Teenage Girls: I messed up big time, I need your help?? (pretty long story)?

we're both 17. we dated for a few months. i fell in love with her the moment i first kissed her forehead and held her in my arms, and told her everything will be alright when she fell ill.



she is very hardworking. very very into her schoolwork, not like most girls, and under lots of pressure.

our relationship was short, but we had lots of fun together. i never told her that i loved her. i could feel that part of her loved me too. i showed her kindness, i bought little surprises for her, i wrote her a poem, flattered her at every chance...

we never had sex though. we did stuff, sure... but i didn't want a relationship based only on that. she was thankful that i didn't.



we broke up after a series of ';mock'; trial exams, which i did fairly well in while she got very stressed and did badly. she said to me she couldnt hold a relationship in our school, but that she really wanted us to stay friends. she later wrote to me, saying ';i'll miss you. i always will';.

a week after we broke up it was my birthday. she sent a card, wishing me happy birthday and saying ';with love, forever and always';.

over the holidays, when we had to prepare for big exams, she was very stressed with work. foolishly, i finally told (by text... stupid, i know) her i was hopelessly, madly in love with her. i asked her if part of her felt the same. she replied ';ezio, i dont have time for this, im so busy revising! .of course part of me feels the same but i would rather just focus on my schoolwork';. i kept texting her for a few days, which was also v stupid cuz she never replied, because she was under loads of stress (the easter holidays are basically the revision holidays for kids here in england... very stressful and frustrating)... i sent another text a few weeks later when the holidays were over, and she said ';im really struggling here with work. i may see you after my stress with the exams. please stop texting me Ezio, i really cant handle it any more. please can we just be friends for now';.



lately, things took a turn for the worst... I received some bad news on monday, and I let my heart get to my head. I texted her once more, telling her that I couldn't keep living like this, and (really, really stupidly...) I said ';in a few days my mother will be planning a funeral... I'm sorry Angela';. I didnt tell her exactly what happened, and I don't want to say it on here... but i came very close to ending my own life; i have been enduring pain these last few years (she knows this), and was contemplating giving up.. she got very upset when she read the text, and that's when i realised what i had done and thought i had screwed up any chance of being with her again.



Things brightened up. I went to a psychiatrist, a very understanding and intelligent man. I told him what I had done, and how scared i was of losing her because of a reckless decision. he told me not to worry, and that provided i leave her alone for several weeks now until the exams are over, there is a good chance she will come back...



i know most of you will feel angry, sad or shocked reading this, and tell me to move on. that is the one thing i can't do. sure, i could go out and find someone else... but ive tried that already. she doesn't get much attention from guys, especially not romantic attention... she once said she couldn't understand why ';you're really hot, but you didn't choose some pretty blonde girl'; instead. but to me, she is the most beautiful girl in the entire world, not to mention the funniest, most adorable girl I have ever known. i love her. i'd say it a million different ways if i have to, write every love song or climb to every star in the sky for her... i wrote a poem for her a few weeks after we split, (I don't know exactly, but I think she liked it... I'll post it later if you want)







I know I blackmailed her emotionally, at a time when she was already under lots of stress. I'm so angry with myself. I know there's not a lot I can do now apart from give her plenty of space and be a friend to her, but I was thinking of calling her one evening... just to say how sorry I am, how I should have known better than to play games with her heart... and that I will be there for her, forever and always, that I will wait until the end of time for her if I have to, because I love her more than anything.

After that, I would back off and wait until the exams were over... and then see how she feels once the stress has died down



(I know it seems like I'm obsessed, but I'm not... I have experienced ';love'; before in my life, but words can't describe how much I care for this girl)

I know what I tried to do to myself was wrong, but I did not do it to try and make her feel guilty. There are things that have happened in my life that I don't want to discuss on here.



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...you will get over her!!! you need to get over her!!! she is not good for you!!!Teenage Girls: I messed up big time, I need your help?? (pretty long story)?
Id rather read the Bible.
There must be something wrong with her. If you will do ANYTHING for her and you are actually quite good looking, then is she blind? Maybe she thinks you're too good for her? Maybe she doesn't like something about you, but you can obviously change that. She seems like a complete nerd to me. Not in that bad way, but schoolwork and work taking over her whole life? That's crazy. I think she needs to learn how to manage her schedule and put you somewhere in there.



What I would say to do is instead of texting, try calling or talking in person. Talking in person is better, because it would be kind of weird if she never picked up the phone but if she knew that you called. You should first apologize to her for sending all those texts. Oh, and also maybe she stopped liking you because you are too clingy. It sounds like you might be a little clingy.