Also, the thai women that only want a farang husband.. They dont sell their bodies at the bar, but.. They are absolutely no different than a gold digger. Just like Anna Nicole Smith married that billionaire old man. She has no understanding of you, never will. There will only be 2 things. Sex, and money, that keep you together.
I am only 24, I have been in thailand for 7 months. Why is it that people who should have a lot more experience than me are falling for this horse crap? What they are feeling is not love. Its not 100% lust either. Its a mix of desperation, lust, ignorance, and a bad bullzhit detector. Pull your heads out of your asses guys! They dont care about YOU, and thats what it takes to have a real relationship. Their affection for you is financially driven!Why do tourists fall in love with thai women?
Thai Bar Girls seem to be a favorite topic of yours. Most of your posting here are on the subject. Is this all you know about Thailand? Get out of the bars and see what else the country has to offer.Why do tourists fall in love with thai women?
seems like someone got dumped by a bar girl - there are plenty of happily married thais and foreigners here in Thailand, you ignorant fool. And for your information, a white person is a 'farang', indians and middle-easter origins are 'kaag' and blacks are 'muud' or 'dum' -... fool.
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Its the Americans and Europeans,who fall in love with the Thai women, for the simple reason, the women in there country will not give them love and respect given by the Thai girls.The moment you meet a Thai girl,and she likes you, she will do anything for you, and I suppose that amazes the guy.Its only a very few people who actually fall in love.Most of the guys pretend to be in love to have a good time, and once there back home, everything is forgotten.
I think you like to tell big stories. I am sure your related to Jimbo.
They look exotic,act sweet and are different. Many men on holidays deposit their brain/common senses at immigration when entering Thailand. Back home they wouldn't fall for the Ladies of the Night!
i'm only 24......been in thailand nearly 7,or is it 8 months.You obviously know all the answers and understand all human relationships.Are you related to Oprah by any chance?
Anyway thanks for your concern but I can handle my life without the rantings of a mysogonist boy showing me the 'truth',no matter how well meant
Most of these guys,probably including myself,know what the score is.I was married at a young age because I was in 'love' and that lasted until reality kicked in.Whatever I have now I understand the realities and am mature enough to handle them
Thanks for your warnings,I didn't know only western women were perfect
bravo daniel.....you know exactly where i'm coming from.although i wouldn't neccessarily describe myself as an old fool just yet
You must have had a couple of hard landings,if you do not like it here why have you been here for 8 months. Many of these farangs you are talking about know what they would be dating back home, old grand mothers. what is marriage in the states you support a women for companionship and sex. Love has left the relationship after a few years, when you are not around they have someone on the side also.
the only difference that here in Thailand it is their job to keep you happy and they do a good job of it and they are young and beautiful, you will not understand the feeling for another 40 years. My brother came to Thailand after a very lonely 15 years in Mexico on his ranch with 50 hetares of land.I told him about Thailand and last year he died after spending 5 happy years in Thailand.His Thai wife of 4years was at his side, He did not die alone. Leave all of your precieved old fools alone, as they know what they are doing, get out of Bangkok, Pattaya and Phuket and see what the rest of Thailand is like, I have lived as the only non-Thai in a villiage out of Nakhon Sawan for 5 years and it is great. I love Thailand.
because they are AWESOME.. get it? They are AWESOME in the way they treat you, they are AWESOME in the way they dress, in the way they talk, in the way they walk, in the way they make love, in the way they smile at you, in the way they smell after a green curry dinner, in the way they laught after getting drunk at night.. they are freaking awesome.
Now.. if you think a ';prostitute'; isn't entitled to love somebody..well , that's your problem.
If you think EVERY thai girl treat their man like they treat you.. that, again, is your problem.. maybe after all, apart from you being a ';farang'; you have really nothing else to offer to a girl.
having said that. .there are tons of older/less ';fortunate'; men that don't have the experience and the necessary self control not to fall for the thai angels.. it might sound shallow but it is a fair exchange.. I saw it sometimes in the hotel in the morning.. 60yo farang and young thai girl.. they have breakfast together.. they hardly talk.. SURELY she's in for the money, but he's living an emotion that he could never get in his own country.. they both are happy..I say let it be, they don't harm anybody.
Dear, dear, dear Adventure, is your world in Thailand in a bar? Is that the only place you know for the last 7 or 8 months that you are there? Why have you not left yet? Maybe in a couple of days when you arrived? Why do you label all the Thai ladies as bargirls? Maybe these are the only Thai ladies that you ever come across. And I am sorry that you had been meeting the wrong ones too.
Just for your info, I had met a number of bargirls and I do get to know them, well enough to be told of their families back in the villages. So I do know how these people are.
Maybe you should step out of the bar and go out and see the real Thailand. In the daytime. Nighttime, you are not going to see much, The reality is in the day, away from your bars. It will be like waking up to your girlfriend who had no make-up.
Then can you see the real beauty of the people and the country. Come on, sleep at night and wake in the day.
You sound like someone hurt you real bad by a bar girl. Life is full of surprises. You gotta take the good with the bad.
I had four guys build a 8 x 20 addition to my house for $150 dollars in labor, they worked two weeks. I bought them lunch each day and whiskey on the end of each week. I didn't feel taken. And they were glad to have the work.
Please visit Isan and Laos and stay in a local neighborhood before you start speaking about what people have to do to earn a living in Thailand. That girl maybe supporting 8-10 relatives. Rice is a cheap commodity and people put in long days of hard work to grow enough rice to last 6 months. And I'm sure she doesn't always 'want' to do the work she does but when your out of rice...
Maybe its time for you to pack it in.
From the sound of it, it seems that you had a bad experience with a bar girl. And Thai women are not all bar girls. Dont confuse yourself with the two. Im sure there are nice and beautiful Thai women out there. The bar girls have a job to do -- to entertain and make the men happy. And I dont think it's wrong for their clients to feel grateful for that.. and even mistake that for love. It's not a BG's fault when a farang will fall for her.
7 months in-country doesn't make you an expert. If you were, you'd already know the answer to your question.
The video link tells you why some/many male tourists come to Thailand and fall in love. It also (thru Nid who's interviewed on Lamai Beach) explains why the Thai women come to work in bars.
If Thai people lie to you, it is because they don't respect you. Quid pro quo.
I don't have that problem. Partly because I don't spend much time in bars and partly because I have a fair understanding of Thai culture. So, when I'm in bars, girls are stunningly honest.
So, let me explain to you: Not all Thai BGs or “working girls” are the same, but most Thai “working girls”, especially those of rural descent, are in that line of business as parts of their families, to which they have obligations.
Many girls are working mothers with children to support and almost all feel bound by the (morally) obligatory repayment to their parents of the meritorious debt the girls incurred at birth. Respect and obedience to elders, trust in their wisdom and protection, and the need to return favors received are all strong themes in traditional Thai culture.
A Thai woman can – even if working as a prostitute – pursue virtue and merit making. It is not the exchange of sexual services for money that makes a Thai girl “ruined”. It is when girls turn their backs on their families they are condemned by society. If they are good daughters and bring money back to their families, people disregard the source of the money. It’s just their karma that they are prostitutes and a person’s karma must be accepted.
There is no way to alter one’s fate. Happiness is accepting one’s position. Happiness is being with people who understand and respect that position. “Peu-un pod” is the tight “family” group a working girl belongs to. She refers to the other girls in the group as her sisters, meaning they are as close as real family members are. A girl has to show “kreng jai” and respect to elder sisters in her peu-un pod; the same respect she owes parents and people of higher rank in society.
The girls working at Patpong and similar places and associating with farang on a daily basis may become “ruined” by distancing themselves to Thai values and rules of behavior. They become westernized.
Girls working in Thai nightclubs and karaoke bars dressed in long traditional Thai silk dresses are never called “ruined” just because they sell sex.
Of Thai moral values, the obligations towards the family come first. But Thai people also despise public nudity. When they talk about the bad girls in Patpong, they explicitly point out their disgust for the sex shows, but even the go-go dancers in their diminutive bikinis are offensive to Thais.
So, even though prostitutes (as in all societies) are considered “low class”, there is in a Thai cultural context a distinct differentiation between different “types” of prostitutes depending on their behavior (virtuous, respectful, “Thai” or not) and job task (e. g., sex show performer or lounge hostess).
Like others who appreciate Thailand and Thai culture, I understand that most WGs are human beings (many with a heart of gold) that have been dealt some tough circumstances at birth but are trying to make the best of what they have … but I also admit to not think highly about the WGs that have gone “hard core” (as I call them) and left all traditional Thai values behind in a single-minded pursuit of money. It seems to me you've only met ';hard core'; bar girls during your 7 months in Thailand and do not have any experience with the Thai life outside the red light districts catering to tourists.
The general rule for sex tourists is that when they step off the plane (in Thailand, Philippines, Dominican Republic, Brazil or where ever), their IQs drop by 40%.
Why do you care about that if you are not one of them?
Erh, I wonder.
Alright, first time I actually answered a question in the Thailand category!
I think most foreigners fall in love with a Thai lady because Thai ladies take care of their bf and husbands in a totally different way than a western women. They ';take care'; of their significant other in a much more detailed and time consuming way, if that makes any sense.
At first I was naive thinking that there's no way the women here should accept being the lower sex and catering to her husband....when I was in SE Asia, alot of ladies there told me that they not only accept this role, they prefer and want it.
Well firstly, why do you have to quote ';men';? men are men.. there is no '; '; to men!!! Wait a minute? Are you a lady boy? Maybe a tranny? Or a chick with a dick? Is that why you hate girls so much?
I am a asian female staying in Thailand and for sure, I do not work in a bar nor hang around looking for Farangs.
Anyway, exactly how is it your business? If you are so smart and know exactly what you want in life, then just live your life... Why bother about the choices other ppl take?
My guess is you lost your partner, father or grandfather to a thai and its just biting the **** out of you.. (if i am wrong, i apologise)
Just leave the thai ladies alone and stop being such a ***!!!
I (American) married a Thai woman 3 years ago. We are quite happy. She is a practical, conservative, ambitious, warm, loving woman who puts family first.
Seeing your hostile posting, I doubt that anyone can make you happy.
Have only been in Thailand for 7 months he claimed to be the expert of allThai knowledge.... Try having been born there like myself.
Old man and young girl walking hands in hands, you must be thinking like you said, of course. It can only be 2 things involved which are sex and money. Thing is, why not when the man is old, got some money to enjoy himself, good company for whatever, life is short, etc.
I see no problems with that.
Can't really blame the girl for that 's what the old man wants. There's demand and supply (loads of it sometimes!)
As a non-bar person like myself, had studied in Phuket, had discussed with tourists, had looked down those ladies ';gold diggers';, ';working women'; and other rude names I gave them for destroying other Thai ladies' images because I know there are jerks out there who think all Thai women are the same. It gave me a lot of stress. I can't really wear anything too revealing to the nightclubs because these idiots might think I was one of those. In general, prostitution has put lots of tensions and strains on ';normal'; girls in Thailand for sometimes.
You are 24, still young. You might not have enough money to waste like that. Therefore, your visions are limited where money concerned. I was thinking just like you. By the way, you can try putting yourself in an old man's position. Things might be clearer why.
to begin with, i think its a very shallow statement to think that they're all prostitutes or gold-diggers. they never really went out to promote themselves, nor asked to be wooed by a foreign man, it was the foreign man that got smittened by the novelty of having an exotic asian partner/spouse. whatever they may be doing in the entertainment joints, is all in the name of making a living.
Thai people in general are a happy lot of people, they adopt positive attitude towards life in general, regardless how grave matters may seem. the common phrase u will probably hear ';life still goes on';.
generally, in life we're all charmed %26amp; attracted to positive characteristics, and it's no doubt how %26amp; why Thailand seems 1 of the prime choices for holiday escapes. not to mention, their politeness %26amp; hospitality makes any foreigner feel all the more comfortable despite being aliens in Thailand.
at the end of the day, the Thai women should not be blamed, for it is the foreign men that confused lust for love.
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