What should i do for him?

i dated this guy for just a few weeks, but it seems it was long enough for him to fall for me. oh, dear that sounds ever so conceited, we were very close.(we're both 29). i like him a lot and care for his feelings, but there was no 'magic' and being as though he was getting rather serious rather quickly i had to end it; more for his own sake of getting really hurt than anything else. i knew it wasn't going anywhere, wasn't going to go the distance, maybe if he hadn 't been so full-on it would've lasted longer but still....much as i care for him i ended it this weekend.

he was ever so much more upset than i ever would have predicted. cried a lot and told me he loves me.

i would love to keep this man in my life, just as friends, im missing him terribly already, but.....

do any of you think this is going to be possible?

he's dropped off the face of the earth at the moment, wants to be left alone. how do i reassure him that he's done nothing wrong and there's nothing wrong with him?What should i do for him?
dunno love. you obviously care a lot about him....

leave him alone for a while, perhaps he'll decide that just being friends is good for him... there again maybe he'll decide you're a cow and he hates you. you cannot control what goes on inside his head or try to second guess/pre-empt it.

that's the trouble with men though aint it? they seem to think that just being friends means they've moved down in your estimations somehow, when in fact it just means you wanna know them forever, without all the messy stuff that gets in the way of that.

maybe he's low in confidence and looking for love.... thought he'd found it with you... perhaps if he gains some self esteem and meets someone else he'll appreciate how important and precious a good friendship can be.

unfortunately, i don't think there's anything you can do to make him feel any better about it all though, he'll have to get there by himself.What should i do for him?
go to his place. meet him and tell him all you have to say. goodluck
You should just tell him and be forward with him and make sure he knows that you just want to be friends.... cause i went threw some crazy relationships and i am still friends with all my ex's... so good luck!
there is no right answer to this one.....what he needs is time. Probably why he hasn't got in contact, wants to sort out in his head where he goes from here.

Eventually he'll decide what he wants to do, might take him a week, might take a few months, it's one of those things that you can't really rush..

Went through something similar myself, woke up one morning and suddenly everything made sense.......it's more to do with the initial shock. If he did fall for you the it may have come as one hell of a shock and that's what he's trying to get sorted..

Don't think that he's deliberately ignoring you.

If anything tell him...tell him all the reasons you've listed here, (and maybe steal some of Joeylos too!) even if it's in an email...after all, some things are a lot less complicated to say in writing, and then he can decide whether he wants to reply or not.

Good luck

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