Teenage Girls: I've got a big problem, I need your help?? (sorry, pretty long)?

we're both 17. we dated for a few months. i fell in love with her the moment i first kissed her forehead and held her in my arms, and told her everything will be alright when she fell ill.





she is very hardworking. very very into her schoolwork, not like most girls, and under lots of pressure.


our relationship was short, but we had lots of fun together. i never told her that i loved her. i could feel that part of her loved me too. i showed her kindness, i bought little surprises for her, i wrote her a poem, flattered her at every chance...


we never had sex though. we did stuff, sure... but i didn't want a relationship based only on that. she was thankful that i didn't.





we broke up after a series of ';mock'; trial exams, which i did fairly well in while she got very stressed and did badly. she said to me she couldnt hold a relationship in our school, but that she really wanted us to stay friends. work really is her top priority at the moment, and I didn't respect this. she later wrote to me, saying ';i'll miss you. i always will'; (she did not know that I love her at this stage).


a week after we broke up it was my birthday. she sent a card, wishing me happy birthday and saying ';with love, forever and always';.


over the holidays, when we had to prepare for big exams, she was very stressed with work. foolishly, i finally told (by text... stupid, i know) her i was hopelessly, madly in love with her. i asked her if part of her felt the same. she replied ';ezio, i dont have time for this, im so busy revising! .of course part of me feels the same but i would rather just focus on my schoolwork';. i kept texting her for a few days, which was also v stupid cuz she never replied, because she was under loads of stress (the easter holidays are basically the revision holidays for kids here in england... very stressful and frustrating)... i sent another text a few weeks later when the holidays were over, and she said ';im really struggling here with work. i may see you after my stress with the exams. please stop texting me Ezio, i really cant handle it any more. please can we just be friends for now';.





lately, things took a turn for the worst... I received some bad news on monday, and I let my heart get to my head. I texted her once more, telling her that I couldn't keep living like this, and (really, really stupidly...) I said ';in a few days my mother will be planning a funeral... I'm sorry Angela';. I didnt tell her exactly what happened, and I don't want to say it on here... but i came very close to ending my own life; i have been enduring pain these last few years (she knows this), and was contemplating giving up.. she got very upset when she read the text, and that's when i realised what i had done and thought i had screwed up any chance of being with her again.





Things brightened up. I went to a psychiatrist, a very understanding and intelligent man. I told him what I had done, and how scared i was of losing her because of a reckless decision. he told me not to worry, and that provided i leave her alone for several weeks now until the exams are over, there is a good chance she will come back...





i know most of you will feel angry, sad or shocked reading this, and tell me to move on. that is the one thing i can't do. sure, i could go out and find someone else... but ive tried that already. she doesn't get much attention from guys, especially not romantic attention... she once said she couldn't understand why ';you're really hot, but you didn't choose some pretty blonde girl'; instead. but to me, she is the most beautiful girl in the entire world, not to mention the funniest, most adorable girl I have ever known. i love her. i'd say it a million different ways if i have to, write every love song or climb to every star in the sky for her... i wrote a poem for her a few weeks after we split, (I don't know exactly, but I think she liked it... I'll post it later if you want)











I know I blackmailed her emotionally, at a time when she was already under lots of stress. I'm so angry with myself. I know there's not a lot I can do now apart from give her plenty of space and be a friend to her, but I was thinking of calling her one evening... just to say how sorry I am, how I should have known better than to play games with her heart... and that I will be there for her, forever and always, that I will wait until the end of time for her if I have to, because I love her more than anything.


After that, I would back off and wait until the exams were over... I would still be her friend, but do not text, call, or go out of my way to contact her... and then see how she feels once the stress has died down





(I know it seems like I'm obsessed, but I'm not... I have experienced ';love'; before in my life, but words can't describe how much I care for her)Teenage Girls: I've got a big problem, I need your help?? (sorry, pretty long)?
Definitely. And if she says that she is too busy then ask her if you can leave a message. Then totally cut off from her. I know it'll be hard but it will be worth it. Because when exams are over, she will listen to your message over and over until it drives her crazy. She will realize that she has something special, and then she will go out of her way to contact YOU.


Good Luck! I hope it all goes well :)Teenage Girls: I've got a big problem, I need your help?? (sorry, pretty long)?
I don't think you should call her or attempt to make contact until after the exams are over. It's true, she's under a lot of stress and you have added more, and at this point I think it would be best to just let her have some air. AFTER the exams are over I do think it would be a fantastic idea to call her and apologize for everything you did, but until then I think it would be best to respect her wishes and wait.


Good luck(:
Hell yes lol you obviously have alot of feelings for her and I think she will understand what you are going through. If you really mess up again tho, just show her this question. This truley shows your love for her
Hmmm... Well it seems like at the moment she's too stressed over exams and that might affect the way she reacts to your call... Maybe keep waiting until exams are over? You really don't wanna annoy her or stress her out even more.. That's just my opinion.
This true story is a hard one, i mean yeah sure everyone has stress from time to time and everyone has some sort of test and exams but this is really hard.


I'm sorry that you have gone through the up and downs of love, but after all we all need to learn our lessons.


My answer to this is, yeah you could call her, after all your still friends, maybe you shouldn't go into to much detail about how much you love her as shes herd it all before.


just be friendly maybe have a joke, try not to bring old memories into it, just be normal.


Maybe at the end of the phone call you should just say '; miss you '; but leave it as that





i'm sorry that i haven't been a massive help.


Good Luck, Hope you guys work it out soon :)


Let me know how it gose?
Call her, say what you want/need to say, then go. If she contacts you, then reply, but leave it after that till all stress is over. Say that you know it's a hard time for her atm, but you just need to get this off your chest. Just be there for her.