Am I being so selfish for not giving a man sex and love?

Me, I am 38.

My cousin, she is 50 something.



And we are happy being independent and single, not dating anyone.



She doesn't want man because she dislike men, how men treated women. Yes she is a man-hater. She hasn't been with a man

in years..................



Me, I just don't find myself attractive.... I think I am so ugly.

IMy naked body looks awful....

A man told me I look okay... I don't believe him.



So I just be on my own...



I am not a man-hater or anything...

I like men but they deserve better.



It is unbelieveable how hard to get men out of my life....



Now I got another man bothering me... I am

thinking about getting a restraining order on him to keep him away...

I'm vulnerable.



Men are causing too much drama around me, I don't want

attention and people mad at me and hating on me....



Why I have to have a relationship with someone? Sex ain't that great.

It just gives me a headache.



No I am not a lesbian.



There are million of women and million of bisexual/gay men out there,

he can choose....

Why me?



Single ladies, have you ever been in this situation before?Am I being so selfish for not giving a man sex and love?
It sounds more like you need someone close to you to offer advice as what you'll get online is inevitably over-generic. I agree with the previous answerer that you might not have met the right person yet. There's also an element of a self-fulfilling prophecy when you feel bad about yourself. If you can convince yourself that there's something wrong with you then you'll always question why someone likes you.



Almost everyone thinks that there's someone prettier, more handsome, richer, more settled, funnier, more intelligent etc than themselves but realise that the rich tapestry of life is so complicated that finding out why someone likes you when you don't like yourself can lead to the unhealthy presumption that there must be something wrong with them. The next time someone expresses an interest try and think that there's some reason that they're done that to you and not to the next person and take the positives from that. The more you can do that the more positive you'll start to think.



Good luckAm I being so selfish for not giving a man sex and love?
let's just say you just haven't found the right person yet..both gay and straight people go through these things.
That is just fine that you're not with anybody, you are your own person, and can do as you please without consequence of another life, brain, opinion always there to help you make your decisions. If you're doing fine in life without a significant other; so be it, be selfish and focus on yourself. in my opinion. You don't need a relationship with anybody. However, it's great to have someone you like always by your side and supporting you, sex isn't everything.





But you need to stop putting yourself down! Take what you have and make yourself believe it's fabulous in every way! You have to accept who you are before you can expect someone else to.
It sounds like you're insecure. What you don't realize is that the men who see you and want you obviously don't think you look bad, and if they get you naked they'll be so glad that you're naked that they won't care if you aren't perfect. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. How you look is not important, love is not based around looks attraction is, and obviously there are some people who find you attractive. And maybe, if you'd get close to someone they'd help you sort out your insecurities and raise your self-esteem.