone is loving them and them alone. If you can't exclusively love one man, then you don't truly love him. I think you may want to try marriage counseling- it could help you and your husband sort some things out.
You made me mad.
Stay with your husband
she santa will stuff a toy in your stocking..HO HO HO
... I now have a headache
Do all men a favor...put these three on pause and go see a professional therapist. You need to figure 'you' out a little bit more.
Oh goodness gracie Girl! How do you fall in love with 3 guys? Edward, your husband, he cheated on you! TWICE! The first suspicion of unfaithful-ness is when that man should have gone. When you give him second chances, he looses respect for you cause he knows he can love another woman and you not care. He needs to know that not your not going to tolorate this cheating he doing and as long as your around it wont be happening. And did you say you both have other people you are seeing?! That is the most messed-up, weird, unhealthy relationship problem I have EVER herd. Im sorry but come on Girl, Make up your MIND! This isnt high-school, these arent little boys and you cant play with their hearts like this! This is the REAL world and these are GROWN MEN and it shocks me that someone would handle it the way you are. My advice, forget them all. Once thats over, you need to go into your heart and you will find which man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Whether its one of them or not the time to make a decision was a longggg time ago.
I hope i helped hun (:
-Chelsea
I vote Jerry.
Landon seems a little young and Edward is a cheat.
Jerry waited a lifetime for you to come back to him. Seems a bit more devotion then any other man is showing you.
I'd get myself into some counseling to find out what was wrong with me to make me unable to be happy with anyone for long. It sounds like you haven't matured much past high school age. You don't betray those you truly love. Have you sat down and thought about what love is to you, what it means to you? You have some feelings towards three different men, for different reasons. That doesn't mean you are in love with all three of them. Only taking a break from ALL of them and getting to know your own heart is going to make you see things clearly. Saying you are in love w/ three different men sounds like something a man would say, not a woman. Are you certain you aren't a troll?
do not go back with Jerry. YOU DONT OWE HIM ANYTHING. nothing was ';stolen'; from him. that excuse makes me so angry! it's just the way things happened. forget about this meat head. You wrote
';Jerry feels no remorse about dating me because he feels as though Edward ';robbed'; him of what he could have had with me.';
..............THIS IS A BAD SIGN!!! do you really want the man you choose over your husband/ father of your son to feel like you ';owe'; him something just because you told him it was over and tried to pursue your own life and happiness?? that's a load of crap and obviously he doesnt care about you very much!! a real man would feel guilt about seeing a married woman. if he feels no remorse about letting you cheat on Edward, then he'll feel no remorse about next time he cheats on you. end of story!!!! trust me...
forget about landon. you've known the man two months!! that may have been cool and alright in college, but you're a mother now. you have a huge responsibility on your hands. besides, you're already lying to him just 2 months into the relationship (';he has NO idea about Jerry. I don't want to keep doing this.';). that's a terrible sign. it means bad things for your future with him.
the obvious choice is to stay with your husband. now that you've both cheated on each other, there will be no blaming of ';who did worse,'; although normally i would never, ever reccomend staying with somebody who cheated on you. ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER! so if you stay with your husband, you will both have to really work hard and change. a marriage is a partnership, not a vacation. it is not a dream or fantasy...it is a committment and a challenge. of course it has its rewards, but so does everything. so go back to the father of your son. Cody needs a family. my family exploded into misery and chaos when i was nine and boy, did it suck.
you need to try to put Cody first here and feel lucky that your marriage has (somewhat) survived so much infedelity. Let go of your college and dating days. you're a mother now and you belong with your husband and father of your son, working on your marriage to fix this very sticky situation.
but be VERY delicate with how you handle things. your husband now has at least one other woman in his life (Rose) and you have three. never take your husband and family for granted.
all that being said, i hope you don't take offense to anything i've written. i just genuinely want to help. i don't know you therefore i cannot judge you. but good luck and i hope you are happy in the end.
Ok if this truely is serious, this is a pretty crazy situation. I think that you and your husband need some serious counseling, but it sounds like in every situation you've been in you have always loved Edward. You both cheated and so that puts you back at the same level. IF I was you, I would stay with my Husband. He after all he is your HUSBAND ya know, and it sounds like your child really needs some stability. Be mature and stick to your Husband like an adult, especially for your kid.
You broke my heart when you said he was crying for his Daddy, and I'm not even his Mother. The child needs his Father.
Go to CODA meetings and put my child first. You sound very selfish and like you don't love yourself. need others to validate you. you can really make a nice life for yourself if you put the effort into you instead of 3 men.
Well to me I am sorry but until you figure out what you want I don't think you deserve any of them. Don't be with someone who is going to cheat on you, just because they make it up doesn't mean they wont do it again. If you can't decided who is the right person than maybe none of them are and you just need seperate from all of them and find someone else.
For that you should see http://ehelpp.com
it will be helpful in resolving your problem.keep using answers.yahoo.com
Wow. You need a break from all three of them and to focus on your son. Step back and stop thinking about what you want and do what is best for your son...because at the end of the day... he is the most important ';man'; in your life. He is probably hurting and confused and if you are bringing different men in and out of his life and your husband is doing the same with women then this poor child is going to have more issues than you and your husband ever even thought about.
It is so easy to be in love with more than one person at a time, that is why we only marry one and a time, or if we are dating only date one at a time, it is not fair to either party otherwise. When we behave otherwise it is a reflection of us as a person and not the people we are in the relationship with as a lack in character and backbone.
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ok........
stay with ur husband for the sake of your kid
the other two, u had fun with, but fun isn猫t sth u can live on for life..
Edward on the other hand is the one that you've had wonderful marriage with..
marriage is hard to maintain
but since u have alreayd maintained it for so long.. u'll be able to keep going
the other two, who knows what tey'll be like once u r married? o.O
anyway
sounds complicated
but if i were u
i'd stick with my husband
How can you tell a man really loves?
Can a man that truly loves me can at the same time fantasize about me having oral sex with another man?? what does that say about the guy or where I stand?I have read certain emails regarding certain particialr services from guys and girls.. I knwo for a fact he does not have the time to fool around, but why does he tend to enjoy these kind of activiteis.. does this mean he doesnt care about me or love me?? he tells me that he just interestd in their comebacks , he says he just trying to see what they have to say. I hate it that he does that , I dont think he is cheating ..he is a big joker but I cant seem to let go of this filthy side he has. but should it bother me this much where I am having such hard time believing he loves me or trust him. Do you think this kind of a man lives two different lives?? /how can I tell he is really in love with me and watns to be with me?? Or am i too follish to believe taht he is being honest with and that im being played. And i give him evrything. I cook, clean, i have an ectremely healthy sexual appettie..so healthy he cannot keep up with me, so I cant say that i lack sex. Do i need to let go of my 3+ year relationship because of this or can i trust him and stay with him?How can you tell a man really loves?
uh.... unless you want to end up with some sotr of std I would say hit the road!save for retirement
uh.... unless you want to end up with some sotr of std I would say hit the road!
Captain Kirk, I love that guy, a man after your own heart right? Sense of humor, good actor and plays the hero
Yes we would all like to believe that we are electing that type of person, and when we don't we have to face it. And get this aren't they all acting anyway? Or do you believe they are so honest and loyal to us the lowly we the people? We keep playing with this theory following the leader like they are some type of God? They arent they put their pants on the same way , and they are not a super human, it is the public that inflateds that situation in their heads. And that is just crazy. It is one thing to pick someone that makes mistakes? But this is an outrage, these are not mistakes these are catastrophic insults and injuries done to the American People, and Government. We will not be able to pull out of this death,debacle, and disasters easily? Do you get that? Are you seeing the problem here in this country? How do you weasel out of this one? Just change seats and rename the presidency with a new name? The next president is going to catch all the Brunt from Bush.Captain Kirk, I love that guy, a man after your own heart right? Sense of humor, good actor and plays the hero
Did you know that William Shatner had such bad ringing in his ears and for so many years that he contemplated suicide?Captain Kirk, I love that guy, a man after your own heart right? Sense of humor, good actor and plays the hero
what does William shantner have to do with the presidency?
Did you know that William Shatner had such bad ringing in his ears and for so many years that he contemplated suicide?Captain Kirk, I love that guy, a man after your own heart right? Sense of humor, good actor and plays the hero
what does William shantner have to do with the presidency?
What are the poetic terms in the song ';where is the love';?
';Where Is The Love?';
What's wrong with the world, mama
People livin' like they ain't got no mamas
I think the whole world addicted to the drama
Only attracted to things that'll bring you trauma
Overseas, yeah, we try to stop terrorism
But we still got terrorists here livin'
In the USA, the big CIA
The Bloods and The Crips and the KKK
But if you only have love for your own race
Then you only leave space to discriminate
And to discriminate only generates hate
And when you hate then you're bound to get irate, yeah
Madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y'all, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love (Love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love
The love, the love
It just ain't the same, always unchanged
New days are strange, is the world insane
If love and peace is so strong
Why are there pieces of love that don't belong
Nations droppin' bombs
Chemical gasses fillin' lungs of little ones
With ongoin' sufferin' as the youth die young
So ask yourself is the lovin' really gone
So I could ask myself really what is goin' wrong
In this world that we livin' in people keep on givin'
in
Makin' wrong decisions, only visions of them dividends
Not respectin' each other, deny thy brother
A war is goin' on but the reason's undercover
The truth is kept secret, it's swept under the rug
If you never know truth then you never know love
Where's the love, y'all, come on (I don't know)
Where's the truth, y'all, come on (I don't know)
Where's the love, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love (Love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love, the love, the love?
I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder
As I'm gettin' older, y'all, people gets colder
Most of us only care about money makin'
Selfishness got us followin' our wrong direction
Wrong information always shown by the media
Negative images is the main criteria
Infecting the young minds faster than bacteria
Kids wanna act like what they see in the cinema
Yo', whatever happened to the values of humanity
Whatever happened to the fairness in equality
Instead of spreading love we're spreading animosity
Lack of understanding, leading lives away from unity
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feelin' under
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feelin' down
There's no wonder why sometimes I'm feelin' under
Gotta keep my faith alive till love is found
Now ask yourself
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love?
Sing wit me y'all:
One world, one world (We only got)
One world, one world (That's all we got)
One world, one world
And something's wrong wit it (Yeah)
Something's wrong wit it (Yeah)
Something's wrong wit the wo-wo-world, yeah
We only got
(One world, one world)
That's all we got
(One world, one world)What are the poetic terms in the song ';where is the love';?
Look for easy examples of alliteration (repetition of the beginning letter in a line...like tongue twisters)
ex: What's wrong with the world (Rep. of W sound)
Or, are you looking for something else?
What's wrong with the world, mama
People livin' like they ain't got no mamas
I think the whole world addicted to the drama
Only attracted to things that'll bring you trauma
Overseas, yeah, we try to stop terrorism
But we still got terrorists here livin'
In the USA, the big CIA
The Bloods and The Crips and the KKK
But if you only have love for your own race
Then you only leave space to discriminate
And to discriminate only generates hate
And when you hate then you're bound to get irate, yeah
Madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y'all, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love (Love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love
The love, the love
It just ain't the same, always unchanged
New days are strange, is the world insane
If love and peace is so strong
Why are there pieces of love that don't belong
Nations droppin' bombs
Chemical gasses fillin' lungs of little ones
With ongoin' sufferin' as the youth die young
So ask yourself is the lovin' really gone
So I could ask myself really what is goin' wrong
In this world that we livin' in people keep on givin'
in
Makin' wrong decisions, only visions of them dividends
Not respectin' each other, deny thy brother
A war is goin' on but the reason's undercover
The truth is kept secret, it's swept under the rug
If you never know truth then you never know love
Where's the love, y'all, come on (I don't know)
Where's the truth, y'all, come on (I don't know)
Where's the love, y'all
People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love (Love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love, the love, the love?
I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder
As I'm gettin' older, y'all, people gets colder
Most of us only care about money makin'
Selfishness got us followin' our wrong direction
Wrong information always shown by the media
Negative images is the main criteria
Infecting the young minds faster than bacteria
Kids wanna act like what they see in the cinema
Yo', whatever happened to the values of humanity
Whatever happened to the fairness in equality
Instead of spreading love we're spreading animosity
Lack of understanding, leading lives away from unity
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feelin' under
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feelin' down
There's no wonder why sometimes I'm feelin' under
Gotta keep my faith alive till love is found
Now ask yourself
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love?
Sing wit me y'all:
One world, one world (We only got)
One world, one world (That's all we got)
One world, one world
And something's wrong wit it (Yeah)
Something's wrong wit it (Yeah)
Something's wrong wit the wo-wo-world, yeah
We only got
(One world, one world)
That's all we got
(One world, one world)What are the poetic terms in the song ';where is the love';?
Look for easy examples of alliteration (repetition of the beginning letter in a line...like tongue twisters)
ex: What's wrong with the world (Rep. of W sound)
Or, are you looking for something else?
19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
first of, i'm 19.
what i look for in a guy, is not sex; not fake romance; not a 2 day date.
i'm worth more, i deserve better, and all the guys i come across in life, just either want sex, or a 2 day date, with lots and lots of dramas involved; and a little bit of what i call *fake* romance. lying is consistent...and this is really not what i want. and therefore, i pretty much lost my trust over these people.
what i rather want is love; someone who cares, when they speak their words. and know what their talkin about. and they won't lie to me, or take advantage of me. which most guys tend to do these days. i look for someone who will inspire me and appreciate me in everything i do. those are two things i've always lacked. i have some parents who think my dream is a trash. i have a girlfriend who will completely toss out my ambition, coz she thinks it's impossible. and out of ALL THESE PEOPLE, the entire crowd i have, the only person to appreciate it and to say that he knows i will make it, is this guy. 39 year old. has a 13 year old boy. slightly shorter in height. but you know when we have a conversation, we aint talkin romance, we aint talkin how we go to bed, we aint talkin how to fall in love, we're just talkin about a normal life... like what he did to reach his ambition, which is the same as mine, and what i should be doin to reach the same place. at this point, it seems like i can trust NO ONE with myself, not even my parents, because my ambition is just plain bogus to them. i gave my heart out to many people, many guys, that i regret i have, and you know they could never take care of it. even my parents, some people i love so much, like to play my heart like a toy. i see i'm not cared for at all. i know i'm not. and it didn't bother me all this time, until i came across this man. i call him 10 thousand times in a day, just to tell him what i wanna do... and how down i feel. coz i have no one else to tell to. and he will listen...ask questions, NOT once does he seem disturbed, or not interested.....at first i thought we were JUST friends.. and i wanted to keep it that way. but the more i'm talking to him, the more i'm attracted. i hide my feelings way deep down, so he can't tell. but ..... i don't know if it's normal. it could just seem rediculous to you. but it's an event in my life, i wanted to ask about. i don't think he feels the same way about me as i do about him. i don't think he looks at me more than just a friend. even though he just told me yesterday, that he cared about me. but...i just wanted to know, how you would feel about it. even a month back, if somebody had asked me this question, i would've called it SICK because i wasn't in it. now that i am, ..... what's your reaction?19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
stop making it a big deal and nobody will care19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
This is disgusting...
I didn't read it all, but I would feel weird going out with a 19 year old girl. I'm 28.
To the man, it's all about the other connection.
Very weird.
He is almost old enough to be her father.
That is gross.
Its another May-December love affair.
Well if you love him you should marry him if he was 50 or 80 thats a different story but 39 that's sill young so go for it.
Do what you want. Its your life. Its all about maturity not age. I personally think thats too big of an age difference. MAYBE MAYBE 29, but 39 is a bit on the creepy side.
It's very gross. He is dating you for other reasons, and it's mainly because you are 19 and interested in him...
Well, my dad is 41, and he got married almost a decade ago, and he's married to a woman 12 years older than him. It's not sick, really, it's just that love doesn't care about age. HOWEVER, don't scare the guy off hun. Some of the greatest loves of our lives will be for people that won't love us back the same way. Keep it to yourself for now, you don't want to lose such a great friendship. You might make the poor guy uncomfortable if you tell him your feelings, and if it's meant to be, you'll get together later. For now, just revel in the fact that you have such a wonderful guy for a friend.
Out of the ordinary but..stranger things have been known to happen in life. For example, a couple of deers eating a dead coyote...
hes gonna die before you graduate college
date his son and see if thats weird DA
You are closer to being a teen, hence nine teen, than you are to being a woman, dont kid yourself. You will be a woman soon enough, lets hope its before the big P word
oh please, he got you to believe its not about sex?
he knows how to get you
You make it so easy, anyone can read your post and agree you are under his spell, and you think it is that hes your soulmate. This man is only thinking with his little head. Please get smart, just why did he divorce or never marry?
Love who you wanna love!!! Follow your heart.
Do i think it is sick for you to like a 39 year old?
no comment.....
ahhhh, girl i've had points in my life when i could relate to your situation EXACTLY, that's kinda crazy lol! i like older guys too - they have their **** together and they're more mature. from your explanation, it looks like what you really want and need is a good friend, so just make sure that you don't need him more than he needs you. i've learned that the hard way.
i think i speak for most people when i say that it is strange and sort of creepy
but i also think i speak for most people when i say do whatever makes you happy.
you know the dude better than any of us do. if his intentions are as true as yours then the age difference shouldn't matter.
let it unfold...the only thing is you might give up a chance to have children becuz of his age. he may not want them. but who cares about age...if you like him go for it. I dated a guy 18 years older than me and it ended for the same reasons when i dated a guy 3 years older than me. just be careful and dont let your vulnerable side take advantage of you. He may not want to date you becuz of your age so dont push the issue...let it straigtn itself out
wrong window..
You seem to have a history of relationships that have disappointed you and/or made you feel hurt/betrayed. As a general rule, unless you do the personal work to understand your role in those relationships.. and take the uncomfortable time to learn about yourself..to gain personal strength (i.e. learn self love, self trust, self nurturing, feeling self confidence in facing the world, self respect, etc.), you will continue repeating your relationship patterns. This means you are likely to continue embarking on relationships that hurt you and foster your distrust in other people. The fact that you say ';I call him 10 thousand times in a day'; reinforces the idea you are, as an individual, needing work in these areas.
The reason most people view a 39 year old spending so much time ';nurturing'; a 19 year old.. is because most people would perceive this as ';grooming'; for a seduction. Thirty nine year olds generally know how to ';work';women that they want to have sex with. They know how to make women feel important, like they care, etc. etc. etc. While 19 year olds generally don't know themselves very well.. and naturally feel lost and or insecure. This makes for an ';easy target'; for the guy.
I hate to tell you this, but my gut feeling says your once again setting yourself up for a HUGE hurtful disappointment. Generally, guys much older .. interested in insecure women, turn into abusive control freaks.
The fact that he allows you to call ';10,000 times in a day'; indicates he's not too healthy himself. In addition, a question to ask yourself is why is he not interested in any of the millions of women within a decade of his own age? Very odd. Or... is there something about him that women closer to his age are put off by? Just something to consider.
My vote is distance yourself from this guy. Even though you are calling him, my gut tells me he's ';grooming'; you.. and he is a predator.
The fact you've posed this question here suggests that on some level, you sense this too. Something's not right.hair of the dog interest
what i look for in a guy, is not sex; not fake romance; not a 2 day date.
i'm worth more, i deserve better, and all the guys i come across in life, just either want sex, or a 2 day date, with lots and lots of dramas involved; and a little bit of what i call *fake* romance. lying is consistent...and this is really not what i want. and therefore, i pretty much lost my trust over these people.
what i rather want is love; someone who cares, when they speak their words. and know what their talkin about. and they won't lie to me, or take advantage of me. which most guys tend to do these days. i look for someone who will inspire me and appreciate me in everything i do. those are two things i've always lacked. i have some parents who think my dream is a trash. i have a girlfriend who will completely toss out my ambition, coz she thinks it's impossible. and out of ALL THESE PEOPLE, the entire crowd i have, the only person to appreciate it and to say that he knows i will make it, is this guy. 39 year old. has a 13 year old boy. slightly shorter in height. but you know when we have a conversation, we aint talkin romance, we aint talkin how we go to bed, we aint talkin how to fall in love, we're just talkin about a normal life... like what he did to reach his ambition, which is the same as mine, and what i should be doin to reach the same place. at this point, it seems like i can trust NO ONE with myself, not even my parents, because my ambition is just plain bogus to them. i gave my heart out to many people, many guys, that i regret i have, and you know they could never take care of it. even my parents, some people i love so much, like to play my heart like a toy. i see i'm not cared for at all. i know i'm not. and it didn't bother me all this time, until i came across this man. i call him 10 thousand times in a day, just to tell him what i wanna do... and how down i feel. coz i have no one else to tell to. and he will listen...ask questions, NOT once does he seem disturbed, or not interested.....at first i thought we were JUST friends.. and i wanted to keep it that way. but the more i'm talking to him, the more i'm attracted. i hide my feelings way deep down, so he can't tell. but ..... i don't know if it's normal. it could just seem rediculous to you. but it's an event in my life, i wanted to ask about. i don't think he feels the same way about me as i do about him. i don't think he looks at me more than just a friend. even though he just told me yesterday, that he cared about me. but...i just wanted to know, how you would feel about it. even a month back, if somebody had asked me this question, i would've called it SICK because i wasn't in it. now that i am, ..... what's your reaction?19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
stop making it a big deal and nobody will care19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
This is disgusting...
I didn't read it all, but I would feel weird going out with a 19 year old girl. I'm 28.
To the man, it's all about the other connection.
Very weird.
He is almost old enough to be her father.
That is gross.
Its another May-December love affair.
Well if you love him you should marry him if he was 50 or 80 thats a different story but 39 that's sill young so go for it.
Do what you want. Its your life. Its all about maturity not age. I personally think thats too big of an age difference. MAYBE MAYBE 29, but 39 is a bit on the creepy side.
It's very gross. He is dating you for other reasons, and it's mainly because you are 19 and interested in him...
Well, my dad is 41, and he got married almost a decade ago, and he's married to a woman 12 years older than him. It's not sick, really, it's just that love doesn't care about age. HOWEVER, don't scare the guy off hun. Some of the greatest loves of our lives will be for people that won't love us back the same way. Keep it to yourself for now, you don't want to lose such a great friendship. You might make the poor guy uncomfortable if you tell him your feelings, and if it's meant to be, you'll get together later. For now, just revel in the fact that you have such a wonderful guy for a friend.
Out of the ordinary but..stranger things have been known to happen in life. For example, a couple of deers eating a dead coyote...
hes gonna die before you graduate college
date his son and see if thats weird DA
You are closer to being a teen, hence nine teen, than you are to being a woman, dont kid yourself. You will be a woman soon enough, lets hope its before the big P word
oh please, he got you to believe its not about sex?
he knows how to get you
You make it so easy, anyone can read your post and agree you are under his spell, and you think it is that hes your soulmate. This man is only thinking with his little head. Please get smart, just why did he divorce or never marry?
Love who you wanna love!!! Follow your heart.
Do i think it is sick for you to like a 39 year old?
no comment.....
ahhhh, girl i've had points in my life when i could relate to your situation EXACTLY, that's kinda crazy lol! i like older guys too - they have their **** together and they're more mature. from your explanation, it looks like what you really want and need is a good friend, so just make sure that you don't need him more than he needs you. i've learned that the hard way.
i think i speak for most people when i say that it is strange and sort of creepy
but i also think i speak for most people when i say do whatever makes you happy.
you know the dude better than any of us do. if his intentions are as true as yours then the age difference shouldn't matter.
let it unfold...the only thing is you might give up a chance to have children becuz of his age. he may not want them. but who cares about age...if you like him go for it. I dated a guy 18 years older than me and it ended for the same reasons when i dated a guy 3 years older than me. just be careful and dont let your vulnerable side take advantage of you. He may not want to date you becuz of your age so dont push the issue...let it straigtn itself out
wrong window..
You seem to have a history of relationships that have disappointed you and/or made you feel hurt/betrayed. As a general rule, unless you do the personal work to understand your role in those relationships.. and take the uncomfortable time to learn about yourself..to gain personal strength (i.e. learn self love, self trust, self nurturing, feeling self confidence in facing the world, self respect, etc.), you will continue repeating your relationship patterns. This means you are likely to continue embarking on relationships that hurt you and foster your distrust in other people. The fact that you say ';I call him 10 thousand times in a day'; reinforces the idea you are, as an individual, needing work in these areas.
The reason most people view a 39 year old spending so much time ';nurturing'; a 19 year old.. is because most people would perceive this as ';grooming'; for a seduction. Thirty nine year olds generally know how to ';work';women that they want to have sex with. They know how to make women feel important, like they care, etc. etc. etc. While 19 year olds generally don't know themselves very well.. and naturally feel lost and or insecure. This makes for an ';easy target'; for the guy.
I hate to tell you this, but my gut feeling says your once again setting yourself up for a HUGE hurtful disappointment. Generally, guys much older .. interested in insecure women, turn into abusive control freaks.
The fact that he allows you to call ';10,000 times in a day'; indicates he's not too healthy himself. In addition, a question to ask yourself is why is he not interested in any of the millions of women within a decade of his own age? Very odd. Or... is there something about him that women closer to his age are put off by? Just something to consider.
My vote is distance yourself from this guy. Even though you are calling him, my gut tells me he's ';grooming'; you.. and he is a predator.
The fact you've posed this question here suggests that on some level, you sense this too. Something's not right.
19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
first of, i'm 19.
what i look for in a guy, is not sex; not fake romance; not a 2 day date.
i'm worth more, i deserve better, and all the guys i come across in life, just either want sex, or a 2 day date, with lots and lots of dramas involved; and a little bit of what i call *fake* romance. lying is consistent...and this is really not what i want. and therefore, i pretty much lost my trust over these people.
what i rather want is love; someone who cares, when they speak their words. and know what their talkin about. and they won't lie to me, or take advantage of me. which most guys tend to do these days. i look for someone who will inspire me and appreciate me in everything i do. those are two things i've always lacked. i have some parents who think my dream is a trash. i have a girlfriend who will completely toss out my ambition, coz she thinks it's impossible. and out of ALL THESE PEOPLE, the entire crowd i have, the only person to appreciate it and to say that he knows i will make it, is this guy. 39 year old. has a 13 year old boy. slightly shorter in height. but you know when we have a conversation, we aint talkin romance, we aint talkin how we go to bed, we aint talkin how to fall in love, we're just talkin about a normal life... like what he did to reach his ambition, which is the same as mine, and what i should be doin to reach the same place. at this point, it seems like i can trust NO ONE with myself, not even my parents, because my ambition is just plain bogus to them. i gave my heart out to many people, many guys, that i regret i have, and you know they could never take care of it. even my parents, some people i love so much, like to play my heart like a toy. i see i'm not cared for at all. i know i'm not. and it didn't bother me all this time, until i came across this man. i call him 10 thousand times in a day, just to tell him what i wanna do... and how down i feel. coz i have no one else to tell to. and he will listen...ask questions, NOT once does he seem disturbed, or not interested.....at first i thought we were JUST friends.. and i wanted to keep it that way. but the more i'm talking to him, the more i'm attracted. i hide my feelings way deep down, so he can't tell. but ..... i don't know if it's normal. it could just seem rediculous to you. but it's an event in my life, i wanted to ask about. i don't think he feels the same way about me as i do about him. i don't think he looks at me more than just a friend. even though he just told me yesterday, that he cared about me. but...i just wanted to know, how you would feel about it. even a month back, if somebody had asked me this question, i would've called it SICK because i wasn't in it. now that i am, ..... what's your reaction?19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
19 and 39 is stupid to me.19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
depends on the individuals and their interactions and maturity...
sometimes a 24 and 40 year old could be great
sometimes a 24 year old and a 29 year old are a disaster.
wierd yo
I don't see anything wrong with it. Im 25 and my Bf is 40. He has two kids ages 11 and 13 and our relationship and home life is perfectly healthy. As long as its two adults age shouldn't matter. Like he tells everyone when the judgmental people make rude comments ';you cant help where your heart falls.';
Tell him how you feel and if he dosent feel the same way just leave it alone. If he does then go for it!
I don't think it's so bad. As the cliche goes ';age is just a number.';
Coming from a large age gap relationship myself, they aren't so bad, as long as your schedules don't clash and stuff like that. They're just like normal relationships, I think what you're doing is fine. [:
you just need to take it slow, and dont get to ahead of yourself...still remain friends with him, but just dont move to fast. Age is nothing but a number......it's the love that counts.
Guys in the past have hurt u before, but u have the entire world to seek. What u're saying u want in a guy isn't far fetched, it's just patience and being able to pick the good guys from the bad. It's obvious that u don't like to be alone. Sometimes as a person u need that, that way energy is saved to love that great guy u come across someday. This 39yr old, if u were to be with him what happens if u meet a great guy ur age. Can u honestly say if u were with the 39yr old that u won't checkout guys ur own age? Things come in time, don't be dramatic. You're not dying.
age is just a number your both adults it really depends on your maturity level and from what you said here you need support in your life not beet downs from loved ones its wrong and sad but be prepared for those who treat you that way to get even worse if you to get closer
what i look for in a guy, is not sex; not fake romance; not a 2 day date.
i'm worth more, i deserve better, and all the guys i come across in life, just either want sex, or a 2 day date, with lots and lots of dramas involved; and a little bit of what i call *fake* romance. lying is consistent...and this is really not what i want. and therefore, i pretty much lost my trust over these people.
what i rather want is love; someone who cares, when they speak their words. and know what their talkin about. and they won't lie to me, or take advantage of me. which most guys tend to do these days. i look for someone who will inspire me and appreciate me in everything i do. those are two things i've always lacked. i have some parents who think my dream is a trash. i have a girlfriend who will completely toss out my ambition, coz she thinks it's impossible. and out of ALL THESE PEOPLE, the entire crowd i have, the only person to appreciate it and to say that he knows i will make it, is this guy. 39 year old. has a 13 year old boy. slightly shorter in height. but you know when we have a conversation, we aint talkin romance, we aint talkin how we go to bed, we aint talkin how to fall in love, we're just talkin about a normal life... like what he did to reach his ambition, which is the same as mine, and what i should be doin to reach the same place. at this point, it seems like i can trust NO ONE with myself, not even my parents, because my ambition is just plain bogus to them. i gave my heart out to many people, many guys, that i regret i have, and you know they could never take care of it. even my parents, some people i love so much, like to play my heart like a toy. i see i'm not cared for at all. i know i'm not. and it didn't bother me all this time, until i came across this man. i call him 10 thousand times in a day, just to tell him what i wanna do... and how down i feel. coz i have no one else to tell to. and he will listen...ask questions, NOT once does he seem disturbed, or not interested.....at first i thought we were JUST friends.. and i wanted to keep it that way. but the more i'm talking to him, the more i'm attracted. i hide my feelings way deep down, so he can't tell. but ..... i don't know if it's normal. it could just seem rediculous to you. but it's an event in my life, i wanted to ask about. i don't think he feels the same way about me as i do about him. i don't think he looks at me more than just a friend. even though he just told me yesterday, that he cared about me. but...i just wanted to know, how you would feel about it. even a month back, if somebody had asked me this question, i would've called it SICK because i wasn't in it. now that i am, ..... what's your reaction?19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
19 and 39 is stupid to me.19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
depends on the individuals and their interactions and maturity...
sometimes a 24 and 40 year old could be great
sometimes a 24 year old and a 29 year old are a disaster.
wierd yo
I don't see anything wrong with it. Im 25 and my Bf is 40. He has two kids ages 11 and 13 and our relationship and home life is perfectly healthy. As long as its two adults age shouldn't matter. Like he tells everyone when the judgmental people make rude comments ';you cant help where your heart falls.';
Tell him how you feel and if he dosent feel the same way just leave it alone. If he does then go for it!
I don't think it's so bad. As the cliche goes ';age is just a number.';
Coming from a large age gap relationship myself, they aren't so bad, as long as your schedules don't clash and stuff like that. They're just like normal relationships, I think what you're doing is fine. [:
you just need to take it slow, and dont get to ahead of yourself...still remain friends with him, but just dont move to fast. Age is nothing but a number......it's the love that counts.
Guys in the past have hurt u before, but u have the entire world to seek. What u're saying u want in a guy isn't far fetched, it's just patience and being able to pick the good guys from the bad. It's obvious that u don't like to be alone. Sometimes as a person u need that, that way energy is saved to love that great guy u come across someday. This 39yr old, if u were to be with him what happens if u meet a great guy ur age. Can u honestly say if u were with the 39yr old that u won't checkout guys ur own age? Things come in time, don't be dramatic. You're not dying.
age is just a number your both adults it really depends on your maturity level and from what you said here you need support in your life not beet downs from loved ones its wrong and sad but be prepared for those who treat you that way to get even worse if you to get closer
What makes a female become cold hearted towards a man when she finds out he is a good man who loves her?
My girlfriend was was the best girlfriend in the world for the first three months of our relationship. Then when I started showing her my love,and giving her alot of attetion,she started treating me like crap. After being in the relationship for about 6 months she cheated on me. She didn't act as if it were a big deal,and she said maybe it was time for me to move on. She said that she would probably do it again and that rather than to keep hurting me again and again she would just let me go. Then about three weeks later she called me and ask me to come back to her because she missed me and that I was the only one who treated her like somebody. I've been back with her for about a month and she is already acting crappy again. She claims she loves me,but she doesn't know how to show it. She said showing emotions is stupid. she said it's better when you can just have casual sex with men no strings attached because that way you don't get emotionally involved and get hurt.What makes a female become cold hearted towards a man when she finds out he is a good man who loves her?
She's definitely taking you for granted. I suggest to not put in your time/effort with her if she will not treat you nicely how you're treating her.What makes a female become cold hearted towards a man when she finds out he is a good man who loves her?
dude .,dont get involved too much,kill her off slowly,so if she retailates u wont get hurt,she doesnt love u ,she just doesnt have any alternative right now ,when one comes up ,down the toilet u go,hurt and all battered and she wont feel a thing.enjoy what u can get ,
mb u are rong
For all the single ones out there looking for romance:
http://gogo.kubera.ro/passion/passion.html
RUN! she's very immature and doesn't recognize your value. Immature girls tend to lean towards guys that treat them rotten.
she's right...
its a girl thing
She just told you what she wants. No strings attached just casual sex and doesn't want to get emotionally involved. If that's what you want stay with her if not leave her and don't look back. Find someone who wants to be with you and you only.
Get rid of her, she is like a bad rash. If you don't get rid of her now, things are only going to get worse.
she took advantage of you, and she'll keep doing this. don't let her take you for granted, let her kow that you won't tolerate a one way relationship. leave her and find yourself a real woman
Insecurity. Has never had anyone love her unconditionally. So she is running scared and this is her way of shoving you away, because she thinks you are going to hurt her sooner or later.
shes scared shes gonna get hurt so she'd rather be the one doing the hurting.
Well, from what you've said this girl has a lot of emotional issues. You sound like a nice man. You should go find yourself a good girl who appreciates being treated nice. By the way, when a girl (or even a guy) says that ';they will probably just do it again and keep hurting you,'; what will usually end up happening is that they cheat on you or treat you terrible, and when they do, they say, ';well, it's not like I didn't warn you'; and they blame you!
It is very difficult when you love someone who can take or leave you, and that is what you got there--you care for more a lot more than she is capable of caring for you. As soon as something better floats by, she's going to dump you. I think you need to protect yourself and ease on back out of that relationship.
SHe's not ready for a relationship yet that gives that emotional attachment. The more you give -the more you're going to get hurt--I think she wants to -but I think she afraid to--so unti lshe's ready--it's going to be-no strings attached and she's going to be a wild child.
She's a superficial B*tch - plain and simple. She's going for the ';rode hard and put back wet look'; sweetie.
You're better off without her. I've seen women behave just like this and in 5 years or less, she's going to look like she's had no strings too. Rough around the edges and worn out.
Would you really want someone like this raising your children - much less having your children.....can you say ';prison for life?'; and with a warden from hell!
Run fast and don't look back.......there are good women out there that appreciate being loved and treated with respect. This one has no self respect.....therefore, she cannot recognize the respect that you are wanting to give to her. *tosses thumb* she's outta here! *W*
The girl you're dating is using you. She obviously doesn't care about you (if she did, why would she still be treating you so horribly?), so just leave her already. You won't be able to find a woman who loves you and treats you well if you're dating this witch.
When she is one of those stupid ignorant B%26gt;I%26gt;T%26gt;C%26gt;H%26gt;E%26gt;S%26gt; that would rather be with a piece of crap that treats her like crap than be with a nice guy like you.I have been with one woman that told me I was too nice and not enough of a challenge.Fortunately I have found a normal woman who appreciates a nice guy.To all you dumb broads who want a challenge dont come crying about your man treating you like crap or beating you etc.You made your own bed have fun lying in it.
get rid of her now!!!!!!!! she's immature and self centered. if you stay make sure you use protection so you don't catch anything from her.
umm.. she is a ho. let her go.
A female in her right mind would cherish a man like you. Don't blame yourself or birth a hatred toward women in your heart. Unfortunately there are bloodsucking, life-force draining man-eaters out there in a good girls disguise... you just happen to have found one.
Take out the trash and get rid of this girl for good.
First...you are a fool to go back to a woman that has cheated on you!!! When a woman that is faithful is treating you like crap then you are prolly just being too CLINGY...it's like that little puppy dog that follows you around and pees on you on a regular basis just to mark his territory...it gets really annoying...When a woman that is known for cheating, and yours is...it's usually but not always that she is already cheating again!!! There is also the possibility that she is only using you for something like sex, drugs, or money...and she doesn't really love you but will try to get you to believe that she does, meanwhile you still aren't getting the love and respect and sex that you need to be truly happy...Dump her and get a real woman...like someone that won't cheat...nice guys always suffer don't they...
She's absolutely right. Some of us just don't have any time for emotions 鈥?we have far more important things to do. Casual sex, however, is what we do for fun in our time between that spent at our careers, hobbies, and friendships. She's probably more interested in having you as a FwB than a boyfriend. I would try it if I were you.
She's definitely taking you for granted. I suggest to not put in your time/effort with her if she will not treat you nicely how you're treating her.What makes a female become cold hearted towards a man when she finds out he is a good man who loves her?
dude .,dont get involved too much,kill her off slowly,so if she retailates u wont get hurt,she doesnt love u ,she just doesnt have any alternative right now ,when one comes up ,down the toilet u go,hurt and all battered and she wont feel a thing.enjoy what u can get ,
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http://gogo.kubera.ro/passion/passion.html
RUN! she's very immature and doesn't recognize your value. Immature girls tend to lean towards guys that treat them rotten.
she's right...
its a girl thing
She just told you what she wants. No strings attached just casual sex and doesn't want to get emotionally involved. If that's what you want stay with her if not leave her and don't look back. Find someone who wants to be with you and you only.
Get rid of her, she is like a bad rash. If you don't get rid of her now, things are only going to get worse.
she took advantage of you, and she'll keep doing this. don't let her take you for granted, let her kow that you won't tolerate a one way relationship. leave her and find yourself a real woman
Insecurity. Has never had anyone love her unconditionally. So she is running scared and this is her way of shoving you away, because she thinks you are going to hurt her sooner or later.
shes scared shes gonna get hurt so she'd rather be the one doing the hurting.
Well, from what you've said this girl has a lot of emotional issues. You sound like a nice man. You should go find yourself a good girl who appreciates being treated nice. By the way, when a girl (or even a guy) says that ';they will probably just do it again and keep hurting you,'; what will usually end up happening is that they cheat on you or treat you terrible, and when they do, they say, ';well, it's not like I didn't warn you'; and they blame you!
It is very difficult when you love someone who can take or leave you, and that is what you got there--you care for more a lot more than she is capable of caring for you. As soon as something better floats by, she's going to dump you. I think you need to protect yourself and ease on back out of that relationship.
SHe's not ready for a relationship yet that gives that emotional attachment. The more you give -the more you're going to get hurt--I think she wants to -but I think she afraid to--so unti lshe's ready--it's going to be-no strings attached and she's going to be a wild child.
She's a superficial B*tch - plain and simple. She's going for the ';rode hard and put back wet look'; sweetie.
You're better off without her. I've seen women behave just like this and in 5 years or less, she's going to look like she's had no strings too. Rough around the edges and worn out.
Would you really want someone like this raising your children - much less having your children.....can you say ';prison for life?'; and with a warden from hell!
Run fast and don't look back.......there are good women out there that appreciate being loved and treated with respect. This one has no self respect.....therefore, she cannot recognize the respect that you are wanting to give to her. *tosses thumb* she's outta here! *W*
The girl you're dating is using you. She obviously doesn't care about you (if she did, why would she still be treating you so horribly?), so just leave her already. You won't be able to find a woman who loves you and treats you well if you're dating this witch.
When she is one of those stupid ignorant B%26gt;I%26gt;T%26gt;C%26gt;H%26gt;E%26gt;S%26gt; that would rather be with a piece of crap that treats her like crap than be with a nice guy like you.I have been with one woman that told me I was too nice and not enough of a challenge.Fortunately I have found a normal woman who appreciates a nice guy.To all you dumb broads who want a challenge dont come crying about your man treating you like crap or beating you etc.You made your own bed have fun lying in it.
get rid of her now!!!!!!!! she's immature and self centered. if you stay make sure you use protection so you don't catch anything from her.
umm.. she is a ho. let her go.
A female in her right mind would cherish a man like you. Don't blame yourself or birth a hatred toward women in your heart. Unfortunately there are bloodsucking, life-force draining man-eaters out there in a good girls disguise... you just happen to have found one.
Take out the trash and get rid of this girl for good.
First...you are a fool to go back to a woman that has cheated on you!!! When a woman that is faithful is treating you like crap then you are prolly just being too CLINGY...it's like that little puppy dog that follows you around and pees on you on a regular basis just to mark his territory...it gets really annoying...When a woman that is known for cheating, and yours is...it's usually but not always that she is already cheating again!!! There is also the possibility that she is only using you for something like sex, drugs, or money...and she doesn't really love you but will try to get you to believe that she does, meanwhile you still aren't getting the love and respect and sex that you need to be truly happy...Dump her and get a real woman...like someone that won't cheat...nice guys always suffer don't they...
She's absolutely right. Some of us just don't have any time for emotions 鈥?we have far more important things to do. Casual sex, however, is what we do for fun in our time between that spent at our careers, hobbies, and friendships. She's probably more interested in having you as a FwB than a boyfriend. I would try it if I were you.
19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
first of, i'm 19.
what i look for in a guy, is not sex; not fake romance; not a 2 day date.
i'm worth more, i deserve better, and all the guys i come across in life, just either want sex, or a 2 day date, with lots and lots of dramas involved; and a little bit of what i call *fake* romance. lying is consistent...and this is really not what i want. and therefore, i pretty much lost my trust over these people.
what i rather want is love; someone who cares, when they speak their words. and know what their talkin about. and they won't lie to me, or take advantage of me. which most guys tend to do these days. i look for someone who will inspire me and appreciate me in everything i do. those are two things i've always lacked. i have some parents who think my dream is a trash. i have a girlfriend who will completely toss out my ambition, coz she thinks it's impossible. and out of ALL THESE PEOPLE, the entire crowd i have, the only person to appreciate it and to say that he knows i will make it, is this guy. 39 year old. has a 13 year old boy. slightly shorter in height. but you know when we have a conversation, we aint talkin romance, we aint talkin how we go to bed, we aint talkin how to fall in love, we're just talkin about a normal life... like what he did to reach his ambition, which is the same as mine, and what i should be doin to reach the same place. at this point, it seems like i can trust NO ONE with myself, not even my parents, because my ambition is just plain bogus to them. i gave my heart out to many people, many guys, that i regret i have, and you know they could never take care of it. even my parents, some people i love so much, like to play my heart like a toy. i see i'm not cared for at all. i know i'm not. and it didn't bother me all this time, until i came across this man. i call him 10 thousand times in a day, just to tell him what i wanna do... and how down i feel. coz i have no one else to tell to. and he will listen...ask questions, NOT once does he seem disturbed, or not interested.....at first i thought we were JUST friends.. and i wanted to keep it that way. but the more i'm talking to him, the more i'm attracted. i hide my feelings way deep down, so he can't tell. but ..... i don't know if it's normal. it could just seem rediculous to you. but it's an event in my life, i wanted to ask about. i don't think he feels the same way about me as i do about him. i don't think he looks at me more than just a friend. even though he just told me yesterday, that he cared about me. but...i just wanted to know, how you would feel about it. even a month back, if somebody had asked me this question, i would've called it SICK because i wasn't in it. now that i am, ..... what's your reaction?19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
hi 39 is a very good age in life y know. i'm around that. men tend to find their feet around this time. all these silly boys u are meeting nowadays - a good %age of them would also grow up to be that way.
U are reacting to a person who is at a much later stage in life - and that is v attractive I know. I always tend to attract v young guys who tell me the girls are so sick they like a woman. but u know all those girls will grow up too - i was one just like them earlier.
such an age gap ESP WHEN U ARE SO YOUNG, is a bad idea. take it as an experince.
now for the boys who break your heart. learn their immature ways - they are in it for fun, boasting to other guys and other immature stuff like that - most young boys are like that. so have fun yourself, don't seek love yet dear u are too young (I know women/ girls always do - thats why we get used coz we dont understand early enough what men are seeking)
have fun, little care though use your discretion and don't give in to guys. whatever they tell u - cut it by half (or most of it is a lie often - though they mean it; they are just confused and so hurt and confuse u too). Dont run away from your age - stay there. 39 man - avoid is my advice to u.19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
I think that he realizes that he is twice as old as you, and doesn't even think for a second that you would ever like him, or love him.
Sooo, I'm a strong believer in ';whatever floats ur boat';, but I don't think that he even knows.
All I know is that you are going to upset a lot of ppl if you two get together.
But thats up to you.
My daughter got married at 18 to a 40 year old man.
They are in love, happy, laugh all the time, enjoy lots of the same interests, treat each other with love and respect...she smiles all the time when she talks about him...they have been married 3 years now and I couldn't ask for a better life for her.
So, I think it's about the two souls involved..follow your heart..do pay any mind to society...they got it twisted over 2000 years ago.
yeah yeah blah blah you are so typical 19, all the while he's being 'mr. nice guy' he's thinking about you in the sack,
what else do you have to offer? your experiences? your opinions? lol
of course he is agreeable he wants your body.
I was 18 dating a 35 year old man. We had a lot in commonn more than just sex. People don't understand that you can't always choose who you fall in love with I say go for it. Don't deny yourself love because it's not politically correct.
Good Luck.
Open your heart just to see what happens
what i look for in a guy, is not sex; not fake romance; not a 2 day date.
i'm worth more, i deserve better, and all the guys i come across in life, just either want sex, or a 2 day date, with lots and lots of dramas involved; and a little bit of what i call *fake* romance. lying is consistent...and this is really not what i want. and therefore, i pretty much lost my trust over these people.
what i rather want is love; someone who cares, when they speak their words. and know what their talkin about. and they won't lie to me, or take advantage of me. which most guys tend to do these days. i look for someone who will inspire me and appreciate me in everything i do. those are two things i've always lacked. i have some parents who think my dream is a trash. i have a girlfriend who will completely toss out my ambition, coz she thinks it's impossible. and out of ALL THESE PEOPLE, the entire crowd i have, the only person to appreciate it and to say that he knows i will make it, is this guy. 39 year old. has a 13 year old boy. slightly shorter in height. but you know when we have a conversation, we aint talkin romance, we aint talkin how we go to bed, we aint talkin how to fall in love, we're just talkin about a normal life... like what he did to reach his ambition, which is the same as mine, and what i should be doin to reach the same place. at this point, it seems like i can trust NO ONE with myself, not even my parents, because my ambition is just plain bogus to them. i gave my heart out to many people, many guys, that i regret i have, and you know they could never take care of it. even my parents, some people i love so much, like to play my heart like a toy. i see i'm not cared for at all. i know i'm not. and it didn't bother me all this time, until i came across this man. i call him 10 thousand times in a day, just to tell him what i wanna do... and how down i feel. coz i have no one else to tell to. and he will listen...ask questions, NOT once does he seem disturbed, or not interested.....at first i thought we were JUST friends.. and i wanted to keep it that way. but the more i'm talking to him, the more i'm attracted. i hide my feelings way deep down, so he can't tell. but ..... i don't know if it's normal. it could just seem rediculous to you. but it's an event in my life, i wanted to ask about. i don't think he feels the same way about me as i do about him. i don't think he looks at me more than just a friend. even though he just told me yesterday, that he cared about me. but...i just wanted to know, how you would feel about it. even a month back, if somebody had asked me this question, i would've called it SICK because i wasn't in it. now that i am, ..... what's your reaction?19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
hi 39 is a very good age in life y know. i'm around that. men tend to find their feet around this time. all these silly boys u are meeting nowadays - a good %age of them would also grow up to be that way.
U are reacting to a person who is at a much later stage in life - and that is v attractive I know. I always tend to attract v young guys who tell me the girls are so sick they like a woman. but u know all those girls will grow up too - i was one just like them earlier.
such an age gap ESP WHEN U ARE SO YOUNG, is a bad idea. take it as an experince.
now for the boys who break your heart. learn their immature ways - they are in it for fun, boasting to other guys and other immature stuff like that - most young boys are like that. so have fun yourself, don't seek love yet dear u are too young (I know women/ girls always do - thats why we get used coz we dont understand early enough what men are seeking)
have fun, little care though use your discretion and don't give in to guys. whatever they tell u - cut it by half (or most of it is a lie often - though they mean it; they are just confused and so hurt and confuse u too). Dont run away from your age - stay there. 39 man - avoid is my advice to u.19 year old woman, 39 year old man. weird? but isn't *love* about the connection of two souls?
I think that he realizes that he is twice as old as you, and doesn't even think for a second that you would ever like him, or love him.
Sooo, I'm a strong believer in ';whatever floats ur boat';, but I don't think that he even knows.
All I know is that you are going to upset a lot of ppl if you two get together.
But thats up to you.
My daughter got married at 18 to a 40 year old man.
They are in love, happy, laugh all the time, enjoy lots of the same interests, treat each other with love and respect...she smiles all the time when she talks about him...they have been married 3 years now and I couldn't ask for a better life for her.
So, I think it's about the two souls involved..follow your heart..do pay any mind to society...they got it twisted over 2000 years ago.
yeah yeah blah blah you are so typical 19, all the while he's being 'mr. nice guy' he's thinking about you in the sack,
what else do you have to offer? your experiences? your opinions? lol
of course he is agreeable he wants your body.
I was 18 dating a 35 year old man. We had a lot in commonn more than just sex. People don't understand that you can't always choose who you fall in love with I say go for it. Don't deny yourself love because it's not politically correct.
Good Luck.
Open your heart just to see what happens
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