Teenage Girls: I've got a big problem, I need your help?? (sorry, pretty long)?

we're both 17. we dated for a few months. i fell in love with her the moment i first kissed her forehead and held her in my arms, and told her everything will be alright when she fell ill.





she is very hardworking. very very into her schoolwork, not like most girls, and under lots of pressure.


our relationship was short, but we had lots of fun together. i never told her that i loved her. i could feel that part of her loved me too. i showed her kindness, i bought little surprises for her, i wrote her a poem, flattered her at every chance...


we never had sex though. we did stuff, sure... but i didn't want a relationship based only on that. she was thankful that i didn't.





we broke up after a series of ';mock'; trial exams, which i did fairly well in while she got very stressed and did badly. she said to me she couldnt hold a relationship in our school, but that she really wanted us to stay friends. work really is her top priority at the moment, and I didn't respect this. she later wrote to me, saying ';i'll miss you. i always will'; (she did not know that I love her at this stage).


a week after we broke up it was my birthday. she sent a card, wishing me happy birthday and saying ';with love, forever and always';.


over the holidays, when we had to prepare for big exams, she was very stressed with work. foolishly, i finally told (by text... stupid, i know) her i was hopelessly, madly in love with her. i asked her if part of her felt the same. she replied ';ezio, i dont have time for this, im so busy revising! .of course part of me feels the same but i would rather just focus on my schoolwork';. i kept texting her for a few days, which was also v stupid cuz she never replied, because she was under loads of stress (the easter holidays are basically the revision holidays for kids here in england... very stressful and frustrating)... i sent another text a few weeks later when the holidays were over, and she said ';im really struggling here with work. i may see you after my stress with the exams. please stop texting me Ezio, i really cant handle it any more. please can we just be friends for now';.





lately, things took a turn for the worst... I received some bad news on monday, and I let my heart get to my head. I texted her once more, telling her that I couldn't keep living like this, and (really, really stupidly...) I said ';in a few days my mother will be planning a funeral... I'm sorry Angela';. I didnt tell her exactly what happened, and I don't want to say it on here... but i came very close to ending my own life; i have been enduring pain these last few years (she knows this), and was contemplating giving up.. she got very upset when she read the text, and that's when i realised what i had done and thought i had screwed up any chance of being with her again.





Things brightened up. I went to a psychiatrist, a very understanding and intelligent man. I told him what I had done, and how scared i was of losing her because of a reckless decision. he told me not to worry, and that provided i leave her alone for several weeks now until the exams are over, there is a good chance she will come back...





i know most of you will feel angry, sad or shocked reading this, and tell me to move on. that is the one thing i can't do. sure, i could go out and find someone else... but ive tried that already. she doesn't get much attention from guys, especially not romantic attention... she once said she couldn't understand why ';you're really hot, but you didn't choose some pretty blonde girl'; instead. but to me, she is the most beautiful girl in the entire world, not to mention the funniest, most adorable girl I have ever known. i love her. i'd say it a million different ways if i have to, write every love song or climb to every star in the sky for her... i wrote a poem for her a few weeks after we split, (I don't know exactly, but I think she liked it... I'll post it later if you want)











I know I blackmailed her emotionally, at a time when she was already under lots of stress. I'm so angry with myself. I know there's not a lot I can do now apart from give her plenty of space and be a friend to her, but I was thinking of calling her one evening... just to say how sorry I am, how I should have known better than to play games with her heart... and that I will be there for her, forever and always, that I will wait until the end of time for her if I have to, because I love her more than anything.


After that, I would back off and wait until the exams were over... I would still be her friend, but do not text, call, or go out of my way to contact her... and then see how she feels once the stress has died down





(I know it seems like I'm obsessed, but I'm not... I have experienced ';love'; before in my life, but words can't describe how much I care for her)Teenage Girls: I've got a big problem, I need your help?? (sorry, pretty long)?
wow.


you really love her dont you...


i think i know what you mean by '; shes not like the rest of the girls'; us girls feel the same way too.


i think you did freak her out a little by what you sed about being suicidal. if it were me , i'd feel guilty of putiing you in that stage so heres some advice to you..


first call her up, dont text because calling will tell her that your serious, and say that your sorry and it wa wrong of you to even think of harming yourself. tell fer how you feel once more but also let her know that you understand her needs at the moment and wil respect her privacy.


next wait a little before you start talking to hre, yes, you can wave at the hallways but not get too 'lovey dovey'. when all exams and everything are finished, slowly get in touch with. dont speed it up cause it mite seem to fast for her. take things slow, and since your the romantic type of guy, start off by giving her small creative gifts that show her you still care. as time passes, you and her will get more comfortable with each other and ten you can start giving her poems again...


best of luck


:]Teenage Girls: I've got a big problem, I need your help?? (sorry, pretty long)?
I think you should tell her how much you care and then back off till exams are over. She'll come. Don't play with her emotions. Girls have a lot of emotions playing with them hurts a lot.
Maybe you could try studying with her? It gives yous some time together, and she will be able to study with a smart guy, and that will improve her grades?!
Based on your question I would guess you make things too complicated. I mean really, your question is 950 words long and describes going to a Psychiatrist because you acted stupidly in your relationship.





Give her some space and move on with your life. If you sit around waiting for her, or try to shape yourself to suit her, you'll more likely than not smother her and she'll reject you.
Bro, tell her that you need to talk to her... talk to her personally.. face to face... **** texxt messages.. tell her that you want to be part of her life.... not to be a problem, but to be the boyfriend that is gonna always support her.. no matter what.. then tell her some romantic things... i cant help u with that by the way because those words have to come from ur heart not from mine... if it doesnt work just give her time... good luck man!
The best thing right now is to leave her alone, but I think you should really explain what happened in the first place. She has to understand that you were just missing her so much that you could bare the fact that you were apart. Right now, I think you should be focusing on your exams too instead of worrying what might happen. The future is the future you can't tell what's going to happen. So right now focus on your exams like she is. That will take your mind off everything. The exams will end. Then when there is no stress on any of you talk it through, apologise if you have to. I can tell you love her, and she does too. If you two do love each other then you will always forgive each other. Good luck, remember what I said, focus on your exams too!