Thursday, October 28, 2010

Should love keep me with him?

okay....so i've been dating this guy for six months. and i feel very strongly for him, and he says he does for me. we get along amazing, except for the fact he always is way to sexual with other girls, like comments, oggling them, he just two months ago stopped chatting and cybering online.



he KNOWS how badly this hurts me. i have serious issues with confidence and self esteem. and it hurts so bad so see him look at other girls that way. and then ask me to believe him when he says i'm beautiful?



i've expressed thoroughly how i feel many times, and nothing has changed. i've caught him lying and sneaking around on the computer, on his phone, and in real life.



hes never had a girlfriend before and is twenty one. and was notoriously promiscuous. and so was i before we got together. and we both were for the same reasons, when you please somebody else, you feel good about yourself. but i have changed. i dont even really get turned on by other men anymore, and only have eyes for him. and hes the opposite.



it hurts so bad. and i've tried to be patient, i've tried to be understanding, cause i know where hes coming from, but still....i changed, he should too, its been long enough right?



i feel like we 'could' be great together, but the fact is, i cant handle feeling immense inadequacy all the time, and feeling like i have to impress him all the time, i want to be me. so sorry i'm not a slutty whore.Should love keep me with him?
there's two things you can choose to do...



1) break up move on



2) accept what he is and instead check out people together. show him you are not intimidated by looking at other people. This will show him that you are a great girl and start to feel guilty and start to change.

(ok so i read this in some article don't have the source)Should love keep me with him?
Hi,

I believe that you cannot give love when you have nothing to give. Before we can give something we got to have that something in us. You got to appreciate, love, respect yourself first before giving all these to others. Never allow anyone treat you like you don't matter. Appreciating beauty at its finest is not a problem not to the point that he's flirting with others let alone lie to you. It is good to fight for the one you love despite his weaknesses; on the contrary it is worthless if you are fighting for someone not worthy. There should be friendship in your relationship with your man along with it is trust. We can be ';us'; when we are with friends assured that we will not be judged with our looks and our shortcomings. He should bring out the best in you but in your story, he is wearing you thin. I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but love is painful when you are the only one fighting and wants it to work. It takes two to tango. Explore the beauty inside you and you will realize that your are more beautiful than what your boyfriend sees in you in his naked eyes. Wishing you all the best!

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