FELLOW MEN ONLY (NO WOMEN!): When you've won over the girl of your dreams, how do you keep her with you? :)?

I'm a 20 year-old guy who was seeking advice from fellow men, particularly ones older than me, on what makes your relationship particularly successful!



I think a lot of books and general advice focus more on ';getting'; the girl you want, but so few actually explain what you're supposed to do in a relationship to make it successful, and keep the love and romance going well after you've captured your heart.



So what sage and heartfelt advice can you give that kept your woman with you through the good and the bad? :)FELLOW MEN ONLY (NO WOMEN!): When you've won over the girl of your dreams, how do you keep her with you? :)?
Maturity requires one to realize that there is truly no such thing as a ';girl of one's dreams';, and you can bet that whoever you end up with, you are not likely to be the man of her dreams, either. There may be a slight euphoria at the very beginning of a relationship where there is such a reciprocal feeling, but it will not last...that's just life.



Realizing this, though, takes some of the pressure off in trying to ';keep'; a relationship together. Don't expect things to always be perfect, because they won't be; in fact, if they just manage to be a case of more good than bad, you are doing well. See, loving someone--really loving them--means loving them, warts and all, through good times and bad....mostly the bad. I would rather have someone realize I am far from perfect, and love me anyway, than have them think I am perfect and end up being disappointed.



I guess what I am trying to say is that if there is any magic ingredient in relationships, it is the knowledge of each other's faults, and the acceptance of them....find someone whose faults are compatible with yours, and stick it out with them for the long run.FELLOW MEN ONLY (NO WOMEN!): When you've won over the girl of your dreams, how do you keep her with you? :)?
Everything you did to get her, you keep doing once you have her.
THATS A VERY GOOD QUESTION IT IS A MORAL QUESTION WHEN YOU FINALLY GET THE GIRL YOU EVER WISHED FOR WHAT DO YOU DO TO MAKE EVERYTHING ALRIGHT WITHOUT DISAPPOINTING HER

WELL I GUESS YOU SHOULD TRY EVERYTHING AND TRY GOOD AND HARD CUZ IF I WERE YOU AND I WOULD LOST THE GIRL THAT I ALREADY HAD I WOULD JUMP FROM A BUILDING
compromise. don't think you're always right. listen listen and listen. not obey like a dog would, but listen. girls tend to say one thing but mean another. it's up to you to interpret what she really means. this next bit of advise may seem veyr business like but sometimes a relaitonship is veyr much a business transaction - establish a common objective and realize you both want the same thing and just keep that in the forefront in everything you do. if you both really want that same thing, you'll find ways to make it work.
the way each of my ex boyfrends tried to keep me under there thumb.... was to run my hole life an always tell me wat to do.... an act like they owned me... but it never worked.... all they did was drive me away from them...
One night, spend some serious one-on-one time with her, THEN...give her the best toe-curling, screaming orgasm of her life, better still, a WHOLE SERIES of them!!!

She'll NEVER leave you!
first of all, u haven't won the girl of ur dreams. That girl is only in ur dreams. Having said that, u r young and need to realize that what u found is a girl u really like. Treat her well, but don't stumble all over urself trying to place her on a pedestal. Women hate that despite whatever they might say because it comes off as kinda pathetic. Behave more as if u both got a good thing going. Also, do not be needy or overprotective or get all jealous when she's not with u--might as well push her into another guys lap. And don't be a jerk either-that whole ';chicks dig guys who treat them like crap'; approach only works for a little while. Moderate ur behavior towards her. Just treat her like a worthy human being, but one that u love.
Keep doing what you were doing to win her heart!

And throw another log on the fire to keep it burning!

good luck to ya!
How long have you two been together? They say that the first two years you are both in the ';in love'; stage. After those two years, you start to see each others faults and differences. I would recommend the book ';The Five Love Languages';. It will let each of you know how to communicate with each other the way that each of you understand and will show each of you how to make the other feel loved.

LIke the guy said before, listen to her. When she has something to say, especially how she is feeling, listen. As guys we like to fix our mates problems, but that might not be what she wants. I learned that the hard way. Listening is key. Ask her leading questions about how she is feeling. This will show her that you truly are understanding of her feelings. Good luck!
You have to do several things. First, your relationship must stay in the forefront of your lives, and it can NEVER stagnate.You must keep things inside and outside the bedroom fresh. Regular date nights, vacations, whatever it takes. Next, the tried and true things. Trust and trustworthiness are an absolute must. And Communication can never fail. Respect and dedication to the relationship are also a must. If you have to tattoo them to your forehead, commit birthdays, anniversaries, and any other special days to memory, and NEVER miss them. Doing so tells them they're not special to you any more, and just part of the furniture. That's absolutely death to a relationship.

Good Luck