Perhaps he is attracted to your spelling and excellent grammar. .How do you stop dating a married man when you are falling in love with him?
Whatever your reason is, my advise is stay away from marriage man.
I can guarantee you one thing...this is going to end BADLY!
STOP!!! you're a homewrecker!
Sorry this just gets me upset! But really stop!
Well, you need to stop dating him...totally break off any contact with him. He is married, which means his obligations are to someone else and NOT you. If you have strong morals and are experiencing a lapse in judgment, then please re-evaluate what this is that you are allowing yourself to be a part of...you wouldn't want your husband (once you have one) to go around with another woman.
MAGIC word married, that should stop you in your tracks
Advise...the longer you stay the longer you will hurt. Get away now, before it gets worse. Honestly...you wouldn't like that done to you!
You just stop it. Cut it off. That is all, no difficult answers here, just blunt, painful ones. He is already MARRIED. You knew what you were getting into. Start thinking with your brain and not your vaginginga.
If he is REALLY serious about you, ask him the truth why he has time for you. There is no legitimate reason to be involved with him to be very honest. He has another relationship that is unsatisfactory, but it is still his primary.
You say you are still falling in love? Then nip it at the bud. It is not an impossible thing. I have been around for a long time, and I have seen this again and again, the girlfriend RARELY wins and if she does, it is usually a very long drawn out painful process. These are lives, not a Julia Roberts movie. Meanwhile, the other wife and any children involved lose out.
Your kids are becoming attached to this guy? Consider their feelings when it must come to an end! Consider his, if he has any, he is ripping HIS children off to play with yours? Why does he bring his son to meet his girlfriend? This is one skewed message to send a young male.
I mean if his marriage is on the rocks, and he is serious about you, tell him you will wait until he is free. Motivate him to take action, meanwhile you are still risking a lot on a situation in which the deck is stacked against you.
Might I suggest that you invest in some grammar lessons whilst you wait for him to do this?
I had ONE rule all my life that has stood me in good stead. NO married men, just not good for the mental health!
To be honest, feminism and playboyism and ';free love'; have truly killed that old fashioned but OH SO IMPORTANT word, ';COMMITMENT';! Marriage should be a for life situation. Now, partners are replaceable and these kinds of things are becoming all too common and it is negatively reflecting on the moral values of our young.
I think you already answered your own question by saying you know you shouldn't be dating a married man. However, if I were in your shoes I would tell him exactly how you feel. Mention to him that you're curious as to why he has so much time for you....maybe he will leave her. You never know. Honesty is always the best policy. You must remember though, if he does leave her, how the two of you met and be on the look-out. Once a cheater, always a cheater...in my experience anyway. Good luck, I hope it turns out well.
I don't know this guy so I can't say what he is saying is true or not...but he is married...what makes you think that whatever he tells you, he is not telling his wife...? Even if he were to leave her for you, what makes you think he won't do it to you?
Most married men won't leave their wives...it's too much of a hassle and too much money...
plus when they cheat and have affairs its to fill and urge...usually in the marriege something is missing.
Wether it's sex or just someone else. Your filling in what he is missing at home. That's it...sure he can get feelings for you and even love you but, for how long...?
I guess until something starts missing in your relationship with him...
tell him you'll continue the relationship when his divorce is final..i bet you'll never hear from him again....
Why not keep your legs closed for a few months? I guarantee he would stop coming by to see you. That's all he really wants and you are buying his crap about loving you.
As many single men as there are in the world, why would you start dating a married one. The bottom line is if he does it to her he will do it to you.
The other bottom line is just get out. It is not healthy at all and if you are a good person you deserve better than a man who is a cheat.
1)Change your phone number. 2) Don't call him. 3) Tell his wife you are having an affair with him. 4) Be the grown-up in this situation.
You need to think about your kids. What image are you portraying to them? You are showing them that no matter what is wrong or right, do whatever you want. Id that really what you want them growing up to believe? No morals?
You ned to tell this guy that you are not going to see him anymore, until his divorce papers are finalized...not just filed, but the divorce has to be completed. Why continue to set youself up for failure? He has a safety net in the fact that if things don't work out between you two, he can go back to his wife.
Be strong. If not for you, be strong for your kids. It has only been 3 months. Better than 3 years.
Good luck
Have you ever heard the word WHORE?
You are a HOME WRECKER !! You need to find a man that's not married ....there is plenty of fish out there!!
Are you prepared for what the wife will do to you WHEN she finds out????
Just who does he tell his family that you are? Do you want to be in a relationship with a man AND a family who considers cheating on a wife to be acceptable? Because honey, if he cheats WITH you he will cheat ON you if you are ever married. Obviously, this is a familial or cultural aspect of his character that is okay with him AND his family. You will ALWAYS be worried that he is cheating on you because you know he is capable of it... he's been doing it with you for 3 months. How do you stop dating him? Tell him NO. Change your number. Stop taking his calls. Stop sleeping with him. Cut him off completely and fill the void with friends who are there for you. It is a relationship that is doomed to cheating...
Listen, there is no way to tell you this gently so I'll get to the point. He's cheating on his wife with you, what makes you think that he's not cheating on you with another girl? Let's say that he divorces his wife, which I seriously doubt he will, he knows who makes his bed and butters his bread, that he's not going to do the same thing to you. It sounds like he's got his cake and he's eating it too. Now what you need to do is to get the heck away from him, find yourself a nice man who is going to appreciate you for who you are. I honestly wished I could have done this in a much gentler manner.
WHY do women who cheat with married men not understand... HE IS CHEATING WITH YOU... What makes you think you're so special that he won't cheat ON you???
He doesn't even think enough of you to MARRY you....
DUMP HIM!!!
If you don't want comments about dating a married man.. don't post questions about it.
if you are going to ask this type of questions, be prepared for some answers you won't like, like the truth.
What to do? For one think of yourself as a better person than how you are behaving. I'm not judging you, because I went through the same thing. It took a long time, but finally said to myself wth am I doing? I wasn't raised like this. Thankfully, I stopped it before it went too far, if you know what I mean. Then, I made plans w/my girlfriends every weekend and made sure I was distracted. I deliberately made him get mad at me because I knew I was too weak. He hasn't called me and I'm too proud to contact him. If you really want to break free from this man you will try as I did. It took a while. But you know what, you will find someone who will dedicate 100% to just you! You don't want to share someone, and you would want someone who's family also respects the sacrament of marriage. Ask for strength and for someone who is single to come in your life! I've just met a great, hot and SINGLE man. I am so happy and you deserved to be happy too! All the best....
My questions is why did you go out with him in the first place if you knew he was married?
How do you stop easy. Just tell him to leave you alone , you do not want to be the cause of his marriage breaking up. YOU are the reason . It takes two to have an affair. If he is unhappy in his marriage let him get a divorce. It will take a year in most states. Do not see him or talk with him until the judge signs the papers. If you are meant to be together he can call you then. Why do you want a liar, and a cheat for a partner. He can't trust you and you will not be able to trust him. Once a cheat always a cheat. He cheated on his first wife he will cheat on you when he gets bored. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the street. If he will not leave you alone , change your phone number, and get a restraining order. If you want the affair to end it will. You do not want it because you are meeting his family. You just want someone to tell you you are not a cheater , you are not the other woman. But the truth is you are the other woman that is breaking up a marriage. You will have to live with that the rest of your life. I hope you have a little voice inside telling you , that you are wrong and you need to stop fooling around with this married man now!!!!!!!!!!
Some men just enjoy leading a double life. In doing so, you need to understand that he does this for him...no you. If he had true and genuine care for you and your kids, he wouldn't put you in a position, where it will eventually end in heartache.
Secondly, you don't really know him. I wonder how his wife rates him as a partner and father, right? Keep on like this and you'll become like his other wife, yet without any legal rights. Don't waste the best years of your life on a losing situation. As much as it may hurt, you need to give yourself the gift of self-respect and freedom from a man who would take advantage of your loving nature.
I suggest you break it off and do not entertain any contact in the future. As nice as he seems, there is no win for you and your kids deserve better.
He might have so much time because his wife is at home packing up to leave. I can't imagine that someone you met in his family didn't call and tell his wife. That's pretty bold. Have you asked whats going on in his marriage that he has so much time to spend with you? Remember, if he'll cheat on his current wife, he'll cheat on you. Cheating is less about whats going on in a marriage and more about whats going on inside a person. Ask him the questions you want answers to. Ask yourself if you can be with someone that can live a lie.
i was in your shoes somewhat but the guy that i was with told me that he was divorced and i saw the paper, come to find out that was from his first marriage.
He spend all his time at my house with my kids too.
I was with him for about 11/2 yr till i fond out that he was still married to his second wife. I asked him he said no, so i called his sister that lived out of Town, and not in so many words she told me that he still was, i was mad at him for lying, I called his wife and i told her that i was with him, I told her that i was sorry that i didn't know that he was married, if i knew that i would never got with him,.
If he is spending ALL this time with you, are your sure he's married? Or is he telling you this to keep you at bay?????? But of course the first thing I'd have never done is date some guy who claimed to be married. Hon, if you want a relationship, you need to find guys who are available, not men who are or claim to be married. He's just in it for a booty call, whether he's married or just telling you he's married. Hon, you're getting used, and you can't be a door mat unless you lay there and take it...............
If he's married, what you need to find out is what is it about your personality that attracts you to a guy really off limits. This kind of thing is like being in love with a priest...He's very safe, and very unavailable. In your place I'd get a session or two of counseling to find out why unmarried men are not attractive... perhaps you have some long buried hang-up about commitment, because no married man or a man who is telling you he is married, will give you a commitment.... he already has one! And if he is single, but claiming to be married, then for sure he is using you, and does not want any true involvement. (Why would a married man invite you to meet his family.... don't you think it would get back to his wife...... something fishy here, hon....................)
You Know I am sick of this site, its like a bunch of priests in here, all with an agenda, ';dont fall in love' :you are married'; blah blah, what is this a freakin church? yuck, cummon everyone give yourself a second thought its not all about being ';faithful'; its also about a person ';a human'; who is missing the love the touch and the closeness of another human, she is no nympho, it happens all the time, it takes a person who knows himself or herslf to like another and live this one life we have with someone who would love you and when you look in their eyes you see that they care for you and a whole lot more.
As far as the how real this person you are seeing is is left to your intellect to figure out, but the fact that you ventured seeing him shows how in need of a person you are.
Wish you the best, do what your mind and heart tells you dont listen to these crazy preachers.
Arn
Stay away from married men:
1.) If he leaves his wife, you're a home wrecker
2.) If his wife finds out you're a home wrecker
3.) At home he is treating his wife differently, you're a home wrecker.
4.) He's not going to leave his wife to be with you
5.) Sounds like he wants the best of both worlds, so he doesn't respect you either
Seriously, you can do better, waaaaayyyyy better............ pull the plug!
I bet the sex is good it always is when you know you're doing wrong and if he was not married it probably would not be all that great i think you get a rush off these type of relationships i'm willing to bet this is not your first affair with a married man and won't be your last. you have a problem seek help.
he is a low down peice of scum, you can't build a relationship on rotten ground, and your relationship is rotten from the core, introducing you to his relatives, even her son!--taking away whatever dignity his poor wife might have before others, they are all bastards--nobody thought it was wrong for him to have lover?? they all have very low standards, everything is done at his wife's expense.he is clearly an adulterer--and you are a home wrecker but if it wasn't you he'd find another,the main attraction you 2 have--is the deceit part. how can you sleep with another girl's man?
Just stop. You know he is married - he does not belong to you. How would you like it if someone did that to your husband. You will never trust him either if he leaves his wife for you. You will always be wondering if he is doing the same thing to you. Why are women such bit****. Put yourself in his wife's place. If we woman would stop fooling around with married men - THEN THEY COULDN';T CHEAT.
when you finally realize you are and always will be on the losing end....you will have a chance to have a life again.....w/ out this man.
No comments:
Post a Comment