Thursday, October 28, 2010

How long do you date before becoming exclusive?

I am recently divorced and getting into dating scene after 7 years absence. I always believed monogamy/exclusivity started the moment you begin seriously dating someone. I'm wondering what everyone else's opinions are.



Here are some details on why I'm asking:

I've been on 3 dates with a guy and we've had sex and I've stayed over at his place a couple times. During our alone time he tells me he thinks he's falling in love with me, is planning our summer together and even wants to plan a trip together. I thought this was wonderful, but then when I asked him about his thoughts on being monogamous he said he wanted to get to know me better. So he technically didn't answer my question and I'm left to believe he's having sex with other people. It dumbstruck me that he was able to say all these wonderful unexpected things, but then leads me to believe he's still having sex with other people.



Is this normal behavior on the dating scene? That you meet/date someone that you can see yourself 'seriously dating' but still sleep around to keep your options open? I don't get it.



(BTW, I am a gay man, so I don't need 'men are pigs' statements)How long do you date before becoming exclusive?
1 day.How long do you date before becoming exclusive?
SO YOUR A GUY SEEING A GUY RIGHT?



IN THE GAY WORLD NOW, THERE ARE NO RELATIONSHIPS, ITS JUST SEX AS SAD AS THAT SOUNDS AND HES JUST PLAYING YOU, ITS OK ITS HAPPEND TO ME BEFOR TOO



AND YES MEN ARE PIGS BUT NOT JUST THAT THEY ARE ASSWIPE SEX CRAZY ';PIGS';



but what do i know, only know ones got a heart anymore!

Ladies Only Please!!!!! U know you love your man but one day he just makes you mad and you leave town...?

for a weekend fling with a soldier about to leave for Iraq...Do you really love your man.. or how could someone say they love their man if they would cheat on them like that?? Keep in mind.. you have been with your man for some years and you have never cheated before... what do you think would make you cheat this time??? and would you feel bad about it?? help me out...Ladies Only Please!!!!! U know you love your man but one day he just makes you mad and you leave town...?
Even though you love someone, that does not mean that you will always be faithful and things will never go wrong. However, in order for you to cheat on your significant other there has to be a reason. Either because you are not completely happy in the relationship or because you think this other person will give you something you don't already have. If you are really sorry about what happened, even though it will be extremely hard you need to tell him the truth about what happened. If he decides to stay with you he needs to know what happened and that it might happen again.Ladies Only Please!!!!! U know you love your man but one day he just makes you mad and you leave town...?
If you truely love someone, you would never cheat on them. If somehow you did do it, you would be eaten up with guilt.

How hard is it to keep the pledge to the He-Man Woman Haters Club?

I hate women, and I want to vow to the pledge. The pledge says



I... (YOUR NAME)... Member in good standing of the He-Man Woman Haters Club... Do solemnly swear to be a he-man and hate women and not play with them or talk to them unless I have to. And especially: never fall in love, and if I do may I die slowly and painfully and suffer for hours - or until I scream bloody murder.



Have any of you successfully kept the pledge?How hard is it to keep the pledge to the He-Man Woman Haters Club?
Even Al Bundy married Peg, so he blew keeping the pledge.How hard is it to keep the pledge to the He-Man Woman Haters Club?
Do they really allow people aged seven to post on G%26amp;WS these days?
There is a gay section of Y.A.....no women there
Time to go back to the play ground in the kiddie realm
There is no pledge.



Go back into your
When did they let you out of the mental hospital? Your bridge was supposedly on the lowest level in there....damn security gaurds.
Even Alfalfa couldn't successfully keep the pledge when Darla was around, and he was a charter member. Good luck, though.

I'm in love with a married man, need advice please.?

I am in love with a married man and no he has not cheated on his wife with me nor have we had any intentions or talked in a sexual or relationship way. It all started when we where young 10-11 years old he came with my brother from america to china to visit with him and spend the summer here(yes he is american and white that doesn't matter to me). While he was down here i got to know him very well and he actually one day stopped me from being raped and saved my life all at the same time. From that day i became entranced with him he sat along my bed side all night as i cried and shivered in fear and he just silently sat there not saying any thing or doing any thing just there. Threw that summer we hung out allot and he became a really good friend and i wanted it to be more but we both knew he had to go back to america after the summer was up he also treated me in a way like a sister (very frustrating when you love some one). So when he want back we kept in contact emailed each other at least once a week and he has always sent me a birthday gift. We have visited each other threw out the years when possible. then about 4 years ago i got married and it ended up being to an abusive man and he got married about 5 months later. Well i got divorced about 1 year ago and he is still married and we still talk. But i can't see loving any one else but him we are both close to our thirties now and his marrige is in a rough spot and i seceritly wish he would divorce her so that i can try and get him. He has a daughter and he just adores him i want that type of man. Every man i find doesn't even come close to the type of man his is no one is as great of a person and i can't see loving any one else. i Send him a long email about 3 days ago telling him how i felt and he said this in responce. I love you but i am married now i will always love you as family but as for right now i am married and have a daughter i can't just walk away from this';

I understand his point but i can't help loveing him and if i could i would clone him so that he can stay married and i can have the copy to keep all to my self. I can't ecplaine why i love this man so much nor can i just forget about him he feels like the one, my body mind and soul long for him but he isn't advailable. We will always be good friends and i wont try and mess up or interfear with his marrige i am not that type of woman. Any advice on how to get over him or get to the point not every man has to stack up to him i can just be happy with a good man?

thank you for your adviceI'm in love with a married man, need advice please.?
As hard as it might seem, you need to move on and find someone who is available to receive your love.



Good luck!

How long do you wait for the man you love..that's already in a relationship but says he want to be with you

unfortunatly he is in a relationship with a women who he has been with for a long time has two kids with her but in all that time we have kept in touch recently we have spend a lot of time together..reuniting our love we know is so special,during this time I was also in a relationship but our relationship was not working (maybe cause i didnt love him) so we have recently split. I am I being selfish..wanting to know where I stand now with this person I love..I fine myself wanting to be with him more each day...but..he says he can only see me certain times cause his family need him ,and i undestand that...but if he says he love me and all this time have gone by..why waste it being somewhere you dont really want to be I feel he can be with me and still see his kids

like he wants..and he never tell me his true feelings of her..only

what he thinks i want to hear..but i wish he would tell me the truth

AM I traveling down heartbreak road?How long do you wait for the man you love..that's already in a relationship but says he want to be with you
u shouldnt wait for him...its a waist of time and energy...move onHow long do you wait for the man you love..that's already in a relationship but says he want to be with you
I'm not reading the paragraph, all i read was the title of ur short story lol, the answer is nooooooooooooo, u never ever wait for some1, listen if im in a relationship and I like this other chick alot more I'll dump mine and get the other 1. If I'm making the other 1 wait bro im just using her.
If he really loved you, he would have left his girlfriend long ago. Stop waiting for him, he's not worth your time.
ummm think about it. Do you really want someone who is gonna cheat on someone else to be with you. What makes you think he wont do the same to you? There are some many things wrong here. He is in a relationship involving children. He is talking to you on the side. Lets face it, your not starting out on the right foot and what goes around comes around. and not only that, but you are wasting your time.. Hes not gonna leave her. Never, not gonna happen. If he wanted you he would have left already. But Im telling you, a relationship with this man and yourself starting off the way it is, not a good future. Your gonna both have trust issues and you are gonna hurt alot of people for your own selfishness. Sorry you may

not want to hear it, but thats the bitter truth.
Good luck with that! You may be waiting forever. Get out of this and find somebody else. You are trying to hold onto something that isn't yours. You are his escape from reality. Cut all ties and move on!
keep your options open. see different people then you will be able to decide if you want to wait or not.
The truth is right there in front of you, you're just not ready to accept it. He has chosen to stay with this other woman and his children, he has not chosen to make a break and be with you. He may change his mind ';some day;'; do you really want to put your life on hold?
You answer your own question..and he will never tell you that truth that you are dying to know about his wife..You are only selfish for being or wanting someone who is already attached and for a very long time..and with children. As a woman you do have a right to the truth and whether you get that much it is the million dollar question..Good Luck.
I wouldn't go there if her is still living with his wife. If he is serious about not wanting to be with her, he would leave and until he does that I would really look at the situation. The term actions speak louder than words. I hope this helps and good luck.
They have a name for that HOMEWRECKER. If he is cheating on his wife what makes you think he won't do the same to you? Get your own man. Would you want another woman waiting for your man to leave you? He might just be telling you he doesn't love his wife. I'm sure he's not telling her that. Yeah ';heartbreak road'; his wife's heart and his kids' heart. GET YOUR OWN MAN.
Let me start off by saying I'm sorry but i really don't believe this relationship could work it started all wrong and even if you two do get together you still have to wonder if he will cheat on you the same way hes cheating on his family now.he also could be stringing you along just to get a joy ride out of you, how sure or you that hes serious about leaving his family for you? he has two kids who's tied with him for the rest of his and their life or you really ready for this? my advice to you is to drop the zero hes not worth it, you just got out of a relationship so just enjoy being single for a while someone else will come along one day...
DO NOT WAIT FOR THIS GUY!!!

if he really wants to be with you he would be. I have been in this situation before and I let it take over my life.

Are you sleeping with him? If so, stop! Unless it doesn't bother you that he is sleeping with her as well???!!!

Sweetheart I no what its like to be that other woman with all the promises and passion but its all an illusion. Men like to have their cake and eat it too. Even if he does care for you, its obviously not enough because if he cared for you hed no that you deserve better than that and hed either chose to be with you only or tell you to find someone who will.

Speaking also from experience... sometimes us girls want what we cant have but be careful because if you do eventually get it which is not likely but possible because I did, You may not like what you actually got. The number one question in your mind will ALWAYS be if he wasn't faithful to her who says he wont do the same thing to me??

There are plenty of available men out there and if being with a man that is already taken appeals to you then you may have some serious issues that need to be dealt with that have nothing to do with this guy.

I could go on about this because a similar experience ruined about 4 years of my life. If you want to talk let me know.

Good luck!
You should not wait another minute. Go on with your life, or make him make a choice.



He is cheating on his wife. He is betraying his family and you! Who would want someone that can so easily be with you and then go be with another woman ~ like it was nothing!



If you get him through cheating you will loose him the same way. There is always two sides to every story. Would you believe that chances are this other woman hasn't got a clue that you even exist. She is probably comfortably under the impression that every thing is great between the two of them.



Oh, I wish there were another way -but the odds are against you. I'm sorry.



There are way too many available men out there for you to feel it necessary to take another woman's man anyway.You take him from his obligations and responsibilities at home. He should be taking junior to his t-ball practice or his daughter to driving lessons or something.



I'm not saying his life doesn't need help, all I'm saying is he doesn't need to be having an affair either. Let him make a choice. Let him take the time to end it with her before anymore goes on between the two of you.





Why buy the milk if you can get the cow for free?

Can you keep having sex with a man without getting feelings for him and falling in love?

I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years. This past January I was very depressed from a couple of deaths that occured in my family and his male cousin was there to console me. Well, before I knew it, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. There has always been an attraction between us, but he knew that I was in a relationship and so was he. Here it is October, and we are still having sex on occasion. I have tried to stop seeing him, but I can't. I have already began having feelings for him. Is it possible that he could be having feelings for me also since he does call himself ';boyfriend #2.'; I am a grown woman and I know what I am doing. I just don't see how we can continue having sex without getting any feelings involved or possibly even falling in love. Can you please help me.Can you keep having sex with a man without getting feelings for him and falling in love?
Someone told me something like this ';Woman gives sex for love and Man gives love for sex';. Please make up your mind whom you want to be with. You should watch this movie called Picture Perfect. There are guys who don't mind to have uncommitted relationship/sex with engaged/married girls cos they were never seriously want to be with those girls in the first place.Can you keep having sex with a man without getting feelings for him and falling in love?
Yes, it happens a lot unfortunately.
I hope your boyfriend reads this and punches you in the ovaries!
only a fool would fall in love because your taking down penis...



think about it....you're a piece of meat to him
some guys can have sex with no feelings, some can't. it depends on the guy.



if i may say so, i think if you wish to be at all considerate, your concern at this point should not the whether or not this other guys has feelings for you. your concern should be how best to tell your fiance and possibly let him leave you with some sense of dignity. sure he may never find out, but what if he does? let him live his own life, a life without there being another man in the life of the woman who should only have him as her man.



once you have let him go, then wonder if this other guy has feelings for you.



am not judging you, but at this point i feel sorry for the fiance.
You can catch feeling but I am sure he isn't in the slightest catching feelings. A man can separate sex and emotions very well, hence the fact that they are prone to more one night stands than women. Men have the instincts for the need to spread their seed around Timbuktu, Women on the other hand are the givers of life and tend to become more emotionally attached to any sexual partner they have. We are hormonally not able to separate feelings from the physical aspects of relationships. I suggest you end the affair before you truly get hurt.
Do you guys have things in common? Do you guys have special times together beside just sex? If the answer is yes then you guys do have feelings, but if it is just basically sex, then he and you just enjoy having sex and there is no feelings involed.
duct tape
Your backstabbing your boyfriend that you've been with for 5 years! I know these things happen but its all ridiculous, if you was upset, why wasn't your fiance there to ';console'; you?

With all due respect, I hope your boyfriend reads this, he should know the truth.
this reminds me of kevin and mollys affair in coronation street. lol. anyway ur supposed to have sex with someone u love. if u dont love this guy brake it off

I'm n love with a married man, Advice please?

I am in love with a married man and no he has not cheated on his wife with me nor have we had any intentions or talked in a sexual or relationship way. It all started when we where young 10-11 years old he came with my brother from america to china to visit with him and spend the summer here(yes he is american and white that doesn't matter to me). While he was down here i got to know him very well and he actually one day stopped me from being raped and saved my life all at the same time. From that day i became entranced with him he sat along my bed side all night as i cried and shivered in fear and he just silently sat there not saying any thing or doing any thing just there. Threw that summer we hung out allot and he became a really good friend and i wanted it to be more but we both knew he had to go back to america after the summer was up he also treated me in a way like a sister (very frustrating when you love some one). So when he want back we kept in contact emailed each other at least once a week and he has always sent me a birthday gift. We have visited each other threw out the years when possible. then about 4 years ago i got married and it ended up being to an abusive man and he got married about 5 months later. Well i got divorced about 1 year ago and he is still married and we still talk. But i can't see loving any one else but him we are both close to our thirties now and his marrige is in a rough spot and i seceritly wish he would divorce her so that i can try and get him. He has a daughter and he just adores him i want that type of man. Every man i find doesn't even come close to the type of man his is no one is as great of a person and i can't see loving any one else. i Send him a long email about 3 days ago telling him how i felt and he said this in responce. I love you but i am married now i will always love you as family but as for right now i am married and have a daughter i can't just walk away from this';

I understand his point but i can't help loveing him and if i could i would clone him so that he can stay married and i can have the copy to keep all to my self. I can't ecplaine why i love this man so much nor can i just forget about him he feels like the one, my body mind and soul long for him but he isn't advailable. We will always be good friends and i wont try and mess up or interfear with his marrige i am not that type of woman. Any advice on how to get over him or get to the point not every man has to stack up to him i can just be happy with a good man?

thank you for your adviceI'm n love with a married man, Advice please?
I think you are confused your feelings towards him. Like you said he was there when you needed him and your own marriage was unsuccessful, so you want him because he probably the only who you feel safe and loved to be with.



I think you need to move beyond your past (of course easy for me to say this, but I know it's not so easy). You want to find a guy who loves and cares. Just open your heart. If you keep compare everyone with him, then you will end up marry to a dream.I'm n love with a married man, Advice please?
The best way to get over a puppy, is to get another one.



Find a man who will love you unconditionally and who is not attached. The man has a family and is apparently happy. Would you want someone else loving/flirting with your man?



Move on. Try counseling if necessary.
I think you need to end all contact with him for awhile. Write him a letter and tell him why. You need to get your thoughts together. There are other men out there, and hopefully one day you will find one that meets your needs and expectations. I wish for you that it is sooner rather than later. Above all, remember that he is married and he is being honorable. Respect him for that.
get a dog. they're loyal, loving, and they don't lie...unlike this man you're ';in love'; with.
I met a man about a year ago and he introduced himself as ';100% single'; I'll never forget his words. After we had been involved for several months and I had fallen in love with him, I started getting suspicious that he was seeing someone else. Turns out he was married and had a daughter. It broke my heart, and he gave me the story that he was only married for his daughter's sake and he was in love with me and he wanted us to continue the affair. I couldn't bear the thought of sharing him and so I ended it. We still talk to each other occasionally, and it causes me excrutiating pain. I've found the only thing that helps me forget is trying to stay away from him and not talk to him. Although then I'm constantly wondering where he is and how he's doing. All I can suggest is cutting off contact and then just giving yourself time to move on.
run like hell.
Enough the sex, because that is all you will get.

How do you make a man feel you take care of him from 15,000 miles away?

I have a long distance relationship with someone and I don't want to keep on bothering the man I love with take care and stuff or clog his email with messages but I want him to feel I am with him in everything....from a guy's point of view, how is it possible?How do you make a man feel you take care of him from 15,000 miles away?
surprise!

every month you can always send him a gift like flowers, chocolate..

you must booking online if you want to do that..

and one thing,

don't ask him anything annoying..

good luck!

(^^)How do you make a man feel you take care of him from 15,000 miles away?
let him live in a fools paradise and imagine 4 himself
At this moment in time i am in england and my wife is in cebu,

we chat everyday on yahoo messenger, and we always tell each other to tc, and mind the road, love to everyone, etc.

nothing wrong with telling him how you feel about him,

try and get him to come on chat as often as he can and to tell you when he will come and visit you.....good luck for the future.

I ended a relationship today with a married man. I love him was it wrong to do this in an email?

This man and I have been dating now for 7 years. He has financially taken care of me and my children during the last 5 years. He proposed to me 3 years ago and he still did not leave his wife. I feel bad like I owe him for all that he has done so I am trying to be nice. Before I send this to him, can I get some advice on the email. I do not want to do this in person.





THIS WAS THE EXACT EMAIL I HAVE SAVED TO SEND HIM:





I am sorry that I have put you through all of this. I can't help how I feel and I just don't feel that this is right for me anymore. I really have to get my **** straight. This was never the right thing for either of us, you were looking for someone and I needed someone. We found comfort in each other. I want you to know that you have done nothing wrong. It's me who is in the wrong. We together should have done something years ago. I have an overwhelming remorse for what I have done to the twins. I have exposed them to all of this and they will always remember what I have done. Those memories will not be good ones and I cannot take them back. The lies I asked the to tell for me and secrets that I asked them to keep. You cannot imagine how terrible I feel for what I have done too them, That is something I will live with forever. Something they will share with their spouses and I am ashamed. I did tell the twins you bought them about season tickets to the football games for their birthday. I hope you still consider giving them to him. If not then I understand and they will have to as well. All these years, I have robbed them of a good father figure because of my own selfish needs and now they are older and that ship has sailed. Not that you did not do everything for them, you did and you would have been an excellent example on them. All this time I wasted, wanting to feel a certain way and just never got there. I will better myself. I am not just going to sit around and complain about not having any skills, I will go out and get some. I am sorry that after everything I you have done for us I have to ask you for your help financially still. It's just the reality, you know I cannot make it on my own right now. If I had to I could but it would really help me a lot if you could at least help me for July and hopefully I will not have to ask for your help after that. I would like to take you to dinner when I get a job and pay for dinner myself. That would be a good feeling. I really want to be happy, I think that means that I have to be without you right now. I'm sorry if that's harsh, but that is the reality of it. I have been thinking about this for a long time. When I came back from my trip, I wanted to talk to you about it then. I just couldn't find the words to say what needed to be said. I still feel the same way about you, I love you, I need you, I want you, but you were never mine. You belong to someone else and you have a family. I have never even met your son. If your family knew what you were doing it would shame them. Your son would never think of you the same, it's just a matter of time before you get caught. Every time we walked in a restaurant together, you walk in front of me to make sure that no one you know is in there. There are so many factors. Maybe are age difference that never seemed like a big deal actually is. I mean in ten years I will be in my early forties and you will be in your mid sixties. That is a big difference. I want to share my whole life with someone. Again, I am just pouring my emotions and my thoughts out for you to read. In the end there is so many things that I can say and I will never convince you that I really do care about you but I do. I just don't know if I care in the way that I should care. We never had that chance, and now I don't want you to take the chance of leaving your wife and then for me to realize that I don't feel a certain way about you. I know I love you, I know you are my soul mate, I know I want to marry you. I just don't know that I have the right feelings for you to allow you to ruin your family over. Loving someone as family and having an intimate relationship are two different things. I know I love you as family but I have never had a relationship with you. Not a real one anyway. Not one based without someone else always involved. I am sorry. I will give you everything you want when I see you. Including your diamond ring back. I know my grammar is terrible and I hope you can follow it. Sorry :( HAPPY FATHERS DAY. You really are the best father that I have ever known. Your son is very lucky to have you. When you are ready to talk then call me.





Please tell me before I email this letter if it sounds okay? I know this is personal but no one knows me and I am just looking for some opinions?I ended a relationship today with a married man. I love him was it wrong to do this in an email?
I don't know your reasons for still needing his ';help'; until July, but I'm sure the two of you know the reasons. There IS ONE THING I don't agree with, %26amp; that's the comment you made on taking him out to dinner when you're able. I FEEL, that once you ';break it off';, that you should COMPLETELY ';break it off'; %26amp; NOT see one another again period. To me, this is NOT COMPLETELY ';cutting the cord'; so to speak. IF you're ';breaking it off completely';, then I feel THAT is what you SHOULD DO. No turning back, no strings attached in ANY WAY whatsoever. To me you're sending ';mixed messages'; to him. One that it's over, but another that you'll ';talk'; to him. I feel either you break it COMPLETELY, or not at all. He ';proposed'; to you, BUT he did NOT leave his wife. This tells me he had/has NO intentions of breaking up his family. I would say for the sake of BOTH OF YOU, BREAK IT 100% %26amp; LEAVE IT COMPLETELY. Put things in the PAST, leave them there, %26amp; give yourself a chance of starting a whole NEW beginning for yourself...Best to you...:)I ended a relationship today with a married man. I love him was it wrong to do this in an email?
YOu ended it for a reason. Keeping it a clean break avoids regrets for a life time.
I stopped reading this when you told him that he has done nothing wrong? Damn, adultery is wrong....HELLO. Wow
Not ending it face to face is pretty harsh
I think your both horrible shamful disrespecting people. Don't you ever think of anyone but your self! Maybe you shouldn't be a ****ing homewrecker.
just walk away and dont look back. it is going nowhere.
1. Don't look back





2. Find a good church





3. Move on
Normally I would say never break up in an email, but if he is married, it's ok. You are right - you need to get your stuff straight and stop messing around with a married man. Think of his wife and kids.
First, its tacky to end a relationship this way and second e-mails can be traced. Are you wanting his wife to find it? Are you wanting to end the relationship or just be a drama queen? He is NOT your soul mate, he is a cheating husband who has broken his vows to some one that really loves him. Dating married men is wrong. If you want to end your relationship, tell him face to face. Your taking a cowards way out.
Married. Man. He was never yours to begin with, and if he was cheating on his wife for that long with you, he'll cheat on you, too. You don't need that. You've got boys to raise into fine and decent men, and they don't need the example of someone without enough conviction to do what is right.
how would you feel about having the relationship ended in an email. It was a cowedly act of what you did, and you should confront him face to face, anything less is disrespectful.
Doing any kind of communication face to face with issues such as this..is a better way of doing things..let it go..confronting the issues at hand face to face..seems wise to do..then let it go..adultery hurts everyone involved
There are a few things that I want to say to this, but we'll start with the basics.





1) If he has been with you for seven years, regardless of his marital status, he deserves a face-to-face. Period.





2) No, he is not ';right';. He's married. He refused to sacrifice that marriage for YOU, and you, knowing he was married, should never have expected that to happen, regardless of what he told you.





3) At this point, it is not appropriate for you to be asking for his financial help. If you are not with him, you need to be self-reliant.





4) End it. Don't talk to him. IF he loves you, he'll be back, WITHOUT the wife.
That email is for you not him.


Just end it.
I read the whole thing. BLAH, BLAH, BLAH. You start out sounding like your moving on and end by asking him for money. HES A MARRIED MAN. Are you aware that you can not be engaged to a married man? He just did that to appease you, so he can continue to buy you off. Your not doing anything to end this whole huge mess. If you want to really help your children, you will get an education, get help from your family and get a job. He is not a good dad if he is a cheater. Nor is he a good man. He is a selfish, inconsiderate, user.


Wake up.
i personally do not agree with anything that you have done here. i would be furious if this was my husband. but..... you cant help the way that you feel, and he is a guilty party in this as well. this is not all your fault.





now to the letter. if you are sincerly breaking up with him, then you shouldnt be asking him for anymore help. because you still need him. when you ask for more help, he then will still have power over you.


and if this is really over, then you shouldnt be talking to him, or seeing him for a LONG LONG LONG while. so that you and him can be competly over eachother.





just my thoughts
This is WRONG! Married or not, this man supported your family for 5 years--he deserves much better than a ';poor me,poor me'; crappy email!





You are a parasite. You have set around for 7 years and let someone else take care of you. All the while without bothering to get any skills that would help you provide for yourself. You now tell him you no longer want him but could he please leave his wallet on table before he goes--how pathetic is that. You need to get a job and start taking care of your children. Skills or no skills...I know lots of women who provide for their families doing unskilled labor--however, based on your email, I'm sure that's beneathe you.





So his age has caught up with you...or has it...he's your soul mate...or is he...you are toying with this man. Throw him out then reel him in....I don't want you but I want to take you to dinner.... Give me a break lady!





Both of you are say, pathetic people! You for being ';kept'; for seven years while continually lying to your children. And him for being an idiot while cheating on his wife and family. You both need counseling and QUICK!
ur seekign opinions...i man yeah we may mess around ehre on Y?A alot but most of your answers will be that you are a disrespectful homewrecking selfish person.





What if he was your husband doing this to you?
You wrote this for a reason and if you still want to send it, then do so. I don't think it is to harsh, breaking up with someone is never easy to do. So, send it and don't look back. Forget about those who have answered you by judging you for the adultery...move on with your life and find that special person you are looking for.
Well, the thing is you both messed up by getting and staying in this relationship for 7 years. But, I should think you act your age and have a face to face. Yes it's hard but you really know that that's the right thing to do. By the way the letter is pretty good just say it in person and be honest
why go to all that trouble, start your life over
i think it is perfectly fine to end this relationship in email.


YOU DON'T OWE HIM ANYTHING.





having said that, your letter is overly nice and warm and apologetic.


Nand way too long. i had a hard time getting through it - so will he. make it short and to the point. DO NOT poor your heart out - you are ending this, no need to come to a closure on all issues.





i would shorten it to one small paragraph.
Send the letter!! Break this off ASAP. He's a married man and he's not going to leave his wife and kids for you. Your someone on the side and that's all your ever going to be. Get yourself and your kids on the right path and find someone who's 1. Not married 2. Closer to your age and 3. Ready to be there for you and your kids
My only response is stick to it.... and it is not going to be easy. You did what you had to do for yourself and your children. I really hope everything works out well for you.





lots of hugs
No, you should not send this email, you should end this in person. Before he comes over have everything ready to give him, including the ring. Stop asking him for help, get out there and get a job, and move on with your life. You have messed up enough, not only for his family, but your family as well. What an example you have set, and I do hope that his family never finds out about you, what a disappointment he will be to his children. You say you love him, but to you he is just a meal ticket. He is someone that made your life easier. and you didn't care what it would do to his family. To him you are the excitement he doesn't feel at home, he could, but then it would mean that he would have to work at making his family life better, and he doesn't want to do that. You really deserve each other. Both losers.
You sound very natural, your true self %26amp; you are willing to return everything he has given to you; you do care about his family so this letter sounds very nice. He is older then you, and this is why he will understand and accept your information. If he was a younger man then issues might of come into play. Can I have your number? I'm kidding:) Your letter is acceptable. Rest is up to you.
First...your a skank because he was married when you were with him. You homewrecking whore. He has a son for god's sake. WTF is wrong with people like you?





2nd email is the wimpest, most spinless way to break up with someone. You have no backbone, and seeing that, it doesn't surprise me that you would date a married man.





Grow up.
WAY too long

How to let go of the man you're still in love with if you're having his baby?

After being together for 5 1/2 years he told me he didn't love me the same way anymore when I was 4 1/2 months pregnant. Needless to say, I was devastated. I completely loss the excitement about my pregnancy; I just couldn't laugh anymore. Now, I'm a little bit more calmed but I still cry for him everyday... as much as I hate to admit it! He's offered his economical support and says he will be there when our baby girl is born. But it is still SO painful every time I see him! I always keep my cool in front of him but immediately break down as soon as he leaves. I don't think he's seeing anybody special, but I'm sure he's talking to more than one girl on the phone. I still love him but I won't beg him to love me back, although I wish he was still a part of my life. How do you get over the man you love when his child is growing inside you? How do you let go of the hope that he'll come around?How to let go of the man you're still in love with if you're having his baby?
Why would you consider him worth it ?



If he did not feel the same way, why did he feel it was in anyone but his own best interest to add such drama when you are carrying his child?

Is this pregnancy a result of you trying to keep him after you were starting to see him slip away ?

Planned parenthood means both parties are committed. We live in a time when pregnancy and abandonment should be a rare thing.

We are educated in preventing pregnancy and the resources are available. Unfortunately it still happens too often and I see it as it looks to many now... was this really an accident ?

I do not see you as a victim although I do have some compassion for anyone that feels love for someone and it is not returned. I do have more compassion for the unborn child that is coming into the world without a set of parents that are a full team... Single parenthood is tough and even if the financial problems are solved, there is still much to be said of a couple doing parenting together. What is done is done and now the future of the child is the most important thing.

How to let go of the man you're still in love with if you're having his baby?
You need to get more into the excitement of having your baby girl. Perhaps all you ever will get from him is monetary support from him, so you need to really get yourself to admit that he is probably ';gone'; to you. If he does come around to see the baby, like he said he would do, perhaps that will change the way he feels, but I wouldn't give myself any false hopes. Hopefully he will fall back in love with both of you and want to be with both of you, but like I said, don't give yourself hopes that may not happen.
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  • How can you heal a broken heart?I do still love my man.?

    its just last monday he prefer to end everything but I'm confused because hes still texting me and hes still using our endearment...';baby';...He used to tell me that he love me so much...that no matter what happens he do still love me.



    Before I came he already have this girl..for almost 3years already and the girl has an illness and I also have a boyfriend for almost 1 year but we've broke up last year(december).



    I took the consecquences...the pain everytime were in public places or even at work,i must hide myself from his friends just to protect him from any issues.I do love him so much that made me feel the pain and happinness of his love for more than 2months.



    But one day,I dont know what happenned but he was changed,hes not that sweet and caring enough to me anymore...But I keep on understanding the situation,that might be there are some problems to his family or with that girl.Yet one day he prefer to end everything.



    I'm not asking if anything..time or something,all I just need is just knowing that he do still love me and he can still be there for me, despite of the most complicated situation.I don't want to take him away from that girl,thats why I keep on hiding myself.



    But I lost him..he keep on saying that he do still love me but he ended everything...



    ';this is the best thing for the two of of us';



    it hurts so much,you loved him so much and sacrifice almost your everything but all he can say is just ';I love you but the best thing for the two of us is to end this';



    How can i move on If can still see him most of the time?or even see thier pictures in my network???...



    How can I HEAL myself????How can you heal a broken heart?I do still love my man.?
    This attitude of ';This is what's best for us'; is bullsh*t! If he really loved you, he wouldn't be with some other girl! Let me ask you this: You love him, right? Would YOU date another guy and tell your original love that this is what's best for both of you? Yeah, didn't think so...You see how ridiculous this sounds, don't you?

    This boy isn't capable or willing to man up and tell you he's just not that into you, OR, he's got such complicated issues and baggage, that he is incapable of a healthy relationship.



    It doesn't necessarily mean he's a jerk, just not equipped to return your loyal, deep, feelings. You sound very young, so believe me when I tell you this, just move on! It will be the biggest favor you have ever given yourself! In a year, when the hurt is gone and you are having fun with new friends and perhaps a new man, you will look back with a huge ';Phhhhheeeewww!'; of relief! At your age, guys shouldn't be complicated yet. Believe me, when you reach your thirties and forties, you will have to contend with baggage (yours AND his) so don't get started with complicated, messed-up dudes already. They might seem interesting, challenging or soulful, but it is just an illusion. If a guy needs you to help fix him or help heal him from his bizarre behavior or emotions, RUN, DON'T WALK, to the nearest exit! You will thank me later!



    As far as seeing him goes, try and avoid his hang-outs and if you do cross his path, just gently ignore him or nod hello, no more. If he asks you what the deal is, just remind him of his own words (calmly) by telling him that it's the best thing for you! And don't answer his texts, tell him he can't have it both ways, his girlfriend+ you on the side, like some back door whore. Have some self-respect, girl, forget this player, you are wasting valuable ';screening'; time for potential candidates!How can you heal a broken heart?I do still love my man.?
    you can only heal a broken heart by time or finding someone else
    this whole situation does not sound healthy. you need to focus on yourself right now...do things for you, do things that make YOU happy. You may want to not talk to him for a while so that you have time to clear your head and look at the situation from a different perspective. Start going out more...have you been neglecting your friends? alot of people tend to do that in relationships, get back into your hobbies, develop healthy habits, work out and eat right...there really is alot you can do...you should just start living your life for you and have fun.

    Do i break up with the man i love who is a gang member? mature answers please!?

    I am a 22 year old girl who is from a family belonging to a blood latino gang. My father is in prison and my brothers are all part of the gang also, my mom is still with my dad but is like my rock. I am also in a 4 year relationship with a man who is also in that gang and although i love him to bits i know i need to leave him to better myself, I am the only one who graduated school out of my siblings. We are both really in love %26amp; never get enough of one another. When we are at a party %26amp; im around my friends he will come over and kiss me then take me away from my friends to be near him. He will constantly kiss me and hold me or lift me away if he wants me. All my friends think he is hot but its not about that, i love him but i know i need to get away from that world. I don't know how i am going to break up with him as he is mad about me and seriously shows me %26amp; wants us to marry. My friends keep telling me ';Do you really think he will just let you up and leave?';. I love him to bits am i doing the right thing? Please helpDo i break up with the man i love who is a gang member? mature answers please!?
    Let him know that he needs to pick btw u and the gang and make him tell u right there when u tell him bc if u date someone in a gang and try to leave it isn't always a pretty sight... Seriously! Like u could get hurt! So if he can't answer u right then and there then clearly he isn't going to mature anytime soon. Pack it bags and go if he don't change. I know how u feel well kinds my parents were into that mess and thankfully I was taken away from them. U deserve to be in a better life style than that. I know it's hard bc u love him and all but think About what u could do with ur life and ur safety! Good luckDo i break up with the man i love who is a gang member? mature answers please!?
    Yes, I think you should. Looks like you have more sense than most people.

    Gangs will only drag you down. You sound very smart do the right thing.
    yikes

    i guess you should do what you want with YOUR life.

    are you worried he will become violent if you break up with him? broken hearts can do strange things to good people.
    wow its you again ? :)

    i havent seen your [exact same] questions in awhile!



    still havent found your answer yet? just look at the billion of answers you got for the last billion times you asked this



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    hollyy
    I vote you get away from that world. I think you're doing the right thing. When it is time for you to leave him, I highly recommend you plan ahead to make your departure fast, safe, and difficult to trace.
    Tell him he has to choose between leaving the gang or losing you. Do you want to follow in your mother's footsteps, waiting her life away for a man in prison? That's the logical conclusion if something doesn't change here!

    Refuse to be with him unless he straightens up his act. You sound like you have a good future ahead of you, why risk throwing it all away on some low-life gang-banger?
    It is best for you to better yourself ... since you are the only one NOT in that ';world'; to get out of it completely.
    I think that you need to do what is best for you. It is not going to be easy. Why did you wait 4 yrs before you decided its time to get away from him? He is not going to like that idea. Good luck!!
    Feeling pressure by friends, family and society to stay with someone that you don't really want to be with; will possibly lead you into a life of unhappiness and no fulfillment. Besides, if a person truly loves you, they would want you to fulfill your dreams even if it meant they could lose you. Pure and true love is selfless.
    Well, look at your family. Your father is in prison, your brothers probably aren't far behind. Do you want the same for your family? A father who is a thief and murderer in prison? Raising your family as a single woman because your husband put his gang before his family? You're right to want to get out of this...there are plenty of GOOD men who will love you and kiss you and want to be with you. No good can come of being involved with a gang member.



    If he loves you that much, he should put you and your future family first. But right now, you're just second.
    hmm just think, how do you want your life to go? its w.e. is best for



    you. do you want ur family to be in jail with your father? Do you want



    to go too? your very young and we all know that your smart and you



    know what will happen. will you risk it for him? this is your one chance



    in life that God is giving YOU to make your life, get a job, and be able



    to take care of yourself and maybe even your family if u want to.
    you have to leave, otherwise you will suffer a fate as bad or worse than your father, when he does something and a rival gang decides to get revenge on him through you or they accidentally hurt you trying to get to him. Good luck and try to get as far away as possible.

    How can i forget the man i love?

    I just wanted to ask for any advice. I'm really down right now and so sad. I fell in love with this man and we've been seeing each other but it's like an on and off thing because he's no ready for commiment yet, Despite knowing that, i still accepted him because i do love him so much.Our on and off relationship already happened few times like 6th time already this time. And he will just stop contacting me because he said he wanted to find himself because he's not ready for any commitment and when he realized that i am getting more attached, he pulls away. Then after a while like few weeks of not hearing from him, he'll just text me again. I heard he's kind of dating a new girl and i got hurt so badly and couldn't stop crying. He knows that if he thinks he's ready to see me again, i wouldn't say no. But i'm loosing respect for myself already if i keep on doing that same routine where he decides to not see me and then after few weeks or 2 months, he'll start contacting me again. I don't know what to think of anymore to forget him.Now he's dating someone and i am hurting. I love him so much. My friends told me i deserve someone better. But why do i find it so hard to forget this man and still love him despite of what he's been doing to me... I'm so sad. Please i need any advice that i could get.

    Thank youHow can i forget the man i love?
    It is going to take time tough to say but that is the truth

    I was fooled by the man I love, how do I move on from this?

    2 months after I have been suddenly dumped without any warning and gave me no reason, he decided to contact me and tell me his explanations. He has admitted that he was unhappy for the last few months of the relationship and that he does not feel the same way about me anymore. I keep on asking what has changed or what did I do, did he felt bored, did he feel trapped and restricted and wanted freedom, did I not satisfy him, and any other reason why a man would leave, but he replied to as ';i don't know why, i just feel this way';. He also admitted that for those past few months he had been pretending that everthing was ok, so basicly every ';I love you';, everytime we were intimate in bed, i even asked him straight if he was happy with me and he said yes. I have been fooled, the man that I absolutely loved and adored did not love me any more and pretended. Why couldn't he tell me before, we could of worked things out, he still can't tell me why he was unhappy. Feel heartbroken 4 2nd time.I was fooled by the man I love, how do I move on from this?
    I am not sticking up for this man but it almost sounds like maybe he wanted to spare your feelings and he didn't know how to go about telling you that he didn't feel the same especially because he knew how much you cared for him. Maybe he continued to try to revive those old feelings and wasn't able to. I know that it hurts but isn't it better that you found out only a few months into the relationship instead of years later? You might not ever know why he was unhappy and maybe he doesn't know why--maybe he is unhappy with himself. It is very hard to love someone when you don't love yourself. Honey--trust me--you are better off without him and I know it hurts and that you miss him. Work on forgiving him for what he did--you will be the better person if you can do that! Good Luck!I was fooled by the man I love, how do I move on from this?
    You get over it by not letting him keep you down. You power back up at full speed and you go out and have fun. You date, you go out with your friends..you do things for just yourself for awhile. Before you know it...you will be glad he left because you will find something even better. Don't give him the satisfaction that he got to you
    Eat some ice cream, go to a bar, find a new guy. You never really get over someone, but your heart will patch up, and you can move on.
    Sometimes chemistry fades. Do not beat yourself up. Do not sweat this BS. Charge him to the game and move on.
    You must accept that these things happen sometimes. But also remember that each of us is different, and I would like to think that many would not do that to you and would have the courage and compassion to tell you about problems before making a decision to leave.
    i am sorry .sometimes people think things will change or get better ,so they hang on hoping.you should be happy he told you now instead of later down the road ,with kids and being married .move on i know it hurts ,one door opens another door closes ,look whats on the other side, something beautiful
    What a jerk. First he lied to you when you were in the relationship and then 2 months after he dumped you, he tells you all that crap? Honey, you need to be sooooo glad he's GONE!



    So, how do you know to trust someone again? Actions speak louder than words. If he never opened his mouth and you weren't swept away with his ';vomit';, how would/did you feel?



    There's nothing wrong with you, HE is a liar and conniver. Everytime you start to remember something he said and you find yourself trying to figure out what he ';meant'; - don't. He meant nothing.



    Read ';Dating for Dummies';, it helped me. Get counseling.



    Good luck and you're ok..... he's NOT.

    Relationship Advice for a man in love with a woman who left him?

    Look guys, I know this is somewhat trivial but I really need some outside perspectives on this... Spare me any bullshit... I'm having a very difficult time in my life... Keep in mind I am 19 years old but by no means does that mean I don't know a thing or two. At any rate, I began dating this girl last October. She is 19, has a somewhat downtrodden home, full of cats, and her mother and her mom's boyfriend pay the bills... So we were dating and I moved in and well...

    Things were good for a while. And we fell in love. She's an amazing woman, far from a girl, reserved, classy, intelligent... but she has addictions just as I do. I spent a lot of time being insincere, chasing drugs, I never cheated on her but I was never as good to her as I could have been. In January, my mother broke up with her boyfriend, and was in a bad situation a few towns away.. So we agreed to take her in.

    Things were ok, they became friends... Drank together every now and then, etc... Well, my mom got her taxes back and she basically drank herself to death. This happened in March. I got a little crazed.

    Things became strained. I made some cruel remarks and became distant. A week after her death I was kicked out of her house but we were still dating... Things gradually became more strained. She called for a monogamous break.

    I tried, but eventually I became abrasive and angry about the whole ordeal... So she broke it off altogether. But things were not hopeless.

    I then became extremely emotional, sensitive, pathetic... Endless apologies, promises, love letters, you name it. I revealed my worst side to her. And she has reached the point where she told me there was no hope of us getting back together. And it crushed me.

    So I tried even harder, spilled more emotions, denied her her space.

    Then I tried to calm down. But every time I stopped by I couldnt help but bring the topic of our relationship up. Because the fact of the matter is, I guess I didn't know what I had until she was gone...

    I truly love this woman and she has no idea how much I really do,

    how much I would give for her, how much I would change...

    I know she is an individual and has her own mindframe, but ****.....

    So she let me stay the night in the other room a week or two ago,

    and last night she let me stay on the bed with her but no touching.

    She flinches in disgust when I go to hug her goodbye...

    Her house was foreclosed on, she has like 20 something cats and doesn't know where they'll go, and has to get an absurd amount of credits to graduate in time. And she says she's not really concerned about our relationship right now. Which I really do understand.

    I don't mean to come off as so extreme. I just have this hopeless idealism of true love. Maybe it isn't meant to be. Maybe someone else has caught her eye. But we're on the same intellectual wavelength,

    and the only man in question is a fool who has a truck. She claims they're friends, maybe he's a tool, maybe not. So I guess what I'm trying to ask is have any of you seen or had doomed relationships come back from the dead? And ladies, have you ever had a man push you away to the point of disgust, and thought you were done with him,

    but realized you loved him and took him back? Any advice? Do you think after being my mother's friend and being by my side when they took her off life support she could really leave me and hook up with someone else so soon? Could someone be so heartless? Is it possible she wants me, but not as I am? Maybe her logic is I have to help and love myself before she can love me? And a lot of people have told me I need to quit being such a downer around her because it is a huge turnoff... Any advice people?

    I'm on my 4th day of not calling her, and I realize I need to take a step back before this becomes a full blown obsession. I'm young, but I was in love once and it didn't work out. I never thought I would get over it, but then I found this girl, and now I'm back to square one...

    Would it make a difference if I fell off the radar and didn't call her for a while? Or based on what you've heard, does it seem hopeless?

    I know there are so many variables, but any advice would be helpful.

    I'm not trying to be melodramatic. I really do love her.....

    Should I move on? Or do you think leaving her be might cause her to realize she might just miss me? Well I'm rambling, detailed feedback would be much appreciated. I don't know what to do...Relationship Advice for a man in love with a woman who left him?
    Yeah you are rambling on and on!

    Well give your ex gf some time and ask her out again when shes ready.

    Im sorry your mom passed away.

    I would be cold and bitter too if that happened to mine.

    The worst nightmare of the man I love?

    the man I love is 64 years old and he is 23 years older than me. I am 39. he used to be extremely self assured and arrogant person when we met, believed that he had figured out life in its fullness and enjoyed the fruits of his ';hard'; work. he was married three times before me and believed that marriage is a union of the similar intellectuals, a team, like an enterprise, a company. when he met me he believed that the only purpose of my life could have been to follow him and his ways and being so assured in that he did everything in his power to make that possible. he looked at me as a beautiful sensual sex obsessed young woman, not particularly bright or ambitious, with a terrible self-esteem. Whatever, we fell n love somehow with the obvious divine intervention since neither of us were allowed to see the other with our eyes opened. only in the process of running away from each other we were allowed to have a glimpse of our true personalities. It turned out that we were both deeply wrong. He appeared not so smart as I believed and I appeared not so stupid as he believed. His intention was to come to the bottom of my dreams with him to see what it was there or maybe to see how to make me happy to the ultimate.My intention was to compromise to the highest possible degree because I believed what would have been MY ideal scenario would have been impossible to have with HIM, considering his age, his job, his family, everything about him. So, my intention, I repeat was to cast away the ';ideal'; scenario of ';happiness'; because it was not a scenario of happiness with him and I loved him, I wanted POSSIBLE scenario with him, not an impossible dream, or possible reality that would destroy the person I love. So, in this process of discovering the bottom of my soul for the purpose of keeping me at all costs and giving me what I ultimately want, he forced himself into the depth of my soul completely disregarding the fact that a dream without him is not the same dream and that by doing this he is killing my love for him by force and without me having a say in it. No matter how much I tried to keep it real and POSSIBLE he went further and further obsessing deeper and deeper into problems that actually dont exist at all in reality. My belief now, after everything that I was exposed to, is that he was actually running away from me, but didnt want to say it to me (we were too deeply involved for him to just say - I cant go on like this, you are in this hell alone now, I am leaving, he is too much of a gentlemen for that) but he forced me into giving up on him. clishe, I know, that is why I said I didnt expect him to be this stupid. His worst nightmare is that he walks around with a woman 23 years younger than him, gorgeous and radiant of happiness for being with him and getting him finally, deemed by the most men in his environment either goddess from the other world or the incarnation of sensuality and womanhood in its dangerous form, having her constantly on his mind following her around from the grocery store toThe worst nightmare of the man I love?
    Is this a story or a question?The worst nightmare of the man I love?
    What the?I think your thinking may have scared him.But you'll do fine you HAVE selfesteem.

    How do you tell if your man is in love with you??

    We've been together for 18 months and are living together.

    He has talked about marriage and we are planning to build a house. Is it normal to have the odd insecurities?? I feel at times that he keeps things from me. I have two children from a previous marriage that live with us for half the year. We do what's called the share/care arrangement. He wants to have children with me but is yet to have his sperm count done.

    Our love has been good but seems unreal to me. Why?How do you tell if your man is in love with you??
    Well its hard the second time around there are always insecurities involved.. But then again sometimes listening to that little voice is a good thing.. Sit down and talk about these with your man before the I do;s.. Allot of times just the look on his face or his actions can give you a good indication about things...How do you tell if your man is in love with you??
    sweetie, its because you've already lost a ';love'; and that little voice in your head wont stop nagging. Sometimes its best to let love guide you, but keep your eyes open. its a fine balance. As long as you dont let it blind you love is the only true, pure thing left in the world. Your love seems unreal because thats what love is. Its unreal. Its perfection. And if you think its right, let it happen. But don't jump straight to kids. For children its really really really hard to live through divorces and if he seems to be showing that he can handle them well, then yes its ok. Just watch that. Otherwise good luck in love! :]

    %26lt;3
    Everybody is different baby. Take your time play it day by day and see where it goes.

    Predictions=problems especially predictions from people who don't know you and don't know him.

    You could take some strangers advice from this site and make things worse.

    Keep yo head up and keep your faith in you and your family.

    Good Luck.
    I don't get the sperm count thing, but maybe you are hesitant b/c you feel overwhelmed. you have two kids and may have baggage from yr old relationship. it could be many things, I'm guessing that you do really know what they are ( maybe deep down). You have reasons for these thoughts. Maybe you need some alone time, away from evryone( including the kids ) to just sit and think.
    it sounds like your still scared from the last relationship.as hard as it is try to keep the past in the past. it is normal to have insecurities but make sure thats all they are. 18 mo. really isn't a long time, go slow, if its right you'll know it.
    By what he does, not what he says - talk is cheap.

    I was fooled by the man I love, how do I move on from a 3 year relationship?

    2 months after I have been suddenly dumped without any warning and gave me no reason, he decided to contact me and tell me his explanations. He has admitted that he was unhappy for the last few months of the relationship and that he does not feel the same way about me anymore. I keep on asking what has changed or what did I do, did he felt bored, did he feel trapped and restricted and wanted freedom, did I not satisfy him, and any other reason why a man would leave, but he replied to as ';i don't know why, i just feel this way';. He also admitted that for those past few months he had been pretending that everthing was ok, so basicly every ';I love you';, everytime we were intimate in bed, i even asked him straight if he was happy with me and he said yes. I have been fooled, the man that I absolutely loved and adored did not love me any more and pretended. Why couldn't he tell me before, we could of worked things out, he still can't tell me why he was unhappy. Feel heartbroken 4 2nd time.I was fooled by the man I love, how do I move on from a 3 year relationship?
    People don't fall out of love all in one minute, one hour or one day. He was falling out of love over the course of those months. That does not mean he wanted to. On the contrary, he was probably antagonizing over it and wondering how to recover the love. When he said he loved you it was because he didn't completely not love you. And remembering loving you, it would be hard not to say. He WAS NOT trying to fool you. I fully believe he was totally confused at that time. Even after breaking up, I'm sure he had a hard time with it. Somehow, through those two months he came to the conclusion that he would be happier away from you. I have no doubt he thinks of you often and even misses the good times you had. I bet at times he feels just as sad as you do. But he has decided he'll be better off and can become happy again. Don't doubt what I'm saying. There is even a remote possibility that he doesn't know what went wrong. There is a strong possibility he does but won't ever mention it. He may know but not know how to tell you. Love can be very complex. I have no idea if you will get back with him and you can love one another like you once did. If not, you will find someone else that you love just as much if not more. Just don't be hasty and find the wrong guy. And I am sorry you are hurting.

    I was fooled by the man I love, how can I move on from a 3 year relationship?

    2 months after I have been suddenly dumped without any warning and gave me no reason, he decided to contact me and tell me his explanations. He has admitted that he was unhappy for the last few months of the relationship and that he does not feel the same way about me anymore. I keep on asking what has changed or what did I do, did he felt bored, did he feel trapped and restricted and wanted freedom, did I not satisfy him, and any other reason why a man would leave, but he replied to as ';i don't know why, i just feel this way';. He also admitted that for those past few months he had been pretending that everthing was ok, so basicly every ';I love you';, everytime we were intimate in bed, i even asked him straight if he was happy with me and he said yes. I have been fooled, the man that I absolutely loved and adored did not love me any more and pretended. Why couldn't he tell me before, we could of worked things out, he still can't tell me why he was unhappy. Feel heartbroken 4 2nd time.I was fooled by the man I love, how can I move on from a 3 year relationship?
    tough situation. i guess you have to try to remember the good times, and try to move on. i know its easier said than done, but if he doesnt feel the same, it isn`t worth trying to fix it. i know long relationships are hard to move on from [ from expierence], he`ll either relaize he was wrong for leaving %26amp; he misses you, or you`ll relaize that you were too good for him %26amp; you`ll find somebody better. i hope it works out for you. good luck !

    How do you know if the man you love, love's your kid's?

    Ive been in a relatiuonship with this guy for 2 years. My youngest son and I live with him now and we have for about a year. My son calls him Daddy and is head over heels for this guy. He says that he's nice and he makes him happy. This guy says that he loves my son too, but I sometimes cant tell if he's serious or just saying it to keep peace between us. So how can I know or not?How do you know if the man you love, love's your kid's?
    When growing up I had a step dad, and he would tell my mom that he loved us, but we could tell that he didn't, he saw us as more of a burden then a benefit. What I'm saying is, you can tell simply by the reactions of your kids. Your kids seem happy about it, so yes, I think he does.How do you know if the man you love, love's your kid's?
    You can tell by looking in their inside
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  • Ladies how do you keep from ';settling'; for a man when the pickings are VERY slim?

    I feel like that has happened to me. I have a lot to offer on many counts but I'm never lucky when it comes to men or love. I always get a raw deal. So anyway, I was celibate for some years and that's really hard to do. But I figured it was the best thing I could do for myself.



    Well, I couldn't hold out in celibacy any longer and it's not like there are any boyfriend prospects for me. So I got involved with this jerk that I know. I basically had sex with him which was my intention. The only thing he has going for him is his physical attractiveness and his employment. Other than that, he is the biggest azzhole. He is not any type of boyfriend material.



    I miss having the presence of a man around so I'm kind of tolerating him on some levels (physically speaking). I know this will have an ugly ending. I just feel it in my blood. I'm sure he sees me as some type of booty call as well even though he pretends like he likes me. (He says this but his actions don't show it) He is basically a liar.



    He has no decency and I feel like I have stooped to the ultimate low by even messing with him. I don't know what to do but it's hard to be alone like this. Can anyone relate to anything I'm saying or offer constructive advice?Ladies how do you keep from ';settling'; for a man when the pickings are VERY slim?
    Yep I did settle - just for sex. After years of celibacy, I figured why not give it another try. Same reasons. I was glad when he went back to Jamaica. Great sex tho. OMG! I hope not!Ladies how do you keep from ';settling'; for a man when the pickings are VERY slim?
    just find the person that makes you feel special and thats pretty easy...
    I never settled. I waited till i was 18 to get my first kiss and am now im in a two year relationship, my first relationship ever and his first relationship also. It's not about changing someone, you have to accept people for who they are. Maybe you are just looking in all the wrong places. Looking itself, can set you up for failure. Dont worry about it so much. If something is meant to happen it will. You should NEVER lower your standards just because you are feeling lonely or insecure. You'll regret it in the long run. Just try to look good and feel good about yourself.
    Maybe you just think the pickings are slim, because your looking more on the outside than just the actual person. Don't settle for someone your not attracted to, but don't just get attracted to what you ';think'; is your type. You can get a guy that treats you good, and can make you laugh, even if he isn't the most handsome guy ever!



    (and by the way.. if he makes you laugh, and treats you good, you WILL think he is the most handsome guy ever...)
    Ditch that loser. Seriously you do not have to settle. I don't know why women think they have to settle or just put themselves in bad relationships just to have someone. I would rather be single then be with a d-bag. If you fell like you have stooped to an ultimate low then thats definitely saying something. I relate to you and never thought I would find anyone that didn't turn out to be a liar,cheater,loser or just a plain azzhole. I just embraced being single and independent and I met my boyfriend( of 3 yrs) who is def everything I ever wanted.
    I don't really understand how you can be okay with getting with a man who is obviously not worthy.

    Stop seeing him as of now! You must not be giving yourself enough credit to be able to find somebody that is interesting and interested. Do something. There are many ways to meet a worthy man. Get out there and stop settling! You are wasting your time on a loser while a great man could be walking right past you. Network, network, network!





    ***You're only 26? What??!?! Please get out of this relationship and let yourself be open to meeting a real man who has genuine interest in you! You've really got to get over the being alone aspect of it all. Do you have friends? Do you go out? Do you go to church or other activities that will allow socialibility? If you don't, then start!
    keep looking.. you will find Mr. Right, just write down what you want in a man, like: no smoking, no drinking, no jerks someone that is going to love you more than you love him, etc. but keep it in mind. so when you meet guys you know what you want.
    wow I literally just got out of the same situation, basically i fell for him more as her became more of a prick....probably psychologically thinking i could change him when he saw how good i was to him...WRONG. yeah not so much i spent two years with him and i wasted soooooooo many opportunities. damn. stay single and play till u find ';him'; its worth it!
    Being celibate isn't that difficult if it means something to you. I've been celibate for 15 years...mostly due to health reason, mostly due to no one being in my life right now.



    There are good guys out there...usually when you aren't looking for him. Don't settle. I'm not. Respect yourself and your body. If you can't handle having a man around, then you need to get that self respect and learn how to like yourself and have confidence. Maybe that is why you aren't getting a ';good'; guy.



    Right now, you are basically selling yourself to anyone who will have you. Do you really want that for yourself??? PLease....get away from the guy, be by yourself, get to know what you want, get out there and do activities and things you enjoy, make new friends....become a happier more confident person who thinks they are worth more.



    Hang on....and you're 26? Honey, you haven't even lived yet. And yes it si easy to wait for the right one to come into your life. Why are you in such a rush? Have some self control, geez.
    I've been married for almost 10 years and from what i've learned is that it was probably best to really get to know a person before having any type of sexual relations. I mean really get to know him. Become friends hang out together, does this person have any goals? what is this person going to do with his life? What you need to do is establish yourself get an education and a good paying job. Save money!!!! Be self sufficiant don't need anyone!!!! Most likely if you do this you will most likely find a MAN who is trying to do the same and is on the same path as you. DO NOT find a man at the bar!!!! When you least expect it you will find the right one, when the time is right. Sex is good but it is better when you are with the right person. If you can not hold out then find someone just for a booty call tell that person he is just a booty call and get that booty call and at the same time continue to try to find the right person.

    Do men hate their lover?

    I've heard that men hate it when a woman loves them, in a sense that they will never ever feel the same way for that woman, and even if they (men) loved that woman before, they suddenly lose all their feelings for her if by any means they learn that the woman loves them back.

    I've heard a lot, as an advice, that don't love a man or if you do, do not show it, always pretend you're not interested, not that much at least, to keep the man in love with you.

    How much do you think this is accurate? is it merely a traditional way of love between men and women/ lover and the beloved, or is it also true about the modern lives and the modern men too?

    If you don't agree, what do you suggest to a girl who is so in love with a man who is sure about her love for him?Do men hate their lover?
    It's quite accurate - being a man myself, I find it hard to see if a girl loves me that much, the worst feeling is to find that they don't love you anymore.



    It really depends on the man you like, some love you for a very long time, however some love you for a very short period of time. i would personally never leave a girl if i know that she loves me. you gotta make sure that you both can see that you both love each other. However DO NOT GO OTT! it can be the most annoying thing lol trust me.Do men hate their lover?
    That's a generalization and it's almost entirely false.



    Some men have problems with intimacy. They often feel uncomfortable with emotions like love and, when a woman loves them, it forces them to confront their own feelings. So they shut down and become emotionally vacant.



    That certainly doesn't apply to all men, or even most men.



    Most guys are looking for a relationship and are happy to learn that they are loved, especially if they have the same feelings. Amost everyone wants to be loved.

    Ernest77h??????

    Jhn 14:1 露 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. Jhn 14:2 In my Father's house are many mansions: if [it were] not [so], I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. Jhn 14:3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, [there] ye may be also. Jhn 14:4 And whither I go ye know, and the way ye know. Jhn 14:5 Thomas saith unto him, Lord, we know not whither thou goest; and how can we know the way? Jhn 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. Jhn 14:7 露 If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him. Jhn 14:8 Philip saith unto him, Lord, shew us the Father, and it sufficeth us. Jhn 14:9 Jesus saith unto him, Have I been so long time with you, and yet hast thou not known me, Philip? he that hath seen me hath seen the Father; and how sayest thou [then], Shew us the Father? Jhn 14:10 Believest thou not that I am in the Father, and the Father in me? the words that I speak unto you I speak not of myself: but the Father that dwelleth in me, he doeth the works. Jhn 14:11 Believe me that I [am] in the Father, and the Father in me: or else believe me for the very works' sake. Jhn 14:12 露 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater [works] than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father. Jhn 14:13 And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. Jhn 14:14 If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do [it]. Jhn 14:15 露 If ye love me, keep my commandments. Jhn 14:16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; Jhn 14:17 [Even] the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. Jhn 14:18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. Jhn 14:19 露 Yet a little while, and the world seeth me no more; but ye see me: because I live, ye shall live also. Jhn 14:20 At that day ye shall know that I [am] in my Father, and ye in me, and I in you. Jhn 14:21 He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. Jhn 14:22 Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world? n 14:23 Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. Jhn 14:24 He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me. Jhn 14:25 露 These things have I spoken unto you, being [yet] present with you. Jhn 14:26 But the Comforter, [which is] the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. Jhn 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. Jhn 14:28 Ye have heard how I said unto you, I go away, and come [again] unto you. If ye loved me, ye would rejoice, because I said, I go unto the Father: for my Father is greater than I. Jhn 14:29 And now I have told you before it come to pass, that, when it is come to pass, ye might believe. Jhn 14:30 Hereafter I will not talk much with you: for the prince of this world cometh, and hath nothing in me. Jhn 14:31 But that the world may know that I love the Father; and as the Father gave me commandment, even so I do. Arise, let us go hence.Ernest77h??????
    I am not sure what the question is unless it is about heaven, i proved to you no man goes there, in these verse's you have shown where does it say we go to heaven?? Have you not read over and over that we will not be ressurected until Jesus returns and that we will be on this earth and rule with Christ for 1000 years and then God will come to this earth?



    Re 20:4 And I saw thrones, and they sat upon them, and judgment was given unto them: and I saw the souls of them that were beheaded for the witness of Jesus, and for the word of God, and which had not worshipped the beast, neither his image, neither had received his mark upon their foreheads, or in their hands; and they lived and reigned with Christ a thousand years.

    Re 20:5 But the rest of the dead lived not again until the thousand years were finished. This is the first resurrection.

    Re 20:6 Blessed and holy is he that hath part in the first resurrection: on such the second death hath no power, but they shall be priests of God and of Christ, and shall reign with him a thousand years.



    Re 21:2 And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.

    Re 21:3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.



    It says this very thing from the OT to the NT.Ernest77h??????
    All you freaky bible beaters need to get a life! Play sports or something.

    Engaged today!! Share your experience and insight of engagement?

    My boyfriend of six months proposed over the phone, and we were officially engaged today! Wow, It was absolutely beautiful and too good to be true. I actually didn't believe in love much and never thought I will marry some day. Love comes off quickly, I just wish he could love me forever. Were you scared to get married once when you were still young? Is it mostly likely that you will marry your fiancee once you are engaged? My bf can't afford an engagement ring at all, but I still agreed to marry him some day because we love each other. However, It can be tricky to find out if ours is true love, I believe that no one could doubt love that feels so true for the time, only time could tell if it could last or not.

    When you live together, how do you try to keep your love alive and spice things up not just having sex?

    Just bear with me, since I don't wanna get carried away by the lavish of happiness, insightful advices ranging from keys of successful engagement to marriage and distinguish men's love are needed.

    Finally, what would you say the reasons that make man loves and marries woman instantaneously, speedier than normal speed?



    Thanks so muchEngaged today!! Share your experience and insight of engagement?
    congratulations



    when i got engaged, she proposed to me. we had been going out for about 6 months. and we were still 17. still married to this day, and many more



    well we have fun with sex, there are a lot of things you can do with it.

    but we cook together, clean together, do daily chores together, take all of our showers together, its quite a paradise. except the work schedule...but oh well, it should change soon.



    good luck, and im happy for youEngaged today!! Share your experience and insight of engagement?
    so--no ring and you're going to be giving him sex before you even get 'married'' good luck on that, BAD START.

    HE WANTS SEX AND HE WANTS IT CONVENIENTLY AND OFTEN AS HE LIKES, by the time you try to drag him to the wedding he will be bored and apprehensive.



    no, you sit home, you wait for the diamond, and then together you set the date.
    congrats first of all.

    I would wait on the sex, it will make it more special.

    Also, I don't know how old you are, but I would hold the engagement at least another six months. My husband and I jumped into it as adults and I still feel like we rushed it.

    Make sure you know each other well before you say I do, living together brings out things you never thought you'd know about them.



    Other than that: good luck and lots of happiness.

    Does Jesus require sinless perfection?

    Hebrews 5:9And being made perfect, he became the author of eternal salvation unto all them that obey him;



    John 14:15If ye love me, keep my commandments.



    21He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.



    22Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world?



    23Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.



    24He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me.



    I John 2:3And hereby we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments.



    4He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.



    5But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.



    6He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.



    Ok, so does this mean we have to live in sinless perfect or perfect obedience?



    Does that mean that Christians have to live sinlessly?

    That we have to obey His laws and commandments without any errors?



    Because if we are saved or assured of it...that er...if the only saved are those who obey Him. Then if we sin, even just once, isn't that disobedience? So are we to obey perfectly? That is once we are saved if we sin even once, we have disobeyed, thus not being obedient, therefore not obeying, so thus not saved?



    Ok so let's say a Christian gets up, reads the Bible, witnesses, prays, etc. But then later on this Christian is cooking and accidently burns him/herself. He/she curses and swears. This person disobeyed the command about filthy languages. So since that person didn't obey...does that mean that person is not saved and will go to Hell...even if this person immediately confesses and repents?



    How can one keep obedience in check...that is where it is done out of love for Jesus..not fear of punishment?



    Where it is done through the Power of His Holy Spirit...not done of flesh?



    Is it possible to have sinless perfection?



    When Jesus wants us to obey His commands, does He require total and complete perfection? That is, once we are saved if we even sin but once...we are doomed...with no hope?



    If we had a child, and we told this child,



    ';Child, I want you to make your bed every morning.';



    And such a child does that but at times doesnt make the bed. Will that child thus be rejected and cast out of the family for not being perfectly obedient? The child did obey...but not all the time...so thus not perfectly. For if he or she did obey perfectly, he or she would have made the bed all the time.



    Shall this child be punished and rejected for not making the bed perfectly? Ok so the kid made it, but there are wrinkles and it isnt fully covered...but still made.



    So to Christianize that...let's say Jesus told us to love one another. Well He did but er...



    So let's say one Christian loves and loves...but then some Atheist annoys him or her and this person goes balistic and says all kind of unChristian things...and curses and condemns the person to Hell.



    Ok so the person didnt perfectly obey the command...therefore didnt perfectly obey...so does this mean that person will go to hell?



    So for those who dont want to read all that....



    Jesus wants us to obey Him...does He want us to be sinlessly perfect obedience...is that the only obedience that will gain us heaven? And if Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:

    9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.



    Then how does one keep obedience out of love of God and done in the Spirit through His Power...and not done out of fear (terror or fear of punishment), of the flesh, and keep it so it isnt legalism?



    So a person says...I will love this mean Atheist because I love Jesus and want to obey Him



    Instead of...I have to love this annoying Atheist because if I dont God will send me to Hell for not being perfect and I better be perfectly obedient or God will be mad at me. I would rather ring his/her ever lovin' neck, but I guess I will have to love this Atheist. Ugh!



    or I have to read my Bible all day and that is the only Book I am allowed and I cannot do anything fun or anything else. All day every day I must be on my knees and pray and worship and read the Bible. If I do anything else, save eat and relieve myself, and drink, then I am disobedient and will go to Hell.Does Jesus require sinless perfection?
    If there is no god, it doesn't matter.



    If there is a loving god, he will not punish you for trying to do good in this world to the best of your ability, regardless of your beliefs (even if you are an Atheist).



    If there is a god who will punish people for eternity for a few fleeting errors in faith or works, he is not worthy of worship.Does Jesus require sinless perfection?
    No.



    Jesus expects us to endeavor for sinless perfection but understands when we occassionally fail and will forgive us when we ask.



    With love in Christ.
    No, I don't think so. He probably wants you to understand his teaching more than anything else.

    I NEED HELP WITH MY MAN ,DONT KNOW IF HE LOVE ME STILL (IAM A 18 YEAR OLD WIFE )?

    i want my husband to love me more ,talk me more ,he good man in lot ways but in 2 big ways that need him he not there i feel left out cold at night,,my husband go work come home get on computer, say hi give me kiss me after i come in here and tell nice see you to how was your day.i feel if my husband dose not love me ? the love life is good when it there ,, now he just stay on computer on game, and when try come in bedroom and love on him he push me away,,like mad at me ,so ask him what wrong and said nothing am just try play the game,,, so i start to think my self maybe i should start play with do together but don't work! am being more and more sad about this ,,, i don't clean up a lot like i use to i just sleep a lot more now to point where so sad i sleep all day. and he don't care he just keep playing games. if i need do something for me i have get fight with him to get to do it. so we fight all day, my husband the shy type and play games a lot like the will game or computer game. i know he not cheating he dose not leave the house,,and i know not online talk woman also i make sure of that he play this online game all time!!!! and sick of it i have be sick or hurt for him to pay some type addition to me, like the other day i had go ER and he took me,,the hold time almost he was on the psp game, he make me hate coming home sometimes, i ask him dose he want just move out and end this ,,then get mad thinking am with someone other man,,,am not all i want my sweet loving man back he 25 and am 18 we own a home ,and have no kids , i need help with this i try it all pleas help ,,I NEED HELP WITH MY MAN ,DONT KNOW IF HE LOVE ME STILL (IAM A 18 YEAR OLD WIFE )?
    You asked this 3 times already. I already answered one of them. Leave your husband and go to a family or a friends house. And cut the cord off of the computer before you close the door and shut the lights off. That will teach him.

    What am I doing wrong re the scorpio man I love?

    I met him on a dating site and it was he who initiated contact even though I was 8 years older and didnt fit in with the desired match as per his profile



    Thing is although he flirted with me a via email and shared a lot of confidences with me shortly after we met, he has never made a move on me...



    He knows I love him and this is how the conversation went when I asked him about his feelings



    Me: Do you see me as a sister?

    Him; No

    Me: Do you find me attractive?

    Him: Yes

    Me: So you think I'm attractive, but you are not attracted?

    Him: No, I am attracted to you, and there was a time I was going to ';make a move..';

    Me: Then why didn't you

    Him: I don't know



    Anyway I told him I am finding it difficult to understand and manage all of this especially as we were spending a lot more time together and he had recently messaged me from his mobile from work saying that he had dreamt that we kissed



    He suggested that we not communicate until I fall out of love with him and when I said that we may never communicate as I may always love him he said that we must keep in touch should something significant happen in either of our lives.



    I wish he would shut the door if thats what he wants...He has been very badly hurt before, He says he is over her, and he is not seeing anyone seriously



    Should I contact him if something significant happens or should I just protect my heart and end this forever?What am I doing wrong re the scorpio man I love?
    it doesn't matter what we told you you have to do what your heart told you to do. you maybe want to go out with him.

    I need help keeping my love lockeddown?



    Im super busy with school and working two jobs but get free time here and there...I tend to fall for guys as in like them be4 i even know them. How can I just keep men from getting into my life and not falling for them? I care too much of what they say, if they look at me or what and then I stay thoughtful....I don't have time for a bf right now but I reallly want someone there close to me...I'm confused. I keep thinking ';you'll meet someone later in my program, just wait'; ...btw i get super distracted with people...How to keep from liking or falling inlove or just keep away i guess?I need help keeping my love lockeddown?
    You are only human.Whatever is happening to you is normal.On the other hand boyfriend will be a huge distraction and more stress.Just keep telling yourself not yet and stick with it.I need help keeping my love lockeddown?
    it's natural, keep yourself occupied
    go back and read some of these questions on here, there is no way anyone would want to love these people
    Wow, you sound like possibly the clingiest neediest human being I've ever struck in my life. Stop seeking approval from others.You're going to end up with some guy who'll treat you like ****, because that's what you think you're worth. Be by yourself and learn to love and appreciate yourself, because you are just begging to be taken advantage of as you are now. You don't need someone to feel good about yourself.
    yes- you fall for the concept of something because of 'time restrictions', and men want it 'right here right now', so you should in effect -'play another hand'.Here's hoping you get an unbeatable one!

    You fall for 'edited' versions of men,not a full male.(a man in text,in words not in action)

    You are too young to be worrying about this now-(i just saw you are at school)

    It seems to me you want a male to act rather like a female or a father -here come the thumbs!