How do you love a strong minded black man?

I love the man that I am with, but he doesn't think so. I know he loves me, but in the beginning I pushed him away, and now I am feeling the back lash of this. I want to be with him, and in a sick way he wants to be with m but it might be too late.. What should I do to keep this great man that I have?How do you love a strong minded black man?
Strong minded or pig headed?

You can鈥檛 force anyone to love you back. If he truly loved you, he would understand and be there for you no matter what. If you have to FIND A WAY TO KEEP A MAN 鈥?YOU DON鈥橳 NEED HIM.How do you love a strong minded black man?
I dont...
Are you showing your love to him? Spend quality time with him. Stay faithful. And communication is the key. Actions are stronger than words, so if you really love him, you'll have to show him what a great woman you can be. accept his flaws. don't nag too much. do something you both enjoy together. most importantly loosen up. For all people who are in relationships, I always say, if you got a good man, try to hold on to him. because some people like me are bitter and single and cant find a man for nothing lol! Good luck!



and also, show him that he is appreciated. maybe treat him to something he really likes. if he's good to you, then you have to be good to him.
Go to him, be honest with him. Put your heart into this. Give it your best effort. That is all you can do. And if he is really into you, or wants the relationship. He will come around. And if not, you can find another man. Most black men are strong minded. That is another part you have to be willing to work with. Good luck!
Why did you say, ';in a sick way';?



but anywho, everyone has a preference and to be honest, although I know that there are some very successful black men out there, that's not my preference so I couldn't tell you. I have a thing for white and hispanic guys. I just feel that they are different when it comes to affection but money, education and looks, that stuff doesn't matter because any guy who has it in their heart to be successful can. Race doesn't, can't and never will decide that.
Greetings,

I will assume that when you reference him as being a strong minded blackman, that you are referring to an African American male who is culturally enriched or you are referring to one who is extremely opinionated when it comes to ideas and values that he believes in. It's not difficult to love him, but you must be willing to find out what it is that makes this man who he is.



You must ask him questions about his past experiences in life as it relates to his family; how was he treated as a child, career; what are his views on money and what is it about his professional goals that give him the drive that he may have. you also have to understand where this mans mind is at when it comes to religion. Is he a God fearing man? How important is the church to him? Is it important for this man to have his mate attend with him? Is he one who is just spiritually are vs. your being involved in the church?



without being able to ask you several other questions, I can only assume that this man isn't difficult to talk to. If he is the type who wants to push his values onto you without regard to what your opinions and desires may be, you are going to have to learn to stand your ground. Like i said , it isn't difficult to love a man with a strong mind.... but it is difficult to love a man without ever delving deep into his mind to understand what it actually is that makes him tick.



You mentioned that in the beginning of your relationship you pushed him off. I'm curious to know why you pushed a good man away when you had him within your grasp? In the beginning did you every share with him your concerns as to what you have been through that may or or may have not allowed you to be as open as you should be in starting a union with someone new?



Start first by asking yourself the basics... What is it that is needed from a man that would make me feel whole and complete. What spiritual values are important to me when seeking out a mate? Do I desire to have a man who may be my intellectual equal? Or would i like to have one whom I can depend on and who can enlighten and inspire and encourage me? you are dealing with a man who has strong beliefs in whatever it is that he believes in. He is going to be sturn in what matters most to him. He has certain goals in life that he wants to accomplish, can you see yourself by his side giving him guidance when you see he needs it? Strong men are fully aware that they need a woman, but some want that woman BY their side and some want that woman BEHIND them. Which one is he? Where do you desire to be with this man, behind him or right next to him?



i'm more so presenting questions to you that you should ask youself and that you should ask him instead of telling you what to do in order for you to keep him. You need to know and understand the mind of this man before you ever decide that he is the one for you. To plant a tree, you must first decide which type of tree you want to plant. Once you know the species of the tree you desire to plant in your garden you should always study and learn everything about the seeds before you plant. You don't want any weeds growing in your lovely garden.